Consent: an anonymous, multiple choice poll

[Que]

I got my eye on the crows.

I'll be the first picked off in this horror movie. I will never see them coming.

 

[InsightRiot]

There is a trend towards a “clinical literal” in the verbal ask for everything paradigm that makes me uneasy.

Intimacy is a dance and decent dancers not only know what consent sounds like in words, they can taste it, see it, smell it on their lover.

Consent can be given, but it can also be ever so artfully taken in such a way as it feels like a gift. Maybe that is why bdsm upsets the linear people.

I joined some dance classes with a few new friends I made. I'm the only one who likes the american rumba class, they all like the line dancing. I asked them why and all I got was a bunch of, "I dunno, I just like it better."

I figure it's got to be the intimacy, because that's my favorite part about it. Most of the people in the rumba class are older. The westcoast & eastcoast line dancing are full of younger people.

 

[JohnnySavage]

More dolf talking about the pussy she's had and less CandiQue.

 

[oralaccents]

I joined some dance classes with a few new friends I made. I'm the only one who likes the american rumba class, they all like the line dancing. I asked them why and all I got was a bunch of, "I dunno, I just like it better."

I figure it's got to be the intimacy, because that's my favorite part about it. Most of the people in the rumba class are older. The westcoast & eastcoast line dancing are full of younger people.

I can’t imagine dancing without the unspoken possibility of sex being on the mind menu.

 

[beew]

More dolf talking about the pussy she's had and less CandiQue.

lol..

 

[CandiCame]

More dolf talking about the pussy she's had and less CandiQue.

How the fuck did Candi x Que get a ship name before Candi x Luk?

 

[Que]

More dolf talking about the pussy she's had and less CandiQue.

Word.

Acceptable also would be pointless commentary on lez action porn.

 

[oralaccents]

A woman called at 8pm to ask if she could show me her new hairdo enroute home from the salon.

I mixed her a cocktail and seduced her.

There was never any verbal consent, just pleasure.

I feel sorry for those who would call that rape.

 

[fma20fma]

hi

Thst is hilarious "corpus CAVERN-o-sum. Body cave o-some.

Who says that gynecologist have no sense of humor.

I've seen those for the diagrams before of course and so I haven't in my head what it looks like but it occurs to me to the part mentioned above that I can't type again without laughing is probably what was causing the stimulation to I don't know maybe the backside of the actual a little clitoris button for her. But only on the right side there was no such stimulating effect on the left side.

I remember probably I don't know maybe the fourth or fifth girl I was with this little bitty Sonoran spinner chick was very sexual, very much a lights on sort of girl. I had already realized that Everyone likes a little different touch so I had developed a an idea that if they could show me with your fingertips what they like with a tongue that that would work. For some reason though it doesn't seem to work because what they do with their fingertips is different than what they like with their tongue. Especially this one so then frustration I'm like well he'll let me see if I can just duplicate what she's doing with her fingertips with my fingertips. And I'm damn good with my fingers. I was the kid that was always reaching behind the bellhousing to get that last nut off the transmission because I could I can see with my fingers I really tactical but despite her showing me me trying it her showing me me trying it for some reason what looks like what she's doing is not what she's doing and it's pretty interesting how a little subtly can make all the difference.

My dick is not that way. I might need to guide you to the exact spot on the frenulum that is the most sensitive but really from there on it's just a matter of whether I believe that you really want it. Because then it becomes mental aspect for me but the actual tactical part is fine with a fairly wide variety of technique.

I just thought the vagina is for copulation and pleasure.

 

[Que]

I just thought the vagina is for copulation and pleasure.

They are also useful for smuggling drugs and small weapons into prisons.

 

[fma20fma]

hi

They are also useful for smuggling drugs and small weapons into prisons.

new use for an old organ.

 

[Que]

Proper organ fingering: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=tdMZbbr1YKI

 

[oralaccents]

They are also useful for smuggling drugs and small weapons into prisons.

Aren’t most prison drugs shipped anally?

 

[Que]

Aren’t most prison drugs shipped anally?

Drugs and anal are more Luk's baliwick. I only know about drugs like Phrodeau knows about guns and weather.

 

[oralaccents]

Drugs and anal are more Luk's baliwick.

I didn’t lob that as an easy luk base hit, but yeah, he probably has the straight poop on that one. He usually logs in when he gets to work.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

I am not going to quote everyone, who believes you need verbal consent to move forward sexually. I don't know about other men, but it's easy to read a woman's reaction. If she pulls away, clenches up, too quiet, eyes look scared, then you need to stop and confirm with her, if it's okay to push forward. If am tongue kissing my woman or any woman I'm with, i am not going to ask to kiss her cheek, go down to her neck, suck and bite her a bit. If she's moaning heavily in a pleasurable way and pushing her body closer to me, then I know I'm good to go to the next level. Once at the next level, I guage her reactions again. As far as incorporating tools and toys, I think you might need consent.


Usually before having sex with a woman, there has been conversation about sex, non physical foreplay, soft touches to the hand and that's before the first kiss occurs. I don't just walk up to strangers and grab pussy lol, there's a lot mental and physical foreplay, before that happens.

Example: If am eating her pussy and want to eat her ass, I am not going to ask, I'm going to take a lick and gauge her reactions. Think about how that sounds out loud. Try to stop eating a woman's pussy and say " excuse me, could I please taste that delicious looking ass of yours ? ". You'll learn quickly that isn't the time to talk lol.

If you ask permission for every step you take, sex would be so boring and you would have to stop between every action, instead of smoothly flowing moving to next act in unison. Most women I've dealt with, want a confident man, that knows what they're doing and they trust. I would do anything to harm her and would try to ease her into something new, if she allows it


Edited to add: I've been with women who know how to speak their mind, they have and can tell me " no, I am not into that " and I'll move on to something that's more comfortable to them.

 

[oralaccents]

I would do anything to harm her

Ooops.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

Ooops.

It slipped

 

[CandiCame]

I am not going to quote everyone, who believes you need verbal consent to move forward sexually. I don't know about other men, but it's easy to read a woman's reaction. If she pulls away, clenches up, too quiet, eyes look scared, then you need to stop and confirm with her, if it's okay to push forward. If am tongue kissing my woman or any woman I'm with, i am not going to ask to kiss her cheek, go down to her neck, suck and bite her a bit. If she's moaning heavily in a pleasurable way and pushing her body closer to me, then I know I'm good to go to the next level. Once at the next level, I guage her reactions again. As far as incorporating tools and toys, I think you might need consent.


Usually before having sex with a woman, there has been conversation about sex, non physical foreplay, soft touches to the hand and that's before the first kiss occurs. I don't just walk up to strangers and grab pussy lol, there's a lot mental and physical foreplay, before that happens.

Example: If am eating her pussy and want to eat her ass, I am not going to ask, I'm going to take a lick and gauge her reactions. Think about how that sounds out loud. Try to stop eating a woman's pussy and say " excuse me, could I please taste that delicious looking ass of yours ? ". You'll learn quickly that isn't the time to talk lol.

If you ask permission for every step you take, sex would be so boring and you would have to stop between every action, instead of smoothly flowing moving to next act in unison. Most women I've dealt with, want a confident man, that knows what they're doing and they trust. I would do anything to harm her and would try to ease her into something new, if she allows it

So if somebody was sucking your dick you're 100% cool with them sticking their tongue up your ass? Out of nowhere?

I just want to confirm that that's how you're out here living your life.

Because I learned pretty quickly that is ABSOLUTELY the time to talk. You shouldn't really stop talking during sex, like as a thing.

What the fuck is it with this board and so many people having dead silent sex? I didn't even know that was an option because of how fucked up it is.

Like you literally, in your heart of hearts, think it's LESS hot to hear somebody say, "I'm gonna eat that ass like it's a goddamn thanksgiving dinner" than- seriously I can't even fathom the alternative. What is it? Dead fucking silence and then suddenly there's a tongue in your ass? No warning? Like maybe even no indication that there was gonna be assplay so you didn't prep for it? Like y'all are really out here rollin them dice like that in what can be a literal 'eat shit' moment?

Really?

Like it is kinda rapey but also y'all are just not out here livin your best lives and it's sad.

Also 'stop between every action' like you really can't talk and fuck at the same time? Jesus Christ I thought I had no standards but then I read shit like this and I think, "Oh, I guess I do." If you really are incapable of talking and fucking at the same time you ain't got no business trying to fuck. You don't have the sense for it.

Confident men DO ask. Confident men are the ones standing there going, "You want this dick, baby? Where you want it? You want it bad?"

Y'all who are dead fuckin quiet don't hear the answer. You don't get the, "Yeah baby fuck me so hard, tear me in half, I don't wanna be able to walk, use me, fuck me, fill me up, yeah, right there, just like that, yeah fuck me!"

Like what the fuck are y'all doin? You're like the third person in this thread to say that they don't talk during sex, don't ask questions, don't communicate. How? What kind of like... do you use those Jewish fuck blankets too? Them mormon underwear? Like is this a fucking chore to you? Like does your partner physically disgust you and you're both just trying to get through this because you want kids so you turn all the lights off, stay dead quiet, then she pulls her legs up and you run to the bathroom to get the test to see if it 'took' because if it did then thank god you ain't gotta try again.

Because that's really the only scenerio I can see where you wouldn't be constantly talking and communicating during the sex.

Like even in bdsm where I'm gagged the dom is talking and I'm making confirmation noises.

Like even if this hellscape portrait you have painted was socially acceptable it would be godawful for everyone involved.

Also, if somebody is looking at you like they're scared of you- don't fuck um. Like yes, there needs to be a conversation, but not about whether or not they want to go forward, about your whole damn relationship. That would be one of those, "Well I guess we ain't sleepin tonight because this is a whole damn situation that we need to address and it's gonna be addressed. What's wrong?"

Like we're all adults, this ain't nobody's first rodeo, so if somebody's scared it's not like they're scared because it's the very first dick they've ever seen and they're scared it ain't gonna fit. There's some deeper issues at play there.

Edit: Sorry I went full redneck on that, I reread it and realized I somehow typed an accent. I've been up all night and I'll be up all day. Just Jesus lord this is buckwild to me and it KEEPS coming up. I don't know how y'all do this. It sounds like the absolute worst.

If that was the only kind of sex I could have I'd rather be abstinent and jerk off to porn of people who at least look like they're having fun like hand a god.

 

[oralaccents]

So if somebody was sucking your dick you're 100% cool with them sticking their tongue up your ass? Out of nowhere?

That's different.

 

[Luk]

Drugs and anal are more Luk's baliwick. I only know about drugs like Phrodeau knows about guns and weather.

I didn’t lob that as an easy luk base hit, but yeah, he probably has the straight poop on that one. He usually logs in when he gets to work.

 

[dolf]

You can make a brain-dead guy O by sticking electrodes up his arse, which I wouldn't count as proof that the living dead dig anal. And I'm sure every guy here has had an unwanted boner at some point in his life. A body's physical response to stimulus isn't proof of the mind's willingness.

 

[SoulAssasin247]

So if somebody was sucking your dick you're 100% cool with them sticking their tongue up your ass? Out of nowhere?

I just want to confirm that that's how you're out here living your life.

Because I learned pretty quickly that is ABSOLUTELY the time to talk. You shouldn't really stop talking during sex, like as a thing.

What the fuck is it with this board and so many people having dead silent sex? I didn't even know that was an option because of how fucked up it is.

Like you literally, in your heart of hearts, think it's LESS hot to hear somebody say, "I'm gonna eat that ass like it's a goddamn thanksgiving dinner" than- seriously I can't even fathom the alternative. What is it? Dead fucking silence and then suddenly there's a tongue in your ass? No warning? Like maybe even no indication that there was gonna be assplay so you didn't prep for it? Like y'all are really out here rollin them dice like that in what can be a literal 'eat shit' moment?

Really?

Like it is kinda rapey but also y'all are just not out here livin your best lives and it's sad.

Also 'stop between every action' like you really can't talk and fuck at the same time? Jesus Christ I thought I had no standards but then I read shit like this and I think, "Oh, I guess I do." If you really are incapable of talking and fucking at the same time you ain't got no business trying to fuck. You don't have the sense for it.

Confident men DO ask. Confident men are the ones standing there going, "You want this dick, baby? Where you want it? You want it bad?"

Y'all who are dead fuckin quiet don't hear the answer. You don't get the, "Yeah baby fuck me so hard, tear me in half, I don't wanna be able to walk, use me, fuck me, fill me up, yeah, right there, just like that, yeah fuck me!"

Like what the fuck are y'all doin? You're like the third person in this thread to say that they don't talk during sex, don't ask questions, don't communicate. How? What kind of like... do you use those Jewish fuck blankets too? Them mormon underwear? Like is this a fucking chore to you? Like does your partner physically disgust you and you're both just trying to get through this because you want kids so you turn all the lights off, stay dead quiet, then she pulls her legs up and you run to the bathroom to get the test to see if it 'took' because if it did then thank god you ain't gotta try again.

Because that's really the only scenerio I can see where you wouldn't be constantly talking and communicating during the sex.

Like even in bdsm where I'm gagged the dom is talking and I'm making confirmation noises.

Like even if this hellscape portrait you have painted was socially acceptable it would be godawful for everyone involved.

Also, if somebody is looking at you like they're scared of you- don't fuck um. Like yes, there needs to be a conversation, but not about whether or not they want to go forward, about your whole damn relationship. That would be one of those, "Well I guess we ain't sleepin tonight because this is a whole damn situation that we need to address and it's gonna be addressed. What's wrong?"

Like we're all adults, this ain't nobody's first rodeo, so if somebody's scared it's not like they're scared because it's the very first dick they've ever seen and they're scared it ain't gonna fit. There's some deeper issues at play there.

Edit: Sorry I went full redneck on that, I reread it and realized I somehow typed an accent. I've been up all night and I'll be up all day. Just Jesus lord this is buckwild to me and it KEEPS coming up. I don't know how y'all do this. It sounds like the absolute worst.

If that was the only kind of sex I could have I'd rather be abstinent and jerk off to porn of people who at least look like they're having fun like hand a god.

I meant to say microscope and flashlight lol, not microphone

 

[CandiCame]

Sorry, I just looked over this thread because I knew there was another post about somebody having this weird "the Quiet Place monsters might get us but we have to repopulate to keep the human race from dying out so let's make this as shitty as possible" kind of sex and it is so incomprehensible to me that I scanned the thread again and the posts I was thinking of were this same dude.

But like even by Quiet Place or whatever that movie was called standards like go behind the waterfall and have real goddamn sex like I hope he pops back up with some kind of justification because my goddamn mind is blown.

Seriously can you imagine that? Like I both eat ass and have my ass eaten pretty regular and I can't fathom not asking if we're down for assplay because it's not a matter of 'if' it's a matter of 'when'. Like it's gonna happen. There's gonna be shit. Like if there is shit currently in that ass, the assplay is gonna stimulate it. Like even if you were gonna stick your dick up there THAT would make more sense than your tongue, again, not morally, but just from a standpoint of practicality, because I'd rather have shit on my dick than my tongue. I wouldn't have to taste it, I wouldn't have it inside my actual body, I can just hose my dick down. Like what is this motherfucker doing with his life? I'd have to question my whole life choices. Dude I mighta had burritos for lunch, you don't fuckin know, you ain't with me 24/7. I mighta had a stirfry dish that includes both broccoli AND corn.

Like even if we took out all morality and pretended like this wasn't a shitty thing to do on moral grounds the incomprehensible terribleness of the sex should be enough to teach you to fucking talk to the other person during a social activity. Like did he just get it wrong and then nobody corrected him? Has he been going his entire life having sex so bad that I can't even conceive of it?

Sorry, this will be my last post because again, I shoulda seen this kind of batshit bullshit coming on this thread but that 'don't talk during sex' thing is just... god I feel so bad for everyone involved. I wanna march in, kick the door down the Trojan man and teach them that it can be better, that they don't have to settle for that.

 

[CandiCame]

https://vocaroo.com/i/s1b87yKTKrRj


I meant to say microscope and flashlight lol, not microphone

Dude, do you smoke cigarettes or just eat um? Is that why you don't wanna talk? Because you're embarrassed?

Also, you're bad at sex. Like straight up.

I get that you're trying to sound ridiculous, but you sound like Goofy trying to conceive Max when you make fun of me, and I respect that. That's actually pretty sweet and credit where its due.

You're not aggressive. Again, aggressive guys are the ones who talk. You're passive if that's how you're fucking, to the point that you can't even ask for the shit you want. This isn't a "everyone likes sex differently" thing, this is a "you are bad at sex" thing. You can't talk and fuck at the same time because it "disrupts your flow" your flow is weak as fuck.

No, you don't need to test, she'll know if she's gonna shit. Like, she'll be able to tell you. You just ask. That whole thing can be avoided if you fuck like a human person.

Also, don't be so chickenshit. Don't be scared of the teeth. A little bit of teeth grazing across the head or shaft can be great. They're probably not gonna bite your dick off.

I'm sure we have had different experiences. Because I've had good sex at some point.

Edit: Also, this sultry bitch didn't answer the question about whether or not he wants 'surprise it's tongue in your ass' time.

Which doesn't shock me. I bet he understands consent pretty well when it's about HIS body.

Kinda like how all those straight guys who act like grey areas exist seem to see thick fuckin lines when dudes hit on them. Straight guys understand consent when they're in gay bars. That flips some kind of switch in their fucking heads.