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[SpicyBean99]

I find it can be a weird one to bring up. Some of my exs have been kinky fuckers and slide a finger or tongue near to test the waters but other times ive been too nervy to ask. Pegging for me is a big one. Ass stretching I enjoy too at times with the right toy.

 

[SpicyBean99]

I am fully on board about the conversation! When someone makes me feel like they want to talk to me and vice versa? It's the biggest plus in a person!

There's so many ways to describe the magnetism and the the dynamics of lust and desire but even exhausting the dictionary I don't think I could do it justice. Sometimes that connection and want it just feels *right* for me. and I agree about sometimes the lust feeling shallow. Particularly if they can't hold a conversation and then I just feel like I'm being discarded.

I think the draw to me is the power dynamic. Similar to CNC the lack of control in hypnosis is drawing. Except rather than the sub not being able to escape their Dom/abuser (if that's the right word) physically, they can't escape them physically or mentally either. Like they're powerless to another person. Though yes seeing a beautiful posterior or boobs hypnotize me is admittedly fucking awesome! And to your last question I have hypnotized someone sort of. It was an open relationship hypno sub and he entrusted me with some trigger words. It was fun but it was kind of pre set up if that makes sense

I can see the appeal in the helplessness side of it, especially when it’s mental rather than physical. That speaks to my bratty subby side for sure…

I feel like hypnosis requires a lot of trust and a strong connection with a partner… trigger words make sense in that case but maybe also feel a little safe? But maybe that’s the point… I think what I’m most curious about is whether the appeal is knowing you could lose control, or actually not seeing it coming at all… because the trigger words make it seem like you want some level of control? Maybe I’m not understanding…

And I like that you mentioned feeling disposable when there’s no conversation. That’s a fast way to kill attraction. It’s the exact same for me too. Especially regarding sexual conversations. I require (yes, require) balance. I want to know what you had for dinner, how your day was at work, what made you happy/sad as much as I want you to ask me how horny I am… but one can’t come without the other and vice Versa. I often, sadly leave people on read or don’t respond when I feel that balance is off. Maybe I have been the reason people have felt discarded in the past because of the latter… mmm

 

[desperado1089]

Thankyou to those that answered/sent in DMs

I’ll answer a few myself:

1) Men: beards (hairy men ), preferably a bigger build (bonus points for beer bellies and strong shoulders), funny (I love dry, sarcastic humour, laughing is so key to me being turned on.) if you look like a pirate I’ll probably fancy the fuck out of you. Moustaches also do something to me. Intelligence obviously. Women: all women. I like curvier bodies anyone that doesn’t look “womanly” is immediately a turn off for me I’m not into the super super 2000s skinny look… I prefer Greek goddess esque types… I also love androgynous and more butch women; short hair, masculine style….

2) My type in men has changed drastically. I used to be into tall, dark and handsome with muscles and 6 packs… I grew out of that very quickly when I realised I appreciate a man who can cook me a good meal and sit and eat shit and drink with me over someone who wants to make me rice and chicken and go for runs at 5am…. Fuck me at 5am instead pls and thankyou.

3) mental. But I need some level of physical attraction too…

4) open and readable. I can understand someone being guarded but I don’t like secretive and sly behaviour.

5) n/a

6) Yes. Something about a mask…a van…. A “kidnapping”…house break in…. (consensual and planned of course.)

I should send you a picture of me, I wear an eye patch and have a hairy beer gut-like belly, although I don't drink.

 

[SpicyBean99]

I should send you a picture of me, I wear an eye patch and have a hairy beer gut-like belly, although I don't drink.

Ooh arrrr

No alcoholic beverages are necessary as long as you own a talking parrot and a boat?

 

[NewCastle89]

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lol ill pass on pegging for now but a nice plug would do
Or a nice tongue

 

[desperado1089]

Sadly, no boat, although I've always wanted one. Would rather a boat than a car tbh

 

[ChasBozwell30]

Thankyou to those that answered/sent in DMs

I’ll answer a few myself:

1) Men: beards (hairy men ), preferably a bigger build (bonus points for beer bellies and strong shoulders), funny (I love dry, sarcastic humour, laughing is so key to me being turned on.) if you look like a pirate I’ll probably fancy the fuck out of you. Moustaches also do something to me. Intelligence obviously. Women: all women. I like curvier bodies anyone that doesn’t look “womanly” is immediately a turn off for me I’m not into the super super 2000s skinny look… I prefer Greek goddess esque types… I also love androgynous and more butch women; short hair, masculine style….

2) My type in men has changed drastically. I used to be into tall, dark and handsome with muscles and 6 packs… I grew out of that very quickly when I realised I appreciate a man who can cook me a good meal and sit and eat shit and drink with me over someone who wants to make me rice and chicken and go for runs at 5am…. Fuck me at 5am instead pls and thankyou.

3) mental. But I need some level of physical attraction too…

4) open and readable. I can understand someone being guarded but I don’t like secretive and sly behaviour.

5) n/a

6) Yes. Something about a mask…a van…. A “kidnapping”…house break in…. (consensual and planned of course.)

I was going to get rid of my beard, and get in better shape, this is is making me reconsider everything!

 

[SpicyBean99]

Sadly, no boat, although I've always wanted one. Would rather a boat than a car tbh

Totally agree!!

A sailing boat would be a dream.

Or a yacht.

A girl can dream

 

[AnonymousInternetExplorer]

Jumping straight to your second paragraph...both! For me it's the idea that I could lose control and not even know. But also the thrill in knowing that inna few words my mistress or master takes me away. I think you understand it well. But maybe it doesn't appeal? Maybe what appeals to me is that someone once introduced into me in the hottest way and it stuck with me forever!

I don't think it's sad to leave someone on read I think sometimes that conversation just dies. At least from my selfish point of view. Because I (and others like yourself I assume) have high standards. Our attention has to be captivated and demanded. I love the playful banter mixed in with the mundane. Asking her what she has for dinner while telling her I wish I ate her instead...Telling him I hope he has a good day then the next telling him I wish he was on his knees for me...it's almost like a dance. And when you dance with someone who knows what they're doing? It's tenfold better

 

[ChasBozwell30]

I'm quite open to it and thankfully I'm bisexual so I've opened up to it too from men!. I think I just need to put the time aside to set it up but it almost always seems to fall flat.

Hope you get to try it, it's an incredible feeling. A very fun way to explore yourself...

 

[AnonymousInternetExplorer]

Hope you get to try it, it's an incredible feeling. A very fun way to explore yourself...

God I wish. COVID ruined so muchhh ARGH

 

[SpicyBean99]

Jumping straight to your second paragraph...both! For me it's the idea that I could lose control and not even know. But also the thrill in knowing that inna few words my mistress or master takes me away. I think you understand it well. But maybe it doesn't appeal? Maybe what appeals to me is that someone once introduced into me in the hottest way and it stuck with me forever!

I don't think it's sad to leave someone on read I think sometimes that conversation just dies. At least from my selfish point of view. Because I (and others like yourself I assume) have high standards. Our attention has to be captivated and demanded. I love the playful banter mixed in with the mundane. Asking her what she has for dinner while telling her I wish I ate her instead...Telling him I hope he has a good day then the next telling him I wish he was on his knees for me...it's almost like a dance. And when you dance with someone who knows what they're doing? It's tenfold better

you said something so poignant just then…

“ Maybe what appeals to me is that someone once introduced into me in the hottest way and it stuck with me forever.”

This is what I think can be a turning point for SO many people… someone introducing new exciting things, who shows you the ropes and gives you the space to experience something that you’ve never tried before… and it turning out to be the hottest thing you’ve ever experienced…

For example being a unicorn for the first time was so scary… meeting a well established couple and suddenly feeling very much like I was infiltrating their space and their love… but they showed me how it works and how I could eventually work them… or when I had someone make me lick up my own squirt from the floor for the first time and I thought… well fuck… I never ever thought I’d enjoy that…. It really does come down to the person who introduces you to that “thing” whatever it is…

And lastly… because i feel as though I’m rambling… that dance you’re talking about only works when both people are listening as much as they’re leading. When they are present enough to feel the timing, knowing when to say that dirty, naughty thing… not just push the next move. You are right…when someone knows what they’re doing, you don’t have to force it

 

[ChasBozwell30]

God I wish. COVID ruined so muchhh ARGH

Its not so easy to meet people, or share kinks, that's the great thing about this site, gives everyone a place to be open and talk freely. Gives you hope

 

[SpicyBean99]

I was going to get rid of my beard, and get in better shape, this is is making me reconsider everything!

I would say no to getting rid of the beard and yes to getting into shape. Being healthy is always important… but I know men that don’t have 6 packs or a huge muscles and are relatively healthy… I just… urgh I can’t help but fancy the Jack Blacks of the world

 

[NewCastle89]

I'm quite open to it and thankfully I'm bisexual so I've opened up to it too from men!. I think I just need to put the time aside to set it up but it almost always seems to fall flat.

how did you figure you were into men? Wad it a new thing in adult life? A fantasy you explored and realised? I am straight or potentially bu curious I have no idea I guess I’m still figuring it all out to.

 

[AnonymousInternetExplorer]

how did you figure you were into men? Wad it a new thing in adult life? A fantasy you explored and realised? I am straight or potentially bu curious I have no idea I guess I’m still figuring it all out to.

At risk of sounding cliche. I kind of always knew! I feels it out throughout high school and altered my preferences a bit but I was hardly ever "bi curious". Im sorry if it isn't the answer you're looking for

 

[desperado1089]

Well in that case… if people are around and willing to play?

Something a little different…

A QUESTION OF TASTE

Answer one. Answer them all. No wrong answers here and no judgment! Also absolutely no pressure to reply at all… thus comes from a place of pure curiosity.

• Do you have a type when it comes to sexual partners? What is it?

• Has your “type” changed with age and experience?

• Is attraction for you mostly physical or mostly mental?

• Does mystery heighten attraction for you, or do you prefer someone open and readable?

• Do you have a favourite kink or fetish that you come back to repeatedly. What is it?

• Have you any sexual scenarios which you enjoy reading about/ or watching that you wouldn’t partake in, in real life?

• What turns you on more: being in control, giving up control, or switching? If it’s either one or the other why?

• Do your fantasies usually involve people from your real life, the internet (porn stars/social media/here?)

• Have you discovered a new kink from spending time here?

• What’s one fantasy you’ve had for years that you know may never come to fruition?

I'll probably not answer them all, but we will see:

1. I honestly see beauty of some kind in most women. It would be easier to list physical attributes that would turn me off than on.

2. No, actually. I've only had one appearance-related preference that is fairly...I don't wanna say inflexible but it's a very strong preference, and it's stayed with me since I became aware I had it.

3. Assuming it's fairly universal that it starts physical and remains with a combination of both.

5. Women with bush getting creampies.

7. Switch

10. A threesome with Miley Cyrus and Katy Perry.

 

[NewCastle89]

At risk of sounding cliche. I kind of always knew! I feels it out throughout high school and altered my preferences a bit but I was hardly ever "bi curious". Im sorry if it isn't the answer you're looking for

I wish it was that simple for me ive been brought up around rather stoic men. Both my late father and grandfather were straight to the bone and its always been a matter of finding a women to take home and ignoring other ideas I might have had. Plenty of time for figuring out what it is I want now I think.

 

[AnonymousInternetExplorer]

I wish it was that simple for me ive been brought up around rather stoic men. Both my late father and grandfather were straight to the bone and its always been a matter of finding a women to take home and ignoring other ideas I might have had. Plenty of time for figuring out what it is I want now I think.

I wish you good luck...most of the men in my life are traditionally masculine but idk why I always liked the boys in kindergarten

 

[ChasBozwell30]

At risk of sounding cliche. I kind of always knew! I feels it out throughout high school and altered my preferences a bit but I was hardly ever "bi curious". Im sorry if it isn't the answer you're looking for

Same here, always felt very open and sexual around people, and found myself having fantasies about men and women, these have only become more elaborate as I've gotten older...

 

[SpicyBean99]

I'll probably not answer them all, but we will see:

1. I honestly see beauty of some kind in most women. It would be easier to list physical attributes that would turn me off than on.

2. No, actually. I've only had one appearance-related preference that is fairly...I don't wanna say inflexible but it's a very strong preference, and it's stayed with me since I became aware I had it.

3. Assuming it's fairly universal that it starts physical and remains with a combination of both.

5. Women with bush getting creampies.

7. Switch

10. A threesome with Miley Cyrus and Katy Perry.

I’d love to know your turn offs too!!

What is your appearance related preference?

Mmm maybe I should grow a little bush sometime… I just find it’s annoying and I never know if men like it grown out or trimmed or all off. So I’ve always kept a clean shave. I also (personally) find it much cleaner and fresher feeling when there’s 0 hair.

 

[NewCastle89]

I wish you good luck...most of the men in my life are traditionally masculine but idk why I always liked the boys in kindergarten

appreciate that bud. Quite a lot. I think I’m much more honest here than Ibe ever been elsewhere. thanking the gods this place is at least semi anonymous.

 

[NewCastle89]

I’d love to know your turn offs too!!

What is your appearance related preference?

Mmm maybe I should grow a little bush sometime… I just find it’s annoying and I never know if men like it grown out or trimmed or all off. So I’ve always kept a clean shave. I also (personally) find it much cleaner and fresher feeling when there’s 0 hair.

When I was a teen I always said Inowrfer a clean shave but this is cos most of the women I watched were big EE plastic tittied porn stars with clean shaved pussys. That taste has changed with age.

 

[SpicyBean99]

appreciate that bud. Quite a lot. I think I’m much more honest here than Ibe ever been elsewhere. thanking the gods this place is at least semi anonymous.

This thread is a semi safe place that hundreds if not millions of people can come and peruse (just remember that) but by all means do not hesitate to use this as a way to offload and figure out what you like. You can also dm me anytime if you feel like just rattling off thoughts.

That’s why it’s so amazing here! It’s THESE exact conversations that keep me coming back. It’s important to know that there will always be someone out there that does ‘get’ you and maybe can share a story or two that makes you feel less alone in your feelings!

 

[SpicyBean99]

Right people I’m heading to sleep. Thankyou for being so fun and engaging today I’ve really really enjoyed it. It’s this, whatever “this” is that I miss when I’m not around.

Sleep well, wank well, and I’ll be back tomorrow.