Yes! My first negative feedback!

[openthighs_sarah]

Sorry... I just thought this was funny. My feedback has been almost universally positive, if sometimes inexplicable, and I really do feel fortunate after reading about the feedback experiences of other writers on these boards.

I tend to ignore criticism anyway, for the simple reason that I'm horribly arrogant (in a cute way) and occasionally solipsistic. But I think I'll take this one to heart:


This message contains feedback for: openthighs_sarah
About the submission: Prelude to a Kiss, and More
This feedback was sent by: Anonymous

Comments:

Too gay.

Numb nut!


My only question is... is his name "Numb nut!", or is that part of the crticism? I like to think that it's his name, and he gets so excited whenever he writes it that he has to use exclamation points. Sadly, he (or she) didn't include an email address, so I can't respond in kind: "Thanks. Sarah!"

G'night, all...

 

[Guest]

What an asshole!!!

Your stories are luscious and very erotic. (and I loved that particular one!) Unfortunately, if the characters don't actually have sex in the first sentence, some readers are offended.

Fuck 'em!

 

[openthighs_sarah]

What an asshole!!!

Your stories are luscious and very erotic. (and I loved that particular one!) Unfortunately, if the characters don't actually have sex in the first sentence, some readers are offended.

Fuck 'em!

Thanks, sarah 1... I'd rather make you happy and wet any day. Besides, I really did think it was funny...

Maybe he had a problem with my boyfriend licking the cum off the guy's huge cock after I gave him the blowjob..? Sorry, that part had to stay -- critical to the story.

Okay, now I *really* have to go to sleep...

 

[Guest]

Sleep well.

 

[Guest]

My only question is... is his name "Numb nut!", or is that part of the crticism? I like to think that it's his name, and he gets so excited whenever he writes it that he has to use exclamation points. Sadly, he (or she) didn't include an email address, so I can't respond in kind: "Thanks. Sarah!"

G'night, all...

Sarah!

I'd have to say his name is Numb nut!


Thanks for making me laugh on such a seriously bad day...

|neonurotic|

 

[dr_mabeuse]

You call that negative feedback? "Too gay"?

You've never received any where the writer tells yoiu that your story was a complete waste of time, that you don't know what you're talking about, that you should go to hell for taking up space that could better be left blank, that your story made them puke, that you've got a hell of a lot of nerve even thinking you can write?

So your story was too gay for someone. It probably wasn't gay enough for someone else. It was probably too dirty for someone and not dirty enough for someone else. I don't mean to be a heel, but so what? If the feedback doesn't contain some insight about your writing it's worthless anyhow, whether it's good or bad.

My own feeling is that good feedback is pretty worthless, although nice for the ego. You don't learn a damned thing from praise except to keep on doing what you're doing, i.e. don't even try and improve.

---dr.M.

 

[Guest]

OUCH, dr. M.!

(Hey - he did call her Numb Nuts!!)

Unless that really was his name . . .

 

[openthighs_sarah]

I don't mean to be a heel, but so what? If the feedback doesn't contain some insight about your writing it's worthless anyhow, whether it's good or bad.

My own feeling is that good feedback is pretty worthless, although nice for the ego. You don't learn a damned thing from praise except to keep on doing what you're doing, i.e. don't even try and improve.

Oops. Sorry, I thought I was making it clear that I was laughing about it, and that I didn't really think of it as "feedback". Perhaps my sarcasm was too heavily veiled? I will give myself forty lashes for the error...

And I'm sure your approach is very healthy and constructive. But I'm not looking to improve, either -- I like the good feedback because I like to know that someone sees in my stories exactly what I placed there, that someone feels exactly what I made him or her feel. That's all. Oh, and it gets me off.

 

[SexyChele]

Congrats on the negative feedback, Sarah! I guess that means you've "arrived"! (Major tongue in cheek humor here, folks!)

Dr. M - while I agree with you, that was still "ouchie"! You do so love to keep us in line, don't you?

Sarah, I just read the story (and yes, I even voted!), and I thought it was well written and well done. But anytime you have interaction between male characters, some one out there is going to be offended. It's just the way some people are, unfortunately. Hell, if you would have posted this in Gay Male, I'd guess you would have gotten the same response! (I know I did when I post my first Gay Male story. I was like, hello? It's in the "Gay" category, what the hell does one expect? Go figure!)

Glad you can laugh about it. That's what you have to remember to do when the really negative stuff comes in!

 

[openthighs_sarah]

Sarah, I just read the story (and yes, I even voted!), and I thought it was well written and well done. But anytime you have interaction between male characters, some one out there is going to be offended.

Thank you! And believe me, this wasn't unexpected -- I was surprised more people didn't get upset about the guy-guy thing. I was trying to be so bold and shocking... <sigh>

 

[SexyChele]

I was trying to be so bold and shocking... <sigh>

You wild woman, you!

 

[KillerMuffin]

My fave negative feedback ever was the following:

"You stupid republican bitch!"

 

[Guest]

My fave negative feedback ever was the following:

"You stupid republican bitch!"

I want to read the story that got a response like that KM...
The critique was so... Constructive.

 

[dr_mabeuse]

I do have a propensity to be an insufferable asshole, such as in my post above, for which I do apologize, not only for any offense given, but for the blatant falsity of the opinions expressed.

In the first place I should have realized that Sarah wasn't complaining about being flamed, but was amused by it, a point I totally missed; and secondly to say that postive feedback was worthless is just a bald-faced lie. God knows that I love postive feedback as much as anyone, and nothing motivates me like praise. It may be true that you can learn more from a thoughtful analysis of the weak points in your work, but getting that is extremely rare, and still it sure doesn't feel as good as someone telling you how much they liked your writing.

So let me repeat, I apoligize for my precipitous remarks.

---dr.M.

 

[Guest]

I do have a propensity to be an insufferable asshole, such as in my post above, for which I do apologize, not only for any offense given, but for the blatant falsity of the opinions expressed.

In the first place I should have realized that Sarah wasn't complaining about being flamed, but was amused by it, a point I totally missed; and secondly to say that postive feedback was worthless is just a bald-faced lie. God knows that I love postive feedback as much as anyone, and nothing motivates me like praise. It may be true that you can learn more from a thoughtful analysis of the weak points in your work, but getting that is extremely rare, and still it sure doesn't feel as good as someone telling you how much they liked your writing.

So let me repeat, I apoligize for my precipitous remarks.

---dr.M.

But dr.M. - your propensities (and your insufferable ass, apparently) are so CUTE, especially when you're being so blatantly precipitious. (tee hee)

 

[SlickTony]

You've never received any where the writer tells yoiu that your story was a complete waste of time, that you don't know what you're talking about, that you should go to hell for taking up space that could better be left blank, that your story made them puke, that you've got a hell of a lot of nerve even thinking you can write?

Ooh, I've never forgotten this one piece of feedback I got for "Quid pro Quo"! The guy said that the story almost put him to sleep, but he forced himself to stay awake so he could vote; and furthermore, added the very ad hominem (or maybe I should say ad feminem) attack that if he were my husband he'd have killed himself years ago. Considering that I deleted the message in a fit of pique, plus I think I've formatted my hard drive three times since then, the message is so lost it would take one of these FBI cyber forensics experts to call it back; but I've never forgotten it.

I think one of the things he had against it was there were only two money shots in it. Afterwards I decided that I probably should have put it in the exhibitionism and voyereurism category rather than incest, since at no time did the principals touch each other; but hell, the interaction was between two siblings; what was I supposed to do?

But really, I was minded of the Shakespearean quote about protesting too much. If a story bores you that much, you don't force yourself to finish it. I've always been convinced that there was something about the tale that pushed one of his buttons.

 

[openthighs_sarah]

So let me repeat, I apoligize for my precipitous remarks.

No sweat, Dr. M. But "precipitous" makes me think of "precipitation", which in turn makes me think, naturally, of being wet. And what could possibly be wrong with that?

 

[Mary Riley]

Neg. Feedback

I recieved my first negative feedback about a month ago. Anonymously, of course, a person told me that the reason my stories were rated so high was probably because I voted on them myself. Considering I didn't know you could vote for yourself until they told me, I figure that they must have known that for a reason and it has probably benefited them time and time again with their own submissions.

*Lissa Fae*

 

[openthighs_sarah]

Re: Neg. Feedback

I figure that they must have known that for a reason and it has probably benefited them time and time again with their own submissions.

I'm pretty sure no one can vote on any story (including your own) more than once, and I wouldn't be surprised if Laurel and co. have a way to prevent people from voting using multiple IDs, too. They obviously track each user's IP address on the boards, so it could be the same with story votes.

As for negative feedback that makes no mention of story flaws -- I like to believe that's just as good as positive feedback. Being everything to everyone is impossible, and undesirable in any case... Any well-developed personality will attract some people and repel others; same thing with a story.