You want to know? You got to ask..

[boston_bbw]

Last night my best friend and I were sitting around doing the "girl talk" thing. She mentioned she and her newest SO of only a month or so have yet to have sex but he has given her orgasms thru masturbation. Apparently he has only used his mouth once and his hand a number of times now. She is driving herself crazy wondering why the oral was a 1 time only deal. Obviously a womens 1st question is Do I smell? Do I taste funny? I wonder if since she trims with clippers maybe the hair is too course and bothers him? Could it be that she may have urinated prior to him going down? On a side note she has occassionally mentioned some things that make me think he may be slightly OCD (maybe the psych nurse in me is reading too much into it) so it could just be him as well and have nothing to do with her. I say the only way to know is to come right out and ask him.

 

[SweetErika]

I agree, she should talk with him. Perhaps she could just start a conversation on sex and oral in general, as that'd give him the opportunity to share his views without the threat of offending her specifically. If he says he loves oral, then maybe she could ask if there's anything she can do to enhance it for him in the future.

 

[midwestyankee]

Good points, SE. I have this to add: rule number one of discussing sex with your SO (or a potential one) is to do it outside the bedroom. A sub-rule is to hold the conversation while both parties are comfortable but not intoxicated. Whatever happens during the conversation - or afterward - must not later be attributable to an altered state or lowered inhibitions by means of alcohol.

 

[sexyjenn]

very simple, ask and talk with your partner. I get so suprised when my friends come to me with their relationship problems when 90% of the time they should be going to their partners to talk it over with.