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I like that hypothesis quite a bit! That goes hand in hand with how males are repressed in our society in terms of desires, feelings, etc....
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I like that hypothesis quite a bit! That goes hand in hand with how males are repressed in our society in terms of desires, feelings, etc....
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That is supposed to be "not so binary"!
I'm also not a fan of monogamy or marriage actually - both are products of patriarchial control over female sexuality - wish we could do away with them both, at least as normative ideas/practices. If you want to be monogamous, wonderful, but the imposition on everyone else is not healthy...
That we are born bi and are trained as children to repress it in order to conform to society's norms is how I've had it figured for a while. Thanks to a bible belt upbringing, it has taken me most of a lifetime to come to terms with the idea that I'm me and I like to having sexual relationships with both men and women. It's just part of who I am.
If I ever get married again, I'm going enter into a polygamous marriage with both a man and a woman.
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We seem to spend more time unlearning than we do actually just living and enjoying!
I'm curious, while I certainly get and am quite open to a polygamous marriage - why bother getting married? What is it about "marriage" that makes it important to reproduce as a social institution???
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Same thing here, sex is vanilla when it is there at all. Looking for a little extra.
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I know exactly how you feel, it's the same here. Sometimes I think that it's all the predisposition to porn and seeing so many cocks shoot such wonderful loads of cum. I've been searching for a man in my area that's in a similar situation for hand jobs and oral fun.
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Seems to be a fairly common situation! Never thought of blaming all my porn watching though!
I've actually entered into a number of affairs with women over the years to fulfill my sexual needs, but find my fantasy world keeps expanding to new and different kinds of experiences. For me, it is my imagination that drives me creating (and hopefully experiencing) new and different kinds of contexts in which encounters unfold. This is why the idea of just a hook up off of c/l is the least interesting to me (besides the risk factors), but there is no context to the meet up in most cases. Finding the few that might be into something a bit more kinky is hard, particularly given my age as everyone wants someone no more than their early 40s usually.
It isn't just fantasy though, I actually seek a friend, someone to enjoy getting to know socially as well, to just hang out with now and then as a change of my routine.
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I am in a long term relationship, love women, but I need to fuck men from time to time. I haven't fucked a man in a while and constantly think about it.
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It had been a fantasy that increasingly filled my imagination over the past few years, but since reconnecting here on Lit this past week, the desire is consuming me! Finding so many like-minded others and such sexy TSs and CDs is a real turn on. I just wish someone lived in my part of the world...
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It had been a fantasy that increasingly filled my imagination over the past few years, but since reconnecting here on Lit this past week, the desire is consuming me! Finding so many like-minded others and such sexy TSs and CDs is a real turn on. I just wish someone lived in my part of the world...
I started with transexual and crossdressers, then men. I love all of the above.
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It had been a fantasy that increasingly filled my imagination over the past few years, but since reconnecting here on Lit this past week, the desire is consuming me! Finding so many like-minded others and such sexy TSs and CDs is a real turn on. I just wish someone lived in my part of the world...
that's exactly my problem. Can't seem to find anyone in my little corner...
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Count me in with a lot of you. I am married and bicurious. I would love to get a cock in my mouth but do not want it to come from some sleazy guy that who knows where he has been. Still hoping to somehow meet a guy that fits me and we can share cocks and loads of cum.
My wife has pretty much quit having sex due to health reasons. It's been about a year since our last time and I've found myself desiring sex with men again. I'm still interested in women, but my preference has shifted to where I would prefer to suck some cock and fuck some guy's ass. I guess it does all cum full circle.
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I'm intrigued that you say "again"! Seems that many had some youthful bi explorations they are rediscovering/reconnecting with. I seem to have missed out on those opportunities in my youth, so this is all new to me...
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I think its quite common in youth - at least it was over here in the UK! me and my best friend often stroked together, and each other, until we sort of grew out of it and discovered girls!
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UK here also and I agree. In fact I was a little more experimental in my teens and 20's but marriage sort of closed that off. Still dream of cock though
marriage does seem to have that effect of curbing sexual desires and explorations, which seems such a shame...
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I have now made a new year's resolution to become 'uncurbed'
I am sure you can find many on here open to helping you fulfill such a resolution!
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Exactly! I finally come to terms with who I am and what I like and everybody lives so far away or wants to role play online, etc. That's fine but only goes so far.
Here's hoping for 2018 to allow more doors to open.
My back door is open just a crack, you'll have to squeeze in. And out. And In. And out. and innnnnnnn
Short version to escape the mod's wrath. My sex life started with a male cousin my age and we did each other almost daily for a few years. Not for a lack of desire, but I didn't "score" with a woman until my 20s. My first marriage was kind of open in that we agreed we could fuck whoever we wanted, but the other had to be there. She used to bring guys home for MMF threesomes. Sometimes overnight and a few weekend camping trips in secluded areas.
After we split up, just once in a while with my cousin when he'd get into it with his wife and spend the night at my place.
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And join in.
I've sucked two cocks and on both occasions, it was just me and him. And it didn't do what I thought it would for me. I just know I'd enjoy it more if a woman was involved; sharing, encouraging, suggesting...
I've sucked two cocks and on both occasions, it was just me and him. And it didn't do what I thought it would for me. I just know I'd enjoy it more if a woman was involved; sharing, encouraging, suggesting...
