Womens orgasm question?

[kerkri04]

Since womens sexual satisfaction is largely dependent on clitoral stimulation, do they enjoy the act of intercourse as much as men? Do they receive the same amount of stimulation as a man? How?

 

[TBKahuna123]

Since womens sexual satisfaction is largely dependent on clitoral stimulation, do they enjoy the act of intercourse as much as men? Do they receive the same amount of stimulation as a man? How?

I have been with women who require clitoral stimulation to orgasm and yes they still enjoy intercourse. It still feels good, just isn't enough stimulation to push them over the top.

Do they recieve as much stimulation as a man, that's a tough question. I mean, I've never been a chick, so who knows. Personally though, I don't think it matters. Just because something doesn't make you cum doesn't make it less pleasurable. For example, my wife like anal play, but she doesn't orgasm from it. She enjoys breast play, but she doesn't cum from it. Similarly I enjoy having my balls played with, but I don't cum from it. Orgasm doesn't equal pleasure necessarily.

There's a lot more to sexual stimulation than does it make you cum? It's a myth that women have to cum from certain kinds of stimulation. If your lady only cums from clitoral stimulation, then rub her clit while you are having PIV intercourse. This isn't a bad thing to do, it's not a failing on the part of either partner, it doesn't mean she doesn't like intercourse, it simply means this is how her body works.

 

[Eilan]

I have an orgasm almost every time my hubby and I have PIV sex because we use positions that create the perfect "angle" for him to hit my g-spot. However, it "feels" good even when I don't.

And what TBK said.

 

[ickle_stace]

I've only ever cum from PIV alone once, and that was because he slid all the way inside me, then all the way out, and then back in again, otherwise it only happens when my clit is being stimulated as well

 

[bisexplicit]

Since womens sexual satisfaction is largely dependent on clitoral stimulation, do they enjoy the act of intercourse as much as men? Do they receive the same amount of stimulation as a man? How?

Your question would make sense to me if you haven't been married for thirty five years.

Anyway, it was pretty much answered in the previous posts.

 

[ickle_stace]

Your question would make sense to me if you haven't been married for thirty five years.

Anyway, it was pretty much answered in the previous posts.

maybe he is curious as to whether his wife enjoyed penetration like he did when she was more into having sex?

just a thought

 

[kerkri04]

I have an orgasm almost every time my hubby and I have PIV sex because we use positions that create the perfect "angle" for him to hit my g-spot. However, it "feels" good even when I don't.

And what TBK said.

What positions work best?

 

[Emerald Eyed]

I love intercourse.

I feel so full, so wanted
Very womanly.

I don't orgasm from intercourse.

I respond best to oral sex with orgasm follwed by intercourse. It keeps me at a nice state of arousal.

I also love to be teased.


Oral, then sex, then oral then sex then oral to top me off

 

[kerkri04]

Your question would make sense to me if you haven't been married for thirty five years.

Anyway, it was pretty much answered in the previous posts.

You've made a good point. May I explain?

For the first half of our marriage we had no problems. After her hysterectomy my wife has lost all intrest and desire for sex. She says its due to the surgery. I can't help but wonder if it might be something I've done (or not done).

Does that make any more sense?

 

[kerkri04]

I love intercourse.

I feel so full, so wanted
Very womanly.

I don't orgasm from intercourse.

I respond best to oral sex with orgasm follwed by intercourse. It keeps me at a nice state of arousal.

I also love to be teased.


Oral, then sex, then oral then sex then oral to top me off

Oral used to work every time. After surgery she says shes lost feeling "down there". Thanks for your input. All suggestions are really appreciated.

 

[Eilan]

What positions work best?

For us, spooning works best. Rear-entry positions are good as well.

YMMV, of course.

BTW--has your wife talked to her gyn about the problems she's having?

 

[clive522]

When a hysterectomy is performed by what is now regarded as 'old methods' there was always a possibility of severing one or more main nerve routes.
This can always lead to real problems.

 

[bisexplicit]

You've made a good point. May I explain?

For the first half of our marriage we had no problems. After her hysterectomy my wife has lost all intrest and desire for sex. She says its due to the surgery. I can't help but wonder if it might be something I've done (or not done).

Does that make any more sense?

Yes, it does, sorry for being doubtful.

 

[Noneyabizness]

You've made a good point. May I explain?

For the first half of our marriage we had no problems. After her hysterectomy my wife has lost all intrest and desire for sex. She says its due to the surgery. I can't help but wonder if it might be something I've done (or not done).

Does that make any more sense?

If your wife had her ovaries removed at the time of the hysterectomy, that could be the issue. Hormone levels drop, as I am sure you are aware. She may need hormone replacement, or if already on hormones, an adjustment. Ask her to speak with her GYN about what is going on with her.

 

[kerkri04]

For us, spooning works best. Rear-entry positions are good as well.

YMMV, of course.

BTW--has your wife talked to her gyn about the problems she's having?

1) What is YMMV?
2) Yes, she initially saw several GYNs. She tried hormone therapy including ESTROTEST which includes testerone. Nothing changed.
3) She lost both ovaries in the surgery. She wishes now she would never have had the surgery. She had endemetrosis, ovarian cysts, and rough periods. She asked several Dr's for surgery and they refused. Finally found one who agreed to do it. Be careful what you wish for.
4) After so many years she feels this is normal for her and she is no longer looking for a solution. She has accepted it.
5)This has had a devastating effect on our marriage. No more cudeling, no more hand holding,kissing,or hugging. Out of pitty, I think, she will accomodate me occasionally. But there is clearly no enjoyment for her. Its just another chore. I want to spend a lot of time on forplay, including oral, to reignite the old spark.But she wants to just hurry up and get it over.
6) The real kicker came a couple of months ago when she suggested I look elsewhere sor sexual satisfaction. I didn't think she really ment it until she pointed out that several former presidents had both
wives and mistresses.
7)I don't want to destroy my marriage and I don't want to hire a hooker. I want some intimacy and feeling for a woman. I don't know what to do.

I'm sorry to have gone on at such length. I guess I needed to vent.

 

[Eilan]

1) What is YMMV?

Your mileage may vary.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Ahhh the smoke clears. First off, no this isn't anything you have done, so put that out of your mind. This is a pretty common occurance with women who are menopausal, either naturally or due to having their ovaries removed. This screws up their hormones and that's what kills the sex drive. If she's saw her OBGYN and there was no help, then I would go see a specialist.

My wife and I have found that her ability to cum from PIV sex is primarily mental, though I'm sure hormones have something to do with that. As for the lack of physical but non-sexual intimacy, I would definitely reccomend a marriage counselor. That can help a lot.

Good luck with this man, it's a tough situation to be in.

 

[Cathleen]

I'm sorry for your situation kerkri. Thanks for sharing so much.

Regarding orgasms and intercourse, I feel much the same as Emerald Eye expressed. There is a very womanly feel with intercourse. Obviously there is the physical connection but even more the emotional connection is unmatchable in my experience. I can orgasm with penetration, usually after a first or more climax. If the position is right and the forcefulness of the thrust I can usually have an orgasm. As others have said, climaxing is not always the goal during that time but ...

I have heard of menopause being a sort of death to a woman's sex drive. I feel very lucky that this hasn't happened for me and hopefully won't as I move through it. Your wife's statement of you finding other women for you sexual needs must be tough to deal with on many levels. I can't imagine being in either situation.

I wish you the best.

 

[1337_G1RL]

Since womens sexual satisfaction is largely dependent on clitoral stimulation, do they enjoy the act of intercourse as much as men? Do they receive the same amount of stimulation as a man? How?

I can honestly say that it is easy for me to get an orgasm from vaginal intercourse, but that is not the same for all women. I have a higher sex drive than most people, so that is probably why. Clitoral stimulation makes it easier to get an orgasm quicker.

Tip: Take your time when having sex with a woman, sex is something to be enjoyed and it is not a race. She will climax easier if you don't treat it as something to be done and over with quickly. If your partner is having problems with having an orgasm then it may be worth spending more time on clitoral stimulation before sex to get her more excited... then it will be easier for her to cum when you have sex with her... other than that you can get her a vibrator and have fun with that too.

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