Worst Advice You Have Seen in How To
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SunDevilGirl
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I think one of the best and worst things about this forum is that nobody here is an expert (maybe some exceptions). We are all just regular people giving our opinions. Nobody has to take the advice. Hopefully everyone does their own research in addition to all the guidance they receive here.
NightL
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I don't like the idea of this thread - some well meaning, maybe misguided people don't need to be poked with a stick beyond their own threads.
It risks making any contributor offering up reminders to appear smug or at worst verging on bullying of someone who maybe just naive.
It risks making any contributor offering up reminders to appear smug or at worst verging on bullying of someone who maybe just naive.
drinkz
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That's the scary part. A lot of people don't.
silverwhisper
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drinkz, i'm sorry but i second nightl's concern.
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Isn't it their own fault if they're relying on one source of information from random strangers on the internet in the first place?
Even if some of the advice isn't great, nobody has any duty to be an expert. They most seem to have good intentions at the very least.
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I can see where you are going with this, or at least your intention for the thread. I don't think it malicious or mean-spirited, but it could certainly be perceived that way, especially by those who see a thread they started mentioned as a bad apple.
Here are a few things to think about:
I have seen some threads started about things that made me go "duh, are you serious". But if you bear in mind that some people haven't experienced life the same as yourself, had a different or limited upbringing, poor, little, or no education, and may have limited or no exposure to a great deal of the things we find commonplace and part of our everyday, then you can appreciate why someone would nervously type out a few sentences and ask a community for advise, opinion, and direction.
The same applies to those that offer advise or opinion that you see and think terrible. It may very well be terrible, but it may be the best advise the poster has to offer based on their experience, or the best opinion based on what has worked for them in their life. We each walk different miles, in our own pair of shoes.
Speaking about walking, remember there are people here from all walks of life, from all the corners of the world. Results will vary, based on that alone.
The advise shared, opinions expressed, and suggestions made cost you absolutely $0.00. You can choose to ignore it all, take what is useful and discard the rest, or learn something from every shared thought, post, idea, etc. All for well under the cost of a stick of bubblegum.
I will add also, that there are folks here with book smarts, folks with street smarts, and good bunch with both. They suffer fools little, and if they can't give you an answer because they don't know, or are not qualified, they can generally point you in the direction of where you could look.
As mentioned in a post above, most, if not all of the bad advise is dealt with at the time and within the thread. Some posters - and there are some incredibly patient and compassionate folks here who will extend a hand despite having it smacked away repeatedly - will be kind, gentle, and warmly point out errors, or facts that are in fact not so factual. Others don't bother with pleasantries and will be more direct, and some will use snark. Most will ignore. And some come at things rudely and with guns drawn. Regardless, all of the above usually gets the point across to the OP, shortly after the thread is created.
The last thing I'll leave you with is that every forum, and sub-forum for that matter, have a vibe, or feel to the place. Looking for some laughs and to get your racist on, head to the Gee Bee. Want to seek others that share a kink for Barbie dolls dressed up like GI Joe dolls lubily slipped into your B-Hole while watching midget porn, go hang at the Fetish and Sexuality Board. Point being, that there probably is a home for this type of thread, but probably not here, in the HT.
Here are a few things to think about:
I have seen some threads started about things that made me go "duh, are you serious". But if you bear in mind that some people haven't experienced life the same as yourself, had a different or limited upbringing, poor, little, or no education, and may have limited or no exposure to a great deal of the things we find commonplace and part of our everyday, then you can appreciate why someone would nervously type out a few sentences and ask a community for advise, opinion, and direction.
The same applies to those that offer advise or opinion that you see and think terrible. It may very well be terrible, but it may be the best advise the poster has to offer based on their experience, or the best opinion based on what has worked for them in their life. We each walk different miles, in our own pair of shoes.
Speaking about walking, remember there are people here from all walks of life, from all the corners of the world. Results will vary, based on that alone.
The advise shared, opinions expressed, and suggestions made cost you absolutely $0.00. You can choose to ignore it all, take what is useful and discard the rest, or learn something from every shared thought, post, idea, etc. All for well under the cost of a stick of bubblegum.
I will add also, that there are folks here with book smarts, folks with street smarts, and good bunch with both. They suffer fools little, and if they can't give you an answer because they don't know, or are not qualified, they can generally point you in the direction of where you could look.
As mentioned in a post above, most, if not all of the bad advise is dealt with at the time and within the thread. Some posters - and there are some incredibly patient and compassionate folks here who will extend a hand despite having it smacked away repeatedly - will be kind, gentle, and warmly point out errors, or facts that are in fact not so factual. Others don't bother with pleasantries and will be more direct, and some will use snark. Most will ignore. And some come at things rudely and with guns drawn. Regardless, all of the above usually gets the point across to the OP, shortly after the thread is created.
The last thing I'll leave you with is that every forum, and sub-forum for that matter, have a vibe, or feel to the place. Looking for some laughs and to get your racist on, head to the Gee Bee. Want to seek others that share a kink for Barbie dolls dressed up like GI Joe dolls lubily slipped into your B-Hole while watching midget porn, go hang at the Fetish and Sexuality Board. Point being, that there probably is a home for this type of thread, but probably not here, in the HT.
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Well
Nail polish advice in 'how to' sucked.
Best stuff is the non toxic brands.
I use the base coat, color and top coat.
Lasts six days easy.
Nice saturated color.
No irritation, no chemical smell.
Awesome.
Nail polish advice in 'how to' sucked.
Best stuff is the non toxic brands.
I use the base coat, color and top coat.
Lasts six days easy.
Nice saturated color.
No irritation, no chemical smell.
Awesome.
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One time someone said, "Ask NippleMuncher". *shivers*
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Duty ???
""Nobody has a duty to be an expert, but they do have a duty to be quiet when they have no clue what they speak of.""
DUTY?? For some idiots that seems to be seen as a DUTY to post crap and knock people who are trying to help!!
I've seen this over and over in my TRY THIS thread. Mostly women proudly proclaiming that because THEY have never experienced a G-Gasm of any sort then what I am offering is complete bullshit. The most common thread there seems to be, "If I don't know about this "trigger" then, as a man, it is IMPOSSIBLE for YOU to know something about MY body that I don't know myself." It makes them SPITTING MAD too, apparently.
If it wasn't for the really great feedback there were times when I wanted to walk away and delete the link. I was banned from several sites because they were heavily moderated and the moderators chose to side with the naysayers because, obviously, they had no experience with G's either.
It's a very sad state of humanity when people with either NO (or dangerous) knowledge of the subject can attract the same audience as those actually trying to help, inform, guide, share. Of all the sites that I posted my TRY THIS advice in this one is the only one where MOST OF THE TIME others with a little maturity have also offered advice to those who have been not 100% successful in getting their G's to fire as described. I have never professed to KNOW IT ALL and I greatly appreciate some of the feedback because I have learned a lot here too. I just wish those who know NOTHING would STFU, listen and learn or just go away until they're old enough to contribute ... even if their only contribution is a valid question.
""Nobody has a duty to be an expert, but they do have a duty to be quiet when they have no clue what they speak of.""
DUTY?? For some idiots that seems to be seen as a DUTY to post crap and knock people who are trying to help!!
I've seen this over and over in my TRY THIS thread. Mostly women proudly proclaiming that because THEY have never experienced a G-Gasm of any sort then what I am offering is complete bullshit. The most common thread there seems to be, "If I don't know about this "trigger" then, as a man, it is IMPOSSIBLE for YOU to know something about MY body that I don't know myself." It makes them SPITTING MAD too, apparently.
If it wasn't for the really great feedback there were times when I wanted to walk away and delete the link. I was banned from several sites because they were heavily moderated and the moderators chose to side with the naysayers because, obviously, they had no experience with G's either.
It's a very sad state of humanity when people with either NO (or dangerous) knowledge of the subject can attract the same audience as those actually trying to help, inform, guide, share. Of all the sites that I posted my TRY THIS advice in this one is the only one where MOST OF THE TIME others with a little maturity have also offered advice to those who have been not 100% successful in getting their G's to fire as described. I have never professed to KNOW IT ALL and I greatly appreciate some of the feedback because I have learned a lot here too. I just wish those who know NOTHING would STFU, listen and learn or just go away until they're old enough to contribute ... even if their only contribution is a valid question.
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