Hey everyone, I've never posted here before, but I'm hoping you can help me with a question I have about a guy I met this summer.
Back in July, I went on a date with a guy I met on okcupid, and went home with him for amazing sex. Afterwards we chatted for a long time about everything, and he ended up telling me he's a dom and wanted to know if I liked being submissive. I had thought about it before, so I asked what he meant, and we pretty much had sex for the rest of the night while he talked about what he'd like to do to me. Again it was amazing, and my first time with multiple orgasms.
So anyway, I was super turned on by him and his talk about dominating me, and we started having sex once a week or so. He would do little things like shove me against the wall and pull my hair and spank me, but also go down on me for an hour and make me cum 4 times. He said his plan was to get me more and more "hooked" on him and then he would be "really" dominating me. When I would ask what he meant by that, it scared me a little bit to talk about taking it further than we already were. (for example, he talked about tying me up and blindfolding me and fucking me with another guy, or making me "please his every desire" which was kind of vague and I'm not sure if I'm into that). So things ended up fizzling out because I pulled away a little bit and our schedules were way different too.
But, this past week I was feeling really horny and I texted him to see if he wanted to meet up. He said absolutely, and then we started sexting back and forth a bit, and I said something like "I can't wait for you to take control of me again" and he asked if I meant that I wanted to be his sub. I don't know if I do!! I'm worried that he is more into the kink than I am, and I just like a little bit of playing around and fantasizing. What if he feels I'm leading him on by going along with the beginning part until it gets to be too much for me? But I have been fantasizing about some of the things he said he wanted to do to me, and it gets me really hot. I just wonder if it's the idea of it that makes me hot, but in reality it would be too much for me?
The good thing, though, is that he seems very trustworthy and like he would respect whatever I am comfortable with.
Whew, sorry for the long story, but I could use some advice!
Back in July, I went on a date with a guy I met on okcupid, and went home with him for amazing sex. Afterwards we chatted for a long time about everything, and he ended up telling me he's a dom and wanted to know if I liked being submissive. I had thought about it before, so I asked what he meant, and we pretty much had sex for the rest of the night while he talked about what he'd like to do to me. Again it was amazing, and my first time with multiple orgasms.
So anyway, I was super turned on by him and his talk about dominating me, and we started having sex once a week or so. He would do little things like shove me against the wall and pull my hair and spank me, but also go down on me for an hour and make me cum 4 times. He said his plan was to get me more and more "hooked" on him and then he would be "really" dominating me. When I would ask what he meant by that, it scared me a little bit to talk about taking it further than we already were. (for example, he talked about tying me up and blindfolding me and fucking me with another guy, or making me "please his every desire" which was kind of vague and I'm not sure if I'm into that). So things ended up fizzling out because I pulled away a little bit and our schedules were way different too.
But, this past week I was feeling really horny and I texted him to see if he wanted to meet up. He said absolutely, and then we started sexting back and forth a bit, and I said something like "I can't wait for you to take control of me again" and he asked if I meant that I wanted to be his sub. I don't know if I do!! I'm worried that he is more into the kink than I am, and I just like a little bit of playing around and fantasizing. What if he feels I'm leading him on by going along with the beginning part until it gets to be too much for me? But I have been fantasizing about some of the things he said he wanted to do to me, and it gets me really hot. I just wonder if it's the idea of it that makes me hot, but in reality it would be too much for me?
The good thing, though, is that he seems very trustworthy and like he would respect whatever I am comfortable with.
Whew, sorry for the long story, but I could use some advice!