You ever gotten into....

[Xander]

A situation where you wanna help someone, and you REALLY wanna help him/her, with whatever it may be.

And it turns out that you can't??

Then you become annoyed and angry, and come off sounding like a royal prick. Not intentionally snapping at the one you're trying to help, but still come off sounding like it??

I did yesterday......

I'm sorry baby.

 

[Mistress]

Hehehe, like I said, I didnt even realize you did it. I was too damn busy cussing at you on the phone about my piece of shit computer trying to crash on me last night. Don't worry about it, the matter is now fixed (I hope anyways) and I'm back on line.
No worries baby.

MUAH!

Du er saa dejlig og jeg elsker dig!


((((((KYS OG KRAM!!!)))))))

 

[Xander]

Thank you baby!!

Du er ogsaa saa dejlig, og jeg elsker dig rigtigt meget.

 

[SlipknotNumber8]

Yeah thats the worst, my girlfriend was having family problems and i couldn't help because her family used to hate me...

 

[Xander]

Yeah thats the worst, my girlfriend was having family problems and i couldn't help because her family used to hate me...

I feel for you man. Not a very pleasant position to be in, I can imagine.

 

[lobito]

happened just last week, as a matter of fact...

a friend admitted herself to the psyche ward for 4 days, stating she wasn't loved enough, turns out it was true. She called her boyfriend and he blew her off when she said she needed help, and hour later he got a call from her mom saying she was in the hospital being admitted.

I was at his house when she called, and his mom made excuses all night long on why he didn't need to go, that he was too busy to worry about someone "crying for attention". I've had some info, things I' d heard from him and his family, that I could have told her before this started, but I never did. Maybe it's a good thing, but I'll never know.

When I saw her this past week, she knew there was something I wanted to say to her, because she just knows me that well. But I'm still afraid to even say that her boyfriend and her family were calling her names, and making fun behind her back, for two reasons.

1) I don't want this to cause a bigger problem, and maybe make her do something more drastic.

and

2) I could lose the others as friends, but then again, it makes me wonder if they talk about me behind my back too. I could just be paranoid though.

I've known him and his family for a long time, and her for only 2 years, but we've grown pretty close in a friendship kind of way. Probably because we understand each other, adn we're both outsiders to his family, and when there is a problem wtih them, I see BOTH sides. Though seriously, she in most arguements they have, in my opinion, she is right.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Somehow, lobito, I doubt your paranoid. You may have just been put in the position of choosing sides. If it does come down to that, you already know which side is the better one. It seriously sucks to be in that position, but with friends like that guy???

You should also consider how damaging it might be in the long run for your friend to continue a relationship with this guy. You can talk to the people who run the ward she's in, see what they think of the situation. He probably runs her down to her face in those nasty little ways. "You're gorgeous baby, really gorgeous. Here, have a non-fat yogurt, you know how a ham and cheese sticks to your thighs." Slap slap slap. The guy sounds like something of a jerk. While he may have redeeming qualities, I think your paranoia is justified.

 

[SlipknotNumber8]

Xander- Thanks, it really sucks. But she is pretty messed up. She is Bi-Polar, has Mainc Depression, and was really beaten and molested as a kid.
I still love her more than life, though.

 

[tmuyo]

Yeah thats the worst, my girlfriend was having family problems and i couldn't help because her family used to hate me...

yea, that's real fun *heavy sarcasm*

anyway, my fiancee's parents are trying to get her to leave me... how fucked is that? the sob's have refused to give me a chance and have refused to meet me thus far.

their reasons? well, the fact that i'm not chinese, or asian for that matter is setting them into a tirade. the fact that i come from the ghetto. the fact that my family traumatized me and damaged me for life, they believe i will continue the shit i got. what can i do for her? so what if we love eachother? this is the bullshit and more that she has to go through every single day of this summer because of me............>_<"""""""

and i can't do a damn thing for her right now, cuz she's in taiwan and i'm in california. all i can do is support her over here and tell her through aim that i love he and will make everything work. i feel like a loser since i can't help her in her situation immediately...

 

[SlipknotNumber8]

yea, that's real fun *heavy sarcasm*

their reasons? well, the fact that i'm not chinese, or asian for that matter is setting them into a tirade

dude, no offense to any oriental people, but the stuck up ones are really mean! I know it's a big tradition to have someone marry into their own race, but to not even meet you is just uncalled for

 

[Xander]

You're welcome man.

I know perfectly well how it is to love someone more than life. Which I do now, and more and more every day that passes.

 

[Guest]

anyway, my fiancee's parents are trying to get her to leave me... how fucked is that? the sob's have refused to give me a chance and have refused to meet me thus far.

their reasons? well, the fact that i'm not chinese, or asian for that matter is setting them into a tirade. the fact that i come from the ghetto. the fact that my family traumatized me and damaged me for life, they believe i will continue the shit i got. what can i do for her? so what if we love eachother? this is the bullshit and more that she has to go through every single day of this summer because of me............>_<"""""""

some people just can't understand that love is color blind... that race isn't an issue.... its the person. It doesn't matter where you come from.... what color your skin is..... or how much money you have...

ITS WHAT'S INSIDE THAT MATTERS


Be strong... love can coquer all.... if you just believe in it.

 

[tmuyo]

i'd have to say some of the most racist people can be caucasians and asians.

some asians only marry into their nationality only. i have a friend who went through so much shit tht she and her bf broke up. she was korean and he was vietnamese.

it happens. i've had friends all my life that parents have discriminated against me cuz i'm white. some parents flipped and wouldn't let me date their daughters, some parents flipped because they didn't want their kids having a white friend.

all you can do is keep pushing. one friends mom was so against me, she actually threw stuff at me until i left, but i won her over after a long time of supporting her daughter through her problems...her mom accepted me after a while and actually invited me over to dinner a ew times, suggesting me and xin go out or get together, lol.

who knows, they're gonna have to meet me sooner or later (my fiancee's parents). i'll drive down and speak with her mom as long as i have to. and since i'm saving up to go to taiwan either this summer or next (depends on whether i get my dc internship in the state dept/us embassy office/cia) i'll meet her dad and keep meeting with him and talking with him until he is fine and accepts me.

 

[Guest]

lol
yep

annoy the hell out of them until they either snap or cave

 

[lobito]

You should also consider how damaging it might be in the long run for your friend to continue a relationship with this guy. You can talk to the people who run the ward she's in, see what they think of the situation. He probably runs her down to her face in those nasty little ways. "You're gorgeous baby, really gorgeous. Here, have a non-fat yogurt, you know how a ham and cheese sticks to your thighs." Slap slap slap. The guy sounds like something of a jerk. While he may have redeeming qualities, I think your paranoia is justified.

Well KM, here's the thing, with her, and I'm around them when they are together ALOT, he is NOT like what you said. He's totally submissive, if she TELLS him to do something, then he does, something that he SHOULD do, not just bossing him around.

Who knows what the situation is when I'm not around, but I THINK she would tell me if it was that bad. She's not fat in anyway, and he wouldn't be able to talk if he did say those things, though he used to be a hundred pounds heavier, and still trying to slim down. I believe that he truely is afraid of her most of the time. Maybe even insecure. Though I won't even TRY to make excuses for him.

I rarely if ever have even heard him say to her more than I love you, then it's really quiet, and I rarely see them kiss. He says he wants to settle down, she doesn't yet, she's only 18, he 21, but I don't believe him at all. But like some guys, not all, he's the first to say in front of her even, "Hey guys, look at that gals tits/ass", just one of the unwritten rules of commitment in my mind.