Eyesopen1012
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- Sep 27, 2016
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I'm in a relationship with a man that I am very fond of and completely wish to continue getting to know him. I've been confident in bedroom abilities until recently.
I'm very open to pleasing a lover in the way that they like to be pleased or in this case, add some pain to heighten orgasm. (Or at least how I like to view BDSM)
In our history, sex started slow but became mind blowing as he opened up and revealed incredible skills. In multiple play areas, he is the best of my life with abundant orgasms 3 different ways. AMAZING
It sounds like I am the first LTR relationship that he has opened up BDSM tendencies with. I'm pretty certain he was a part of that community as well as sought out professional services.
We had our first play session in BDSM where I was going to try to be dominant as well as add some stinging spanking. I spent hours planning it and thought it would be a blast. He was cooperative in act for myself being dominant but not in spirit. He assures me that he loves being submissive which I think means in act and attitude.
It kinda frustrated me and he brought out the concept of "SAM" where someone intentionally irritates the other so spanking will be more severe. It did kinda work as concern for not overdoing did fade.
When adding paddling and taking him to orgasm, it was his longest most powerful orgasm to date. This is what hooks me to continue exploring.
Here is where I get really confused. I kind of expected enthusiasm and ooo, let's try this next. He's an introvert and cautious about bringing this into our relationship.
Do things look different once being into BDSM for 15+ years? How is it possible to not be enthusiastic in attitude when the sex gets better?
I'm very open to pleasing a lover in the way that they like to be pleased or in this case, add some pain to heighten orgasm. (Or at least how I like to view BDSM)
In our history, sex started slow but became mind blowing as he opened up and revealed incredible skills. In multiple play areas, he is the best of my life with abundant orgasms 3 different ways. AMAZING
It sounds like I am the first LTR relationship that he has opened up BDSM tendencies with. I'm pretty certain he was a part of that community as well as sought out professional services.
We had our first play session in BDSM where I was going to try to be dominant as well as add some stinging spanking. I spent hours planning it and thought it would be a blast. He was cooperative in act for myself being dominant but not in spirit. He assures me that he loves being submissive which I think means in act and attitude.
It kinda frustrated me and he brought out the concept of "SAM" where someone intentionally irritates the other so spanking will be more severe. It did kinda work as concern for not overdoing did fade.
When adding paddling and taking him to orgasm, it was his longest most powerful orgasm to date. This is what hooks me to continue exploring.
Here is where I get really confused. I kind of expected enthusiasm and ooo, let's try this next. He's an introvert and cautious about bringing this into our relationship.
Do things look different once being into BDSM for 15+ years? How is it possible to not be enthusiastic in attitude when the sex gets better?