Working at Polyamory

[Zeda]

Several years ago, I had a brief but enjoyable polyamorist relationship. Although it lasted less than a year and ended ugly (don't most relationships) I have not been in a more satifying relationship. Anyone involved in long term satisfying poly relationships? What's the key? and how did you introduce the poly element? Anyone have a poly house?

 

[dizzylia]

Several years ago, I had a brief but enjoyable polyamorist relationship. Although it lasted less than a year and ended ugly (don't most relationships) I have not been in a more satifying relationship. Anyone involved in long term satisfying poly relationships? What's the key? and how did you introduce the poly element? Anyone have a poly house?

I am currently, yes. And I was the introduced element, so I'm not sure if I can be of help at all. I've been with them (a married couple) for over two years now, and it has definitely been satisfying both emotionally and certainly sexually. Usually.

As for a key, I really don't know. Being comfortable and communicative are key. Being honest and open to both criticism and opinion as well. Beyond that... every mix is different.

 

[MissBri]

 

[dizzylia]

Much agreed. I think another aspect is that jealousy tends to be present less when individuals are comfortable with themselves.

Absolutely. Jealousy starts to peek through when one (or more) in the poly relationship starts to think they're being left out of something. Talk, talk, and talk some more! Touch base every month or so just to make sure everyone's on the same page.

(Dizzylia - is that Morena Baccarin in your av?)

Yes! She's gorgeous. And I just really loved this particular photo of her from "Firefly".

 

[MissBri]

 

[MAHOOD]

Polyy mmf - great idea!

I believe mmf is the perfect "family"
She gets to be queen bee.
We do wear out rather qickly, you know.

And that also applies to having to listen to her talk all the time.

And then, there's sharing the expense of a woman--they're all high maintaience.
But, it's worth it.
Particularly if there's another guy around to help foot the bill.

Dont'e worry, guys
You might get jealous in the middle of the night when you hear them together.
But you know he can't last as long as she can.
And she will be quite willing to join you in due time.

Tlhen,as the years go by, my quipment is more likely to wear out sooner than hers. So, why shouldn't she have a spare?

Mahood

 

[dizzylia]

I believe mmf is the perfect "family"
She gets to be queen bee.
We do wear out rather qickly, you know.

And that also applies to having to listen to her talk all the time.

And then, there's sharing the expense of a woman--they're all high maintaience.
But, it's worth it.
Particularly if there's another guy around to help foot the bill.

Dont'e worry, guys
You might get jealous in the middle of the night when you hear them together.
But you know he can't last as long as she can.
And she will be quite willing to join you in due time.

Tlhen,as the years go by, my quipment is more likely to wear out sooner than hers. So, why shouldn't she have a spare?

Mahood

*grins* Well. That's one way of looking at it, I suppose. I prefer the FFM variety, myself. Double-team! Rar.

 

[Zeda]

I believe mmf is the perfect "family"
She gets to be queen bee.
We do wear out rather qickly, you know.

And that also applies to having to listen to her talk all the time.

Mahood

I have never really thought of it that way. I seem to be drawn to the larger poly family. For some reason it seems natural to me that a family have 4 or 5 adults... I am fond of the queen bee aspect, but in reality I see one women doing a awfull lot of laundry when she could just use the vibe for satisfaction.

 

[MissBri]

 

[lincoln1977]

As a straight guy I would like to be in FFM. strangely it wouldnt bother me if the ladies wer bi or not. sex isnt that all important to me. Of course I am 29 yr old virgin. For some odd reason I have no problem serving women. whatever they wanted I would give. Not sure why. Hell I can even say no to a woman. I guess the only thing I would want in exchange would be simply stability. The kind of stableness a woman can provide. Id give up any chance of ever having sex if it meant they were willing to offer that stabiliity and companionship even for a short time.

 

[BohemianEcstasy]

I started identifying poly after I realized that I don't do monogamy well. (I know, you have to have all relationships as strong as if they are each the only relationship, but for me, knowing I am not chained to one person, I'm a lot happier.) I don't care what gender mix (although I would like there to be at least one other man and one other woman, but after that, whatever). And I want a poly house SO MUCH. Kids, pets, the whole works. *sigh*