Your first time (domestic discipline)

[LIT_LOVER]

I would like some input from both Doms and subs, regarding your "first time". Specifically, how did it come about? Was it with a partner you were with already, neither of you knowing of the others' interest or was the relationship started because of those interests? Did you speak with your partner before-hand, and if so, how did you/your partner approach the subject? And what, if at all, would you have done differently if given the opportunity?

 

[Blushing Bottom]

Talk things out. I find it to be the best approach.

Good luck with your plans whatever form they take.

 

[aydensfire756]

my first time....

It was with a boy i was already dating. We were discussing fetishes we had on the phone one night, and D/s came up. We found that he was extremely turned on by being Dominant, and i was extremely into being submissive. I've been calling Him Master ever since.

 

[myinnerslut]

i remember it came up 6 months into our relationship. it took off gradually from there. i cant remember a point in which it just started.

 

[Femme_Noir]

I think it just started from light bondage, progressed to him calling me a slut during sex, me calling him daddy...it took off from there.

 

[Softouch911]

The first time? Ever, you mean?

1990+/-: a little rough (vanilla) sex. I get into it, the rough part, slap her ass. "Do that again," she said. A day or two later she said "Don't do that again." We're divorced now.

What I wish I'd done different? Married someone else.

Why do you wanna know?

ST

 

[SubKekiLee]

First time?

My First time was many years after I asked my FIRST question of the people who lived in the lifestyle.. back then I thought it was sick! then I came across a guy who would eventually teach me how erotic, sensual and wonderful D/s is he eventually became a dom to me for a brief time frame but taught me alot, in the coming years I couldnt seem to find a common ground to bring it up with those that I was involved with they were "vanilla" i was just not sure.. So didnt bring it up.. Came back into play in the recent months and didnt relize how much I had missed it, If I ever have the chance again to speak to someone before I carry on I will tell them exactly what I am looking for... UPFRONT and HONEST .. I promised myself that but for now I am content with my DOM he is the best and I dont think I could ever want someone different, as I trust him explictly and give him almost free reign to do what is neccessary just wish he and I could be 24/7 but I knew what I was getting myself into when I took his collar.. and I wouldnt have it any OTHER way now..

 

[EmpressFi]

My first time was long ago with someone I met on the internet. I didnt know anything .. didnt know what I was doing. Honestly, I think he was more in for the sex than the lifestyle. But I spent the first day of the weekend tied to the bed, with dildo in place, with orders not to orgasm until he came back from "work". (He was a bookie and "work" was the second bedroom of his condo).

But this is my first experience in living the lifestyle. Master says I tripped his "Domdar". We'd been friends for a couple of years, after meeting while playing an online game. We agreed to meet and my training began from the moment he stepped off the airplane when I was to greet him with, "Welcome home, Master" and was expected to dress a certain way. I was happily collared during his last visit and I'm learning more every day.