Women's first time - did it hurt?

it didnt hurt for me at all. no bleeding nothing. I felt so comfortable with him. there was lots of foreplay and everything. we had pretty much turned it into a day (and night) of fun. I lost my virginity a little over a year ago, in the afternoon, during a thunderstorm no less. it was one of those things that my mind wasnt so much on if it hurt or not, but whether or not it felt good.
 
No. No pain for me. I didn't even bleed until the second time and it was just minimal.

I think Willing & Unsure makes a good point about how foreplay really makes the first time so much easier.
 
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hey everyone
my first time was about a yr ago. Yeah im pretty young. We both were virgins...it did kinda hurt, I guess cause I was more nervous about the whole thing that i forgot to even enjoy what was going on. he was great though. Actually, my first time all the way in was on top. He just couldnt get it in me on my back. hehehe.
I love him...Hopefully we going to be getting married soon.

Hunh Tupak???


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the entire experience was horrible.

i was 16 and date raped.
 
Ummm felt like I was being ripped apart. But after all, I was so inexperienced that I didn't know that when yer a virgin and you have sex with a guy who has an 8 inch long penis that is as wide as 3 of my fingers....well.....let's just say I was young and dumb.
 
passing through reading, the posts, i cant really voice an opnion on this from a womans point of view, but i can say this much i was sore the next day some what, and from taking human sexualities class, not all women bleed their first time having sex
 
i was 16 and it didn't hurt one bit. I had used tampons from about age 12 on and masturbated also. When I did have sex for the first time it was with someone I loved a lot and felt totally comfortable with.
 
Forgive me for nto giving details at this moment but im tired......
But my answer to your question, Did it hurt? A little, but nothing like i thought it would.
 
vagina_schmagina said:
Well, I am now officially terrified about losing my hymen. *shiver* :eek:

Sigh...don't be hon. Take your time. Make sure it's a relaxed and loving situation and I think you'll find it's not all that bad.

Obviously different people have different reactions...and there is a HUGE spectrum of just how much pain is involved.

However, after reading a couple of your posts I have to wonder if you are in a place in your life where this would be a good situation for you. Maybe I'm full of shit...but I would like to think in a secure relationship, and from a mature, ready, mindset the fears and apprehensions wouldn't seem so bad. It seems to be that you're really concerned about this...maybe so much that it indicates you're not ready?

Just a thought. Take care of yourself; best of luck.
 
My hymen was not intact the first time i had consensual sex.....

Sex. It hurt. I bled a bit, but that was due to not being wet enough, and his cock being huge..... ( I was terrified, but wanted to get it over with).

Anyhoos. I got over it. and the first couple years of my sex life sucked ass.. until i met my ex husband, who was patient, and gave me my first o... :)
 
Lossing it

Im a 20 year old virgin and just recently started a relationship. We have been together for almost 3 months now. Reading these posts scares me shitless. BLEEDING? OMG!! My question to that is, how does the guy feel? Does bleeding gross him out and not want to be with you afterwards or what? How can one prepare not to get everything all bloody? Should I have a towel under me the first time I have sex just in case I do bleed, and what if it gets on the guy? So many questions to be answered.

But I also heard if you did a lot of sports you could have torn your Hymen like that. That is my case, i've been doing several sports over the years from tae kwon do to gymnastics to basketball. I don't know if mine broke or not after all those sports. All i know is, its hard for me to stick a finger in me, and I NEVER used a tampon before. OUCH!
 
I personally do not...

understand why everyone is so scared of the first time. Yes it is more then likely going to hurt. But think of it this way...(this is how I got thru my delivery of my son)...the pain will only be there for a short time...and not your whole life time. But a wonderful sex life is ahead of you. And for me...that moment of pain...was so well worth it. I can't get enough sex. And so...once it is over...it is OVER!!

As for blood. I have only ever heard of a few that have bleed a lot. For me...it was such a mere bit...that yes a towel would have been nice. But not enough that it soaked the mattress.
 
hmm... well my first time was consensual with someone I deeply love. I felt pressure, and then intense pain, but then my lover's dick got past the hymen I suppose, and it felt so good I shouted at him to press deeper... and pulled his body down as hard as I could. It seemed to be done so fast I was reeling in shock... and I bled for like 2 days after... Every successive time has brought me to orgasm.. and the first time was definitely a good memory.
 
Re: Lossing it

Sarcasm82 said:

But I also heard if you did a lot of sports you could have torn your Hymen like that. That is my case, i've been doing several sports over the years from tae kwon do to gymnastics to basketball. I don't know if mine broke or not after all those sports. All i know is, its hard for me to stick a finger in me, and I NEVER used a tampon before. OUCH!

Not everyone has a painful first. However as to playing sports, that is such a myth, You would think that riding bicycles and horses, and other such sports would lessen the pain. It didn't for me, and I was even comfortably wearing tampons long before the big event. Just remember, how much fun it will be after the first time!:catgrin:
 
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