Women: How do you masturbate?

[SpecialK]

What I mostly want to know (well, what my kid sister mostly wants to know) is how did you start masturbating?

When you masturbate, does it require a specific mindset? Do you play through a scenario in your head? How do you get in that right horny frame of mind?

Any virgins out there who masturbate?

My sis can't find anything that works for her thus far and she's getting frustrated with the whole thing. Personally I don't think she's fantasizing enough or being patient enough with herself.

Any women out there who have some pointers for my novice sibling?

K

 

[Guest]

I am a 21-year-old virgin who masturbates. Yes, I almost always do play through a fantasy to get in the mood. More often than not, I continue the fantasy throughout masturbating though sometimes I leave it behind and am simply making love to myself without imagining that I'm with anyone else.

It took me a while to really get the hang of the physical side of masturbation--for some reason, for a long time it was mainly just my fantasies that excited me, and masturbating added a little to them but not a lot. It took time for me to learn how to really focus on the physical sensations and appreciate them.

I've found that for me it works much better to masturbate with something other than just my hands. I'm not sure why; it could be that my own fingers are just too familiar--I touch my crotch with them too often for nonsexual reasons, washing or putting tampons in or whatever--and therefore not that exciting. I've never tried sex toys; I often use a highlighter pen as a dildo and have also found that simply rubbing against the bedclothes can be very exciting.

One important thing is simply to stay focused--it's too easy for one's mind to wander, and if you let yourself start thinking about tomorrow's dinner or something, you're doomed!

 

[Cheyenne]

You have an unusually open sister to ask for help with masturbating.

This is one of my favorite activities. It has been in a few other threads about sex toys, but here we go again. Get her a vibrator! If she is a virgin, just a vibrator should do it. But if she stretches herself to make it fit, a vibrating dildo toy is great. I've recommended it before on this board but my favorite is still the beaver. Twisting shaft for inside of you, and vibrating "beaver tongue" for the clit. The feeling of being full is important to me so vibrators alone don't work as well anymore.

Thinking sexy thoughts also helps. But if I'm in a hurry and just looking for release, sexy thoughts are't even necessary anymore for me.

 

[Luci]

Your sister needs to try out a jacuzzi! It enhances any maturbating techniques! And leads to some great orgasms!

 

[Melody_lane]

I masturbate well, very very well.

 

[Gingersnap]

With a whip and chair!!!!

 

[Lajo]

Melody....could I watch?
Was listening to Prairie Home Companion today and one of the skits had a character named Melody Lane. Made me think of you!

 

[Melody_lane]

You mean you don't have pictures?

Now I know THAT guy.


*laughing my ass off*

 

[Tinman]

SpecialK, have your sister read some of the erotic writing available on this site (Literotica.com).

She'll find a wide selection, surely something that really touches the G-spot of her mind: M/F, F/F, Groups, Incest, BW, SM ... God! It's endless. There's something for her, you can be sure.

All turn-ons begin in the mind, so work on her mind first. Keeping focus, as Miriam sugested is important too. Focusing on a story that gets to her can help. When her mind gets so saturated with the thoughts turning her on, she can drift off and let the physical take over. Hope she makes it soon ... and often!

 

[SimplySouthern]

As I have found the brain to be the biggest sexual organ, I would say a BIG thumbs-up to Tinman's advice. Seems to me that your sister needs to first find out what turns her on and go from there. A sampling of the fine literary works here should do the trick!

Good luck to her!

~Southern~

 

[SpecialK]

Thank you for the suggestions, everyone! I will pass them on to my sister.

It seems that the problem my sister has is that she feels she does not have enough time to devote to a good masturbation session. And while she has read erotic stories, mine as well as those by others, she says they don't do anything for her aside from provide an entertaining and educating read.

We do have a very close relationship (not THAT close!) that allows us to talk about these things, but there is a part of me that thinks it is a bit perverse to discuss such things, even with my dear sibling.

K

 

[Guest]

I suggest lying down under the faucet in the bathtub.....and masturbating while changing the temperature of the water.