voluptuary_manque
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Another church recognizes same sex marriage.
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Some gay couples like church.
Some gay couples like church.
You don't have a right to have everything you want in life.
Some gay couples like church.
You don't have a right to have everything you want in life. If you haven't learned that by the time you get married, you're past due. Churches can't stop folks from marrying in the United States--it's a civil function and status (and gays can marry where state law permits it). But no one has a right to force a church to give them venue and/or a ceremony--or even its blessing. It's sort of lame and vanity-based to have to be married in a church if you aren't a member of the church anyway.
So what if the church doesn't recognize your marriage? They have no leverage over you that you don't give them. Just thumb your nose at them. If you can't marry someone without the church's blessing or in a church, you're probably not committed enough to your intended to be marrying him/her anyway.
I would have thought the most efficient solution for a gay couple would be a civil wedding.
Because civil union generally isn't marriage legally, and marriage has many legal, ethical and financial implications. Local, state, and national legislators are not, anytime soon, going to rewrite all laws to specify "civil unions" as equivalent to marriage. Corporations, NGOs, and other organizations will not en-mass rewrite their policies. Civil union vs wedding is like "separate but equal" -- they ain't equal.What's wrong with the term "civil union" (or similar), and leave the word 'wedding' for an M&F union?.
What's wrong with the term "civil union" (or similar), and leave the word 'wedding' for an M&F union?.
What's wrong with the term "civil union" (or similar), and leave the word 'wedding' for an M&F union?.
Because civil union generally isn't marriage legally, and marriage has many legal, ethical and financial implications. Local, state, and national legislators are not, anytime soon, going to rewrite all laws to specify "civil unions" as equivalent to marriage. Corporations, NGOs, and other organizations will not en-mass rewrite their policies. Civil union vs wedding is like "separate but equal" -- they ain't equal.
So just distinguish between civil and church weddings. You wanna get married in a church-temple-mosque-etc setting? Fine. You wanna get married by a druid or ship's captain or Elvis impersonator or dwarf warlock? Fine. Have whatever ceremony you want. It's still a wedding. Two or more joined in life... at least until the divorce. Sure, everyone deserves the right to be equally overjoyed or miserable in marriage.
Because civil union generally isn't marriage legally, and marriage has many legal, ethical and financial implications. Local, state, and national legislators are not, anytime soon, going to rewrite all laws to specify "civil unions" as equivalent to marriage. Corporations, NGOs, and other organizations will not en-mass rewrite their policies. Civil union vs wedding is like "separate but equal" -- they ain't equal.
So just distinguish between civil and church weddings. You wanna get married in a church-temple-mosque-etc setting? Fine. You wanna get married by a druid or ship's captain or Elvis impersonator or dwarf warlock? Fine. Have whatever ceremony you want. It's still a wedding. Two or more joined in life... at least until the divorce. Sure, everyone deserves the right to be equally overjoyed or miserable in marriage.
I don't see anything wrong with calling it a wedding. Is there something in the background of that word that you know is off-putting that I don't? I see "wedding" and "civil union" as having different meanings, the wedding being the ceremony event (which could be done anywhere. My sister's a minister and has performed ceremonies at a miniature golf park and in a bowling alley). "Civil union," for me, would be the legal institution of being legally married--a longer term affair than a ceremony event.
Sorry, folks, I was forgetting that different States may have different ideas.
In the UK, the "civil union" (actually a 'civil partnership') has ALL the legal force & benefits, rights, tax structure, responsibilities and risks of a 'marriage'. There's no arguing, the piece of paper declaring the two as a "couple" is as weighty as a certificate of marriage.
Now if any particular religion or sect teaches that homosexuality is unnatural and evil -- a teaching that many of us believe is antiquated, bigoted, and in serious error, but people believe what they believe -- then that church/sect/denomination/religion will have to work it out for themselves. They can't and shouldn't be forced to perform a religious ceremony that is against their beliefs, but they also have no right to declare laws that other houses of worship can't, or that gay couples can't have civil ceremonies and have all the legal rights and protections of a government-recognized marriage contract.