Would You Rather Be...

[Bob Peale]

Respected out of fear or love?

And I'm not talking about friends and family. I mean, if people imbued you with celebrity, would you rather it be a la John Gotti or Mother Theresa?

 

[Purple Haze]

Mother Theresa must have been under a lot of pressure to be nice all the time. That could get really old in a hell of a hurry. I know she would have loved to tell someone to fuck off occasionally.

Gotti didn't have to worry about that.

 

[amelia]

def. LOVE

 

[Monazwx]

I'm greedy

I want both fear and love. Or, maybe they could love to fear me.

 

[Ice Cold]

Respect me out of love... and fear me if you ever break my heart.

 

[SexySlut2]

Respect me out of love... and fear me if you ever break my heart.

I second that!

 

[StrawberryPez]

I want to be respected out of love.

I don't like when people don't like me.....

 

[vylette]

LOVE...Who would want to be feared?..certainly not me..love me dont fear me and always RESPECT me!

 

[MissTaken]

As an individual, neighbor, friend etc....definitely love.

As a supervisor, there were times that I would have had an easier time coping if the respect were wrought from fear. Employees who respected me because they liked me also tend to be very needy, seeking friendship, perhaps not take me seriously enough when given directions. Employees that feared me, did what I told them to do as I directed.....


Hmmmm just my thoughts on the matter.

 

[Ebonyfire]

Respected out of fear or love?

And I'm not talking about friends and family. I mean, if people imbued you with celebrity, would you rather it be a la John Gotti or Mother Theresa?

For me it would be neither. IMHO I do not think that fear is breeds respect, and certainly not love. I have also found that I can respect people I neither love nor fear.

Ebony

 

[Marxist]

Great question.

I think I'll go for feared over loved.

Neither is all that bad though.

 

[badasschick]

I'd like respect from being badass, instead.

 

[Laurel]

I'd rather be...left alone.

 

[Private Vasquez]

Teflon is good stuff...I'll do bad things to you if you mess with me...but don't be skurred.

 

[badasschick]

T...but don't be skurred.

Hehe!

 

[Bob Peale]

I'd rather be...left alone.

Oh dear...what's got your whiskers in a froth tonight?

 

[Dillinger]

I'm not sure I'd pick either. Its another one of those "false premise" threads that makes me pick a choice without picking what I really would say.

Of the two - I'd go for respect out of love. I would want people to respect me because of the type of example I provided rather than because they are scared of me.

However, again, I don't think those are the only methods to earn respect. Given my druthers I would want to be respected because I was an honorable person who tried to do what I believed was right, no matter the consequences.

 

[Bob Peale]

I'm not sure I'd pick either. Its another one of those "false premise" threads that makes me pick a choice without picking what I really would say.

Actually, it's not.

I never said that these were the only two reasons why someone would be respected.

I asked of the two, which would you prefer. There are a myriad of reasons why a person might be respected; however, I've always thought that these two were opposite sides of the same coin, and I was interested if people leaned more toward one over the other.

I think Love is the more acceptable answer, but I can't help wondering if deep down a lot of people wouldn't get a jolt from Fear...

 

[Dillinger]

Fair enough. Because it does ask people to make a choice of two extremes which tells you something about that person.

You might be right about people getting a jolt from fear. Not me.

I'll take the love. I think even my choice of respect from being honorable is probably a form of love.

 

[nasty]

def. LOVE

I'm in the mood for some lovin.