Making Anal Sex Easier

[fellingi00]

Hey, everyone!

I have a girl interested in anal sex but am having issues with her taking me. We've researched ways to relax, use generous amounts of lube, and go slow for a while making sure to open her up. She still can't take it though. My size is larger than average at around 7 1/2 inches, 8 inches depending on the mood, ha, but not so large that it's not doable. I've seen women and men, for that matter, take things the size of a baseball bat. Any tips in this area? Maybe some stories about what you did to take a larger member, or what works?

Thanks!

 

[kurrginatorX]

She should start with a regimen of stretching her anal tissue with small probes and butt plugs, moving up in size as she is able to comfortably accommodate each. It could take a couple of months before she is ready for you, so don't be in a hurry to rush it. Be sure to use plenty of lube.

 

[yukonnights]

She should start with a regimen of stretching her anal tissue with small probes and butt plugs, moving up in size as she is able to comfortably accommodate each. It could take a couple of months before she is ready for you, so don't be in a hurry to rush it. Be sure to use plenty of lube.

What kurrginatoX said ^ The main thing is do not rush it. In addition to what is said above, you can also use your fingers. Start with one, and swirl it around just inside her opening. You'll feel the outer sphincter ring muscle there...it will relax more and more as you slowly make your swirls larger...then two fingers, etc. There will be a second ring barrier deeper in, so don't get rambunctious...slow and easy wins the game.

 

[Jada59]

What kurrginatoX said ^ The main thing is do not rush it. In addition to what is said above, you can also use your fingers. Start with one, and swirl it around just inside her opening. You'll feel the outer sphincter ring muscle there...it will relax more and more as you slowly make your swirls larger...then two fingers, etc. There will be a second ring barrier deeper in, so don't get rambunctious...slow and easy wins the game.

That's pretty much how my first time was. Actually he gave me quite a few orgasms prior, then spent a good two hours opening me with his fingers and tons of lube.

You might also try a glass dildo. Make sure to use one either meant for the anus or that has a flat piece at the end so it doesn't go in too far. They are very smooth and should go in easily. Try using this on her a few times before you try your cock.

 

[CandiCame]

It's a group of muscles, so like any muscle group, you just have to exercise it to get it flexible. My bf is bigger than you and I'm tiny, and it took us a WHILE to get where we're at, and he wasn't my first. It's just... some things are big.

And I'll tell you right now that you really do need to uh... do your stretches because here's some real talk a lot of people might not tell you- I've torn before. Like we went to the hospital because there was blood. A LOT of it. And it's a good thing we did because they gave me antibiotics and told me it was one of the worst places to have an internal injury because- fuck it, I'm gonna be blunt- that's where you shit. And you can get shit in your blood stream, and it can cause a blood infection, and you'll die, and then people are gonna be like, "How'd he die?" And your poor boyfriend is gonna have to be like, "Dick too bomb." And that's not the legacy you want to leave.

So go slow. Use WAY more lube that you think you need, don't get cocky, and work out with toys of varying sizes first to work your way up.

Also, on the subject of lube, they do many special anal lubes that heat up to help you stretch, but I can't think of any to recommend off the top of my head, I just know that they do exist. But they do make special lube for that and they sell them at Hustler because that's where I got my first lube like that.

Also, I think there is a legit limit? I've seen people do fisting but like... that's terrifying? I don't think I could do that...

Also relax. I've found that if I get tipsy I get more flexible. You can't really tense up as much if you're shitfaced, but like, I don't recommend getting straight up shitfaced, even though I've done it, in good conscious, because that's a whole consent issue and idk where y'all are at with that.

 

[Peaches4him]

Newbie here

Peaches here just asking what is the usual time frame to keep plug inside

 

[Jada59]

Peaches here just asking what is the usual time frame to keep plug inside

You can keep it in you for as long as you want.

 

[twister947]

My experiments with plug wearing for longer periods ended with the muscles relaxing and the plug falling out. Not a total failure, because it offered a clue for those wanting to try anal sex.

 

[Jada59]

My experiments with plug wearing for longer periods ended with the muscles relaxing and the plug falling out. Not a total failure, because it offered a clue for those wanting to try anal sex.

Might depend on the kind of plug. I have tried some that will fall out. Others don't.

 

[twister947]

Might depend on the kind of plug. I have tried some that will fall out. Others don't.

No doubt. Point being, this offers a path to relaxation necessary for comfortable anal sex.

 

[bigmahi]

Are you guys telling me that getting a running start and hopping on dry was the wrong way to go? It all makes sense now. If only my primary care physician would read this thread.

For a fee, I'm happy to be....

 

[twister947]

Are you guys telling me that getting a running start and hopping on dry was the wrong way to go? It all makes sense now. If only my primary care physician would read this thread.

For a fee, I'm happy to be....

It's only a finger. Man up, Nancy.

 

[bigmahi]

You haven’t met my doctor, lol!

 

[sazzyslut69]

Tiiiiime. Lots and lots of time, and lube. It is slow but you'll get there

 

[Dbscbigi]

Anal sex

As in most things in life, practice, practice, practice ! And lots of lube...

 

[Snowbunnie12]

If she really wants to do it I am sure with some practice over a few sessions she will have it down ;-) atleast that’s how it was for me! Gotta be in the mood though and that mood is rare

 

[Lascivity]

Being patient and working up to it with graduated plugs is a great idea. As is using actual anal lube. Regular lube has a tendency to dry out, which can make anal more painful and difficult. Using lube specifically designed for anal makes the experience that little bit smoother.

 

[JuiceyFruit]

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[LaBelleDameSansCulotte]

No two bodies function the same. Therefore, it's best not to make your partner even more uptight and stressed about anal sex by comparing her body's reaction to what you may have seen on porn, have done with past lovers, or have heard about on a night out with the guys.

Your sole focus should be on making sure your partner is as relaxed and aroused as possible when it comes to anal penetration.

If you now she enjoys other kinds of sexual stimulation, why not try layering one or several sensations together while you slowly penetrate her with a well-lubed finger or plug. Ensuring she's very aroused will go a long way in helping her be more receptive.

Likewise, verbal encouragement, in a soothing manner—as well as reminding her to breathe—is a good way to ensure the process is less anxiety-ridden. (You might also try giving her a full-body massage, concentrating heavily on her erogenous zones, to make sure she's very relaxed at the onset.)

However, patience and creating an anxiety-free setting is likely to be your best bet. Seeing to her comfort is worth the effort if it will results in the two of you being able to enjoy that facet of sexual interaction. There's no rush. So, take your time and enjoy the process...which is sexy in and of itself.

Best of luck!

 

[AssfuckBrenda]

What the others have said above ,

Let her control how much of you she is taking , doggie style for example, let her move back and forth while you remain as still as you can .

Let her move at her own pace, as she "hopefully" relaxes she will move with more .

Your not making a porno , just because you see it in a video doesn't mean she can do it also , take your time SLOW is the word of the day .

 

[Nezhul]

Someone here said something about stretching the tissue - um, I hate to break it to you, but you don't "stretch" anything down there. It doesn't grow bigger with practice. It's a ring of muscles that is pretty big to begin with, and can widen up to accommodate any cock or even fist... that is, if the body learns to relax those muscles. Which is a skill.

What you often don't see in Porn, BTW, is an hour-long prep before the scene where they start with fingers and small toys and gradually work the female talent up over time. Then they wipe most of the lube off (often keeping some of it inside), and roll the camera, and that's where you get this smooth penetration that barely takes a minute. Sometimes, they even take the cock in as easily as during vaginal sex.
This is not realistic. Again, what you don't see is 30 to 90 minutes of prep work.
And in all honesty - with the right technique pretty much anyone's sphincter will relax if it's warmed up for an hour.

 

[twister947]

This.^^^

 

[Nezhul]

Forgot to add real advice:
1) spend time on foreplay. At first it will take a long time each time. As you keep engaging into anal play, it will gets easier and faster. For me personally, anal sex simply doesn't really worth the effort. A small butt plug is pretty much the extent of what I really want to do there.

2) if you want it clean - have enemas before it. Again, this really puts wind out of my sails. I simply don't think it's worth it.

3) do it as often as you can, if you really want to learn and make it part of your routine.

4) have several differently-sized toys on hand. Standard smooth vibrators or dildoes work really good for it.

5) have patience.

p.s. By "you" I mean "you as a pair". Really though, it's one of those things that requires more effort out of her, and that's dependent on her physiology. For many people this may be just too much hassle for a really dubious pleasure. I hope that if that's the case for her - you can understand and accept that, instead of pushing hard for it.
Personally, I think that pussy is MUCH more interesting than the asshole.

 

[twister947]

Every rule has an exception...I knew one woman who would pull my cock out of her pussy and stick it in her ass. Just that quick, no prep. She had relaxation mastered. I marveled then, still do.

 

[Nezhul]

I'm sure there are such girls. But all I'm saying that even porn actresses who do it professionally - more often than not require some prep time.