Would you sleep with a married person?

Not here to say what's right and wrong, but I am a married male currently having a very steamy naughty affair with a very sexy woman. Could not be happier and can't imagine depriving myself of such fun.
 
I've only done it where it was a secret to the hubby one time, he was an over the road trucker, and he walked into his bedroom to find me banging his wife. He was not expected in sate on that day. He said calmly: 'fun time is over Mr. X_______ (he knew my last name), put your pants on and show yourself out.'

All the other times have been with the husbands knowledge, and sometimes participation. So here is the question that I dont know in the first person, as Ive never been married. Do you married men who have a lady on the side, or married women who have a fella: How do you maintain a FWB (or possibly more) relation without arousing suspicion?

We have the 'make my day' law out here, you can shoot anyone who enters your domicile without your permission. The condo was in his name, she just lived there, I was unwelcome. He did not raise a gun at me, but he was in full protection of the law if he did. I'd like to have better ways of protecting myself against that in the future; I realize that the only full proof way is to have the husbands blessing, but that may not be an option. Thoughts..
 
I've only done it where it was a secret to the hubby one time, he was an over the road trucker, and he walked into his bedroom to find me banging his wife. He was not expected in sate on that day. He said calmly: 'fun time is over Mr. X_______ (he knew my last name), put your pants on and show yourself out.'

All the other times have been with the husbands knowledge, and sometimes participation. So here is the question that I dont know in the first person, as Ive never been married. Do you married men who have a lady on the side, or married women who have a fella: How do you maintain a FWB (or possibly more) relation without arousing suspicion?

We have the 'make my day' law out here, you can shoot anyone who enters your domicile without your permission. The condo was in his name, she just lived there, I was unwelcome. He did not raise a gun at me, but he was in full protection of the law if he did. I'd like to have better ways of protecting myself against that in the future; I realize that the only full proof way is to have the husbands blessing, but that may not be an option. Thoughts..

From what I know of so called make my day laws, the hubby wouldn't be protected in that case, since the wife invited you into the place, and even if he owned it in his name, as resident his wife has the right to invite people in as well....those laws were not designed as blanket carte blanche to shoot someone in your home, it was designed to overcome the legal doctrine that you could only legally use lethal force in your own home if you had reasonable belief you were in danger. For example, in many states if you confront a burglar in your home, you would have to show that the perp in some way was threatening you, you basically could only use force as a last result. The law basically was designed that you can use lethal force not only as a last resort, but also to protect your property. In the case you gave, the wife inviting you in means you had reason to be there, and didn't pose threat to life or property, so shooting you would be a chargeable offense (whether it would be pursued is anyone's guess). Unless you attacked him, he shouldn't be covered since you were not legally an intruder (same would be true if a guest invited you into the house; you had reasonable belief that you were there legally).

Your only protection against an irate husband quite frankly is either a)meeting hubby and finding out it is okay or b)not banging married women. Anything els and you take this kind of chance.
 
I have and would if everyone is in the know. It's the lying that gets to me.
 
I sleep with one every night, my husband, :) But other than that I have slept ot had sex with many married men and a few women. :)
 
I'd like to have better ways of protecting myself against that in the future; I realize that the only full proof way is to have the husbands blessing, but that may not be an option. Thoughts..

Don't be cheap, just get a motel room for the afternoon, preferably one with a hot tub. It's as much a fantasy encounter for her as it is for you, try to atleast find one without stains on the wall. :rolleyes:

And yes, yes I have (and hopefully will again, yes you ;) ). A FWB fuck buddy is an incredible relationship to have if you are both on the same page from the beginning. One night flings are fun in their own way, but learning how to push someone's buttons, and having them learn yours, is an entirely different experience. Just keep it for what it is, sex with friendship.
It is easier for you both to relax if it is out of the homes, that way you keep your relationship separate from others and keep it existing longer for what it is. And more importantly, not trying to turn it into something it is not.
 
I did sleep with a married woman, and married myself. we were very close and both knew it had to end, neither of our spouses knew and it was heartbreaking. (Funnily enough, after many years we've swapped the occasional email, but won't be meeting)

Would I do it again? No, Fun and friendship on-line is my limit now.
 
Yes. And I have. We both need to be in the same place emotionally and want to fill the holes we both have in our relationships.

I dream of finding the right woman I can find a life with.
 
I have, once

I did, once....

When I was single, I dated woman who did not tell me she was married. She wore no ring and we saw each other most nights of the week. She intimated that she was separated - and I saw no reason to ask any more. Maybe I should have done so. The sex was good. I don't mean it as a judgment call on her abilities (see note at the end).

One early Saturday morning, I went downstairs (slept over at her house that night) to grab my shoes; get a shower; and change of clothes at my place before work.

As I was reaching for the doorknob, the front door was unlocked and a man walked into the foyer.

"My name is Sandy. You must be "J". How do you like fucking my wife?" he asked, not using a tone I would consider curious or friendly.

I could not say a word for a few minutes (or more).

"I didn't know she was married."

He raised an eyebrow and did not kill me. Thankfully.

I left and did not get back into any kind of relationship with her. She moved onto someone else; got divorced; and later apologized to me.

She also told me her now ex-husband that he was a travelling salesman (all over the NE) and that she was having sex with me because she would get letters and trinkets in the mail from his girlfriends. When he came home he was too tired to have sex - and it had been that way for over 5 years. So she drank heavily and was less emotionally involved than she wanted to be.

I am glad she was finally happy.

Would I do it again?
Since I am now married, I don't think so - not without my wife's knowledge anyway. I have been asked twice in the last 20 years. Although it was a HUGE compliment, I declined very gracefully.

I do like to fantasize, though.



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She reached over to grab the paper from my hand rubbing her breasts against my lower arm. I held the paper farther out from her reach and she pushed up against me and turned to moved closer to the paper. Her movement slid my arm along her breast until it lodged between both breasts...oh it felt so good!
We both froze in that position until she grabbed my arm and rubbed her breasts with it. In the middle of the office I could not take it any longer, looked into her eyes and said Oh MArilyn and gave her a wanting smile! We are both married and it is so tempting...!
 
I've slept with an engaged woman and another woman who was in a serious relationship and married the guy. The first one, she didn't tell me she was engaged because her fiance lived in the UK and we were in NJ. The second one I knew and we wound up getting caught. I do distinctly remember her answering the phone when her boyfriend called, and having a conversation while my hand was inside her.

Today I wouldn't do it unless I knew the relationship was an open one. It's not worth the trouble to me, and I felt kind of like a scavenger. Plenty of single women out there.
 
I fantasies about having sex w/ a married older man whose wife dosnt care & they havent had sex in yrs
 
No I wouldn't unless I was married to them. Maybe if it was a group of really good friends but I doubt it.
 
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