Yesterday at Lunch

PacificBlue

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I've been losing weight for the past several months. Depending on what I wear that day (old looser clothes vs new closer fitting clothes) some can really tell the difference. Also, my face is changing shape as well.

Anyhoo:

I stuck around work for lunch. Something I haven't been doing as of recent. Something I learned is that if *some* people figure out your losing weight...they 1. Want to know how and 2. They critique your lunch. I don't mind talking about either until I'm told that my approach sucks rocks and *THIS* is what I should be doing instead....blah, blah, blah. Most of the time I nod appropriately and just tune them out until they are done. I know what works for me and I know what doesn't for god's sake. I've been overweight most of my life. I've been on how many diets now? Don't ask. This time, I'm doing things differently. I'm changing my lifestyle, one phase at a time. I will never go back to the way I used to do things. Instead I practice daily my new way of living. Somedays I succeed and someday's I could do better. I don't expect 100% compliance from myself anymore. Who does?

What is so fucking hard about saying *great* job and moving on??? Oh and while I'm on the subject...it isn't helpful to tell me that my experience, in life, is a bunch of shit until you've been there and lived it yourself. That's a slap in the face and just invalidates my feelings, thoughts, and emotions.
 
CONGRATULATIONS!

Blue you're doing great! Hats off to you for making a difficult choice and sticking to it as only you can! You should be proud!:D
 
Great job! I never understand why everyone thinks they know everything there is to know about diets or what they should do about them. I know what's a good diet for me based on my body type, exercise needs, and my habitual dehydration. You are so polite. I always give them a look, let my eyes go up and down them, and then smile with pure insincerity and say, "I'm sure you know exactly what you're talking about. Thank you. Now, shoo."


However, you need to eat less carbs, more prot---

She hit me. I can't believe she hit me.





(Just kidding :D)
 
What irritated me most yesterday is that he was fully convicted that he was right and my method was wrong. I haven't figured out how to tell someone face-to-face to leave it alone. Anyhoo...back to eating lunch somewhere else.

Thank you for the compliments. Those help. :D
 
PacificBlue said:
What irritated me most yesterday is that he was fully convicted that he was right and my method was wrong. I haven't figured out how to tell someone face-to-face to leave it alone. Anyhoo...back to eating lunch somewhere else.

Thank you for the compliments. Those help. :D

Just look them in the eye and tell the truth: "It's working for me, so I think i'll just stick with it."
 
Undertaking the task of changing one's life is the most difficult and most rewarding endeavour.

Keep it up PacBlue.
 
Congrats PacificBlue....It takes courage to change your life like that....be proud of yourself and to hell with the nosey, know it alls!!

:rose:
 
Weird Harold said:


Just look them in the eye and tell the truth: "It's working for me, so I think i'll just stick with it."

Why is that simple little phrase so hard for me? I try. Honest, I do. When I stand up for myself...no matter how nice I try to be about it what I hear is: "Why are you in a bad mood?" "I was just trying to help" "Can't you take any feedback" "This is what's wrong with that program blah, blah, blah..."
 
Could you counter or follow up with this?-"Thanks for your concern. At this point care & support are the only help I need.":)
 
What's really fun....NOT!!!! ...is when people start trying to justify what they are eating when they are around me. I don't critique other people's lunches, what you eat is your business.

I do miss a couple of my friends who don't hang out with me anymore because I won't comfort eat with them. I didn't know I'd lose friends too.
 
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