Women who crave/want to be called slut, whore...humiliating names????

[Totally_Unsure]

Women that want/crave to be called humiliating names during sexual play, or not???

Hello All,

I have been wondering about this for quite some time and thought I would post it here at Lit. to see what other's opinions are on the subject.

I know that there are a lot of women who are repulsed and even feel it is
vulgar to be called certain names when they are sexually turned on; slut, whore, bitch etc. etc. Yes, I know there are more 'creative' names I could jot down. But I think you understand what I am getting at. On the other side, there are women that actually want to be called these names. In fact, having these names, among others, said to them during sexual play, only heightens their sexual fever.

My question is, what makes some women want/crave this and others to find it repulsive??

Thanks,
Totally

 

[Softouch911]

You've been asking some interesting questions, Totally Unsure. Thanks.

Just to give you an opinion, not well thought out, wouldn't it make sense that her reaction would be conditioned by her background? I'm thinking of a friend who is comfortable with most of the words we could use, but is incensed when anyone uses the word "bitch" because, she says, she was teased with the name, and some cruelty, when she was a tender age. I suppose the words are arousing when they are words that have been taboo in our past, and playing with the taboo (we all know) is exciting.

I'm sure someone will give you a more thoughtful response. Excuse mine if it seems too obvious.

 

[Epona's Chylde]

I absolutely adore name calling although I couldn't tell you why. It just turns me on in a major way.

I'm not sure why it bothers some women so much.

 

[Master Sensei]

My question is, what makes some women want/crave this and others to find it repulsive??

Thanks,
Totally

You got a problem with that cunt????

 

[softheart1]

I don't know about other women, but its a big turn on for me

 

[Shy_Joanna]

I don't know about other women, but its a big turn on for me

I agree...it really gets me going! It totally adds to the whole atmosphere when I'm being Dominated. Yum!

 

[gingermango]

You've been asking some interesting questions, Totally Unsure. Thanks.

Just to give you an opinion, not well thought out, wouldn't it make sense that her reaction would be conditioned by her background? I'm thinking of a friend who is comfortable with most of the words we could use, but is incensed when anyone uses the word "bitch" because, she says, she was teased with the name, and some cruelty, when she was a tender age. I suppose the words are arousing when they are words that have been taboo in our past, and playing with the taboo (we all know) is exciting.

I'm sure someone will give you a more thoughtful response. Excuse mine if it seems too obvious.

I don't think your response is too obvious at all. On the contrary, I think you nailed the best explanations, especially why it's a turn on for some. As you say, "playing with the taboo is exciting." Being a male sub whose domme adores gender play and forced-fem, derogatory female names get both of us going, big time. She loves to call me her bitch, her slut and and her whore when she makes me go down on her strap-on or lay on my back and pull my legs up for her, especially while she's got me bound and cross-dressed. It hits all our societal taboos about sex (and in my case, gender role).

 

[Totally_Unsure]

Hello All, again

Thanks for the replys so far. I don't quite no why it is a turn on either. In fact, the dirtier, the better for me Who knows, maybe it does have something to do with how someone was raised or their enviroment growing up. I sure would be interested in knowing the reason why though.

Master Sensei??????......Now now, you know that only works when a woman is turned on, . Wait!!!! I am, I am!!!!

Thanks,
Totally

p.s I happen to agree about the taboo idea as well. For some, the more taboo, the more of a turn on

 

[graceanne]

I think that some women enjoy what others would see as 'dirty' or 'nasty' (like women who like anal sex just cause it's 'bad'). I think that's the same reason they like to be called names. Because it's something that they normally wouldn't allow, that they've been taught not to allow.

I, personally, don't enjoy name calling.

 

[shy slave]

It depends who is name calling and why.

In Uk it appears that the word 'cunt' is the last taboo.
Women appear to hate to hear it and I have even heard it refered to as "the 'c' word."

I love it as a word and think women should claim it back as a word to be proud of.
There is also the shock value of it

If he is name calling at the right time place etc its erotic.
If someone uses name calling in anger it has always amused me.
I know the level of their intelligence if a few rude words is the best they can do.

Many years ago an ex called me names in anger, it made it very easy to leave. Why would I want a man with limited vocabulary?

 

[Andante]

Why would I want a man with limited vocabulary?

Well, then why did you end up with a bloody foreigner?

 

[graceanne]

Well, then why did you end up with a bloody foreigner?

duh! It's the accent!

 

[Neomagalie]

.....

 

[serijules]

I love it. I get all hot and bothered when D calls me her slut or whatnot. It makes me blush and shiver. But only when D does it. Anyone else trys that and they will have two very pissed off women after them.

 

[catalina_francisco]

If anyone else takes the liberty of applying such names to me without his express permission, it does not go well for them. That being said, if he uses them they will do little to affect me unless there is a real basis for his name calling....eg. it is pointless calling me a slut if I live a pristine and almost chaste existence, just sort of becomes a 'yeah, OK' situation and falls under role playing as in unreal and thus no reason to get excited, upset or otherwise. Thank goodness he has reason to call me the things he does, and we both enjoy it for the power it holds. Just wish he were not 2000 kms away from me right now.

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[debbiev]

Cave men and cave women

It's a major turn on for me. I love being taken control of (sexually) by a man. So the more control the better. So call me ever name in the book....I'll just get wetter.

I think it has something to do with the fact that the man is supposed to make the decisions and provide security. Probably goes back to the cave man/cave woman mentality. The decision during sex is taking what he wants no matter what. MMMMMMMMMMMM.

 

[sxylilslut]

I don't know why some like it and some don't, just like I don't know why some like pain and some don't... I just know I crave this kind of verbal humiliation and much worse than being called a "slut", and it has to come from within, like he has to enjoy calling me names as much as I enjoy being called names. Can it be the fact he is verbalizing just how much more "important" he is that is turning me on?

 

[shy slave]

duh! It's the accent!

Y' know i thought he was bright....

Gracie is right, its the accent!!

 

[shy slave]

The tone as a lot to do with it. A_S could talk to me about rubbing elbows in German or Russian but take the same tone as he would use as he lovingly calls me his bitch or his sweet slut and it would result in the same puddle making whimper.

Oh I agree its all in the tone,

He could say anything to me in a particular tone and I would follow his voice, even reading aloud from a Danish technical book would work.

But, rude words said in a soft accented voice can send me skywards everytime

 

[His_pita]

I like it too and don't know why. I certainly don't want to be called a slut or bitch outside of having sex, but in the moment, when it feels right it's a huge turn on for me. If I had to guess I would say because all my life I have stived to be the "good girl" and being called such names during sex triggers something in me that lets the slut/whore/bitch out to have some fun. I get to indulge in all the taboo feelings I want in those moments.

 

[graceanne]

Y' know i thought he was bright....

Gracie is right, its the accent!!

Well, it's not like he needs to know all that many words. He just has to say them in that accent of his, and you're a puddle.

 

[Andante]

duh! It's the accent!

But....? gracieeee...! You have heard me on the phone.....surely you can testify to the fact that I have a perfect English pronunciation!!!

 

[graceanne]

But....? gracieeee...! You have heard me on the phone.....surely you can testify to the fact that I have a perfect English pronunciation!!!

Yeah, I could . . . but then I'd have to ask God for forgiveness tonight. You know - for lying?

 

[NaughtySlave]

I absolutely LOVE being called dirty names by my Master.The dirtier the word,the better,and wetter I get! I especially love it when he says "Yeah,you like that,don't you cunt/whore/slut?Oh god that is such a turnon.If He wouldn't say it,it wouldn't be the same.

 

[h_i_s]

............. My question is, what makes some women want/crave this and others to find it repulsive??

Thanks,
Totally

i am one of those women who finds being called humiliating names repulsive. i am also one of those women who want/crave to be called humiliating names, TOO (all forms of 'dirty talk' to be included here, such as being told to, "get down on my knees and use my mouth for what it is best for", and, "i know you feel those hot welts on your ass, just as much as i know that even while you pray i'll stop, your pussy is so dripping wet that it always gives you away ... you're a pain slut and we both know it")!

When called any one of the many humiliating names imaginable, my reactions will vary between very aroused & dripping wet, to very angered and suddenly capable of delivering serious levels of bodily harm. Which reaction i may arrive at depends upon WHO is doing the name calling, and more importantly, it is dependent upon that person's intent.

i've been called slut, whore, and bitch (don't know any woman who hasn't been), by those who have meant to cause me emotional harm for whatever their reasons may be. i can't speak for anyone else, and when i've been called those names and others, by anyone intending to hurt me, they have always failed in obtaining that goal. i know who i am, and for anyone else to suggest otherwise will only provoke anger from me, but not due to any insecurities on my part ... it's the understanding that they WISH to cause harm, which will piss me off. It's never even been about any arguement or defense as to whether i am or am not a slut, whore or a bitch. It's all about the intentions behind the name calling, in my case.

i DO love when my Master has called me any of those names, as well as others. i CAN answer why i enjoy it coming from Him .... For once in my life, i am free to trust & free to act out, and live my wildest dreams and fantasies. i can be HIS slut and feel no shame. He uses the words with pride. He never calls me any names with harmful or mean intent. He uses them as terms of endearment, and hearing these words coming from Him gives me good reason to be proud. Am i a slut? For HIM i am.