Will you marry me?

[Lorelei_11]

I wouldn't say we're incompatible, from my viewpoint. We may have some slight areas that don't overlap, but those are probably the things that shouldn't or don't need to overlap, for reasons of the self's need for the self's interest alone.

As just a man and woman, I'm sure we'd have fun with each other. Nobody can predict us for the sake of marriage if that's your ultimate goal, but if we can talk to each other, then we can enjoy each other. We just gotta be straight up on what we both want.

Or maybe you would truss me up in such a manner that wouldn't require me to talk in order to please your body, eh?

Yes, people have thier own interests. Our interests seem worlds apart.

I love movies, and I'd like to watch some with the person I'm with. You and I have completely different tastes. You said blockbuster movies. I wondered how often you watch them, you seemed way way way into anime and foreign films. This is from memory, because you haven't quoted our last conversation.

Where do we meet? what do we have in common, what could we share?

Meet in the bedroom? lol Sex starts outside of the bedroom Darlin.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

Yes, people have thier own interests. Our interests seem worlds apart.

I love movies, and I'd like to watch some with the person I'm with. You and I have completely different tastes. You said blockbuster movies. I wondered how often you watch them, you seemed way way way into anime and foreign films. This is from memory, because you haven't quoted our last conversation.

Where do we meet? what do we have in common, what could we share?

Meet in the bedroom? lol Sex starts outside of the bedroom Darlin.

Well as for movies, I can watch anything, if it's entertaining. My main typical American genre to watch is sci-fi/fantasy, with comedies running second. The blockbuster stuff, like the host of summer movies coming out right now, I love. Those I don't want to wait for home release to see, and the main reason for that is because of how they're designed to be seen "big and loud." If it's something more smaller or introspective, I'd wait to watch it at home. The anime and foreign films are my preference, but I'm not entirely wedded to them. Like, if we were to have a "couch movie date" and you invited me over to watch your choice of flick with you, I'd get into it. If I haven't seen it before, I'll always give it a shot. If you swear by it, then I wanna see what you dig about it so much. Who knows...maybe there's some anime and foriegn stuff you don't know about that you might get into and I could be the gateway for that.

You said you loved to cook...I'd definitely get into that. And you don't have to do seafood. To be honest, my "seafood" contribution is mostly getting shrimp or mussels to throw into my pasta or rice dinners if I cook at home. If there's something I can't make simply or well, I'd rather get it at a restaurant. Or let someone who knows their way around a kitchen do it and I'll just bring the wine.

Outside of these things...I'm not complicated at all. I'll put it this way: I'm down for doing mostly any "typical" man-woman-getting-together thing that you can think of that's pleasant and gives good vibes. You know, the walking in the park holding hands thing, the shopping together thing, going to the amusement park together thing, fixing meals in the kitchen together thing, etc...I like doing those sorta things. The constant factor that's more or less immutable for me is always myself. The difference and dynamic would always be you and my motivation and reason for it all would be in wanting to be with you, enjoying what we're doing together, finding out what we could create from the two of us, and appreciating what you give to me. Not saying there's a simplistic formula I can apply to anyone in the world, but I don't see what's difficult or so distant between bodies of even different interests if we are able to talk to each other.

We can meet where you wanna meet. We can share what you feel like sharing and vice versa. I don't ask for what I don't want and won't press for what you can't give.

Actually, the fact that you're on this sort of site and willing to share your erotic self is more than enough reason for me to like you, and for the purpose of dating, want to get to know you. I put significant stock in the erotic and sensual potential in a partner. Maybe this might be the only point that makes me not willing to settle for anything less and makes me selective about the types of women I open up fully towards, because not everyone has an erotic soul that doesn't require reading a magazine article or getting a how-to-book to force them to be dirty on purpose. I personally couldn't be with someone who wouldn't be able to let their general hair down and who wouldn't be passionate in the realm of the senses.

Yeah, sex starts outside the bedroom. It can start in the kitchen, in the outside hallway, in the front seat of the car, on the lawn in the backyard, in the aisles at the grocery...can start anywhere you'd like...just lead me...

 

[Lorelei_11]

Well as for movies, I can watch anything, if it's entertaining. My main typical American genre to watch is sci-fi/fantasy, with comedies running second. The blockbuster stuff, like the host of summer movies coming out right now, I love. Those I don't want to wait for home release to see, and the main reason for that is because of how they're designed to be seen "big and loud." If it's something more smaller or introspective, I'd wait to watch it at home. The anime and foreign films are my preference, but I'm not entirely wedded to them. Like, if we were to have a "couch movie date" and you invited me over to watch your choice of flick with you, I'd get into it. If I haven't seen it before, I'll always give it a shot. If you swear by it, then I wanna see what you dig about it so much. Who knows...maybe there's some anime and foriegn stuff you don't know about that you might get into and I could be the gateway for that.

You said you loved to cook...I'd definitely get into that. And you don't have to do seafood. To be honest, my "seafood" contribution is mostly getting shrimp or mussels to throw into my pasta or rice dinners if I cook at home. If there's something I can't make simply or well, I'd rather get it at a restaurant. Or let someone who knows their way around a kitchen do it and I'll just bring the wine.

Outside of these things...I'm not complicated at all. I'll put it this way: I'm down for doing mostly any "typical" man-woman-getting-together thing that you can think of that's pleasant and gives good vibes. You know, the walking in the park holding hands thing, the shopping together thing, going to the amusement park together thing, fixing meals in the kitchen together thing, etc...I like doing those sorta things. The constant factor that's more or less immutable for me is always myself. The difference and dynamic would always be you and my motivation and reason for it all would be in wanting to be with you, enjoying what we're doing together, finding out what we could create from the two of us, and appreciating what you give to me. Not saying there's a simplistic formula I can apply to anyone in the world, but I don't see what's difficult or so distant between bodies of even different interests if we are able to talk to each other.

We can meet where you wanna meet. We can share what you feel like sharing and vice versa. I don't ask for what I don't want and won't press for what you can't give.

Actually, the fact that you're on this sort of site and willing to share your erotic self is more than enough reason for me to like you, and for the purpose of dating, want to get to know you. I put significant stock in the erotic and sensual potential in a partner. Maybe this might be the only point that makes me not willing to settle for anything less and makes me selective about the types of women I open up fully towards, because not everyone has an erotic soul that doesn't require reading a magazine article or getting a how-to-book to force them to be dirty on purpose. I personally couldn't be with someone who wouldn't be able to let their general hair down and who wouldn't be passionate in the realm of the senses.

Yeah, sex starts outside the bedroom. It can start in the kitchen, in the outside hallway, in the front seat of the car, on the lawn in the backyard, in the aisles at the grocery...can start anywhere you'd like...just lead me...

Thankyou for letting me know that. I didn't realize you were into other movies. Sci fi is o.k for me, but I like the full variety of them. It might be possible I like some of the things you do, but it wouldn't be much if I did. O.k, so there are places we could meet. So, are you saying you don't need to eat seafood 6 days a week?

Sex can start outside of the bedroom in the places you mention, I really like the kitchen, backyard and some flirting in the isles of the grocery store would be nice. It would make shopping a much more enjoyable experience. When I said sex starts outside the bedroom, I mostly mean't it in terms of what kind of relationship you have with each other. Great relationship, and then great sex. If you are compatable with someone inside and outside of the bedroom. What you mentioned, flirting, is also necessary. In the small and big ways. Lead you, I will at times, sexually and otherwise. I prefer you to lead me, especially in the bedroom.

 

[WinterBlueAbby]

Yah, I was just being silly... and also enjoyed, as you know, the absurdity of the title for Lit Personals. But hey, more power to us!

I hear the wedding bells ringin' already

CTG

Now see, I was beginning to think you were serious...I didn't realize you were playing.

I suppose I shall unpack my bags now....sigh....

 

[dave's thing]

Hey thought I'd wonder over from the nieghbouring thread and see what kind of relief I could find over here. Been reading the posts and so far I see perfect incompatiblity. I get bored in movies and tend to play with the person I am with during them.... though I do make a good pillow during them. I hate to dance, (spent too long in the music business working with lousy acts and watching too many people dance who couldn't). I'm old (52), you're young .... though we do share the same sagging problem (mmmmm one for compatible I guess). I guess I have traditional values (family, social, etc.) but don't usually act traditional. I am not dominant at all so that probably means we will spend hours looking at each other wondering what to do. I tend to spend too much time away from home working. I stink in bed and tend to make up for it in other ways, three of which I've seen you don't like. You stay up late at night and I usually get up early so in all liklihood there'd be zero communication. You hang in good places, I hang in naughty places. And I'm not available for marriage just for a relief factor.
Now that I see it all in writing I can see how hopeless it is, so I guess I'll just go back to my thread and continue being miserable.

 

[elbieh]

You sound like just what I need !

You sound like just what I need!
Now the dating for a long time is a great idea, but I live in Texas.
If you decide to move closer, maybe we should have a little talk and see what happens!

 

[Lorelei_11]

Hey thought I'd wonder over from the nieghbouring thread and see what kind of relief I could find over here. Been reading the posts and so far I see perfect incompatiblity. I get bored in movies and tend to play with the person I am with during them.... though I do make a good pillow during them. I hate to dance, (spent too long in the music business working with lousy acts and watching too many people dance who couldn't). I'm old (52), you're young .... though we do share the same sagging problem (mmmmm one for compatible I guess). I guess I have traditional values (family, social, etc.) but don't usually act traditional. I am not dominant at all so that probably means we will spend hours looking at each other wondering what to do. I tend to spend too much time away from home working. I stink in bed and tend to make up for it in other ways, three of which I've seen you don't like. You stay up late at night and I usually get up early so in all liklihood there'd be zero communication. You hang in good places, I hang in naughty places. And I'm not available for marriage just for a relief factor.
Now that I see it all in writing I can see how hopeless it is, so I guess I'll just go back to my thread and continue being miserable.

*I'm laughing so hard*

Hey, I found something we're compatable in..... sense of humour.

I laughed and smiled all the way through that.

Oh, and I'm 45, so I'm not to young for you, are ages are quite perfect.

Although, sex, recreation, similar intrests, communication, are all badly wrong. Yes, hopeless.... I agree.

I wish I could help you with your misery, I'm going through difficult things too, mostly on my own. You never know, there could be someone here compatable with you.

With what you're looking for, you have a much, much, much better chance of finding it here than I have.

 

[Lorelei_11]

You sound like just what I need!
Now the dating for a long time is a great idea, but I live in Texas.
If you decide to move closer, maybe we should have a little talk and see what happens!

I have no plans to move anywhere near Texas. W'ed have to talk first, before I move. It would take a helluva lot of convincing for me to move. Its possible though.

 

[dave's thing]

Sex??? Did I mention sex?? mmmmmmmmmmm
<goes looking for the word sex>>>
nope sex any where around me

 

[dave's thing]

misery ..... yea I got misery. Mind if I hang over here for a bit?? That wife over there in that "closet lesbian....) thread has really pissed me off and now I am beginning to think she isn't such a good idea and that maybe you are better for me

 

[Lorelei_11]

Sex??? Did I mention sex?? mmmmmmmmmmm
<goes looking for the word sex>>>
nope sex any where around me

I think you did mention that you're not dominant in the bedroom. Which of course, is a huge problem. I like a dominant man sexually.

Yes... sex. *sigh* Sex... sometimes, I think I will have sex again. Mostly, since as you can see, I can't find anyone compatable. Mostly, I think gawd... me and my vibrators. I think, how long can I take it? I understand the men who say masturbation and porn is no longer enough, their tired of it. Its taken me longer to get tired and thoroughly depressed about it.

 

[Pheonexra]

Sex is a bonus, I prefer stimulating conversation you can get lost in.

I am just enjoying the company.

 

[Lorelei_11]

Sex is a bonus, I prefer stimulating conversation you can get lost in.

I am just enjoying the company.

(smiling) I do enjoy conversation.

In time, sex is necessary. I was married for a long time to a in the closet gay guy. I haven't dated much with sex included. One serious relationship, and the rest, the dating didn't go far enough to get to sex. I like to take my time getting to sex. A couple of months.

What I'm saying is.....


I'm seriously... sex... deprived!

I have a lot of missed sex to make up for.

So, in time.... sex, is... necessary! lol

 

[Pheonexra]

My poor friend.

Trust me, if you gave up your values your sex problem would disappear. I do believe that sex is so much better when both people are in a serious relationship.

 

[Lorelei_11]

misery ..... yea I got misery. Mind if I hang over here for a bit?? That wife over there in that "closet lesbian....) thread has really pissed me off and now I am beginning to think she isn't such a good idea and that maybe you are better for me

I'm going to start checking that thread out now. Can't sleep yet, so came back, and its really late.

You forget so soon, remember all our incompatability? You must be really pissed off over there. lol You're welcome to hang out with me here.

 

[Lorelei_11]

Trust me, if you gave up your values your sex problem would disappear. I do believe that sex is so much better when both people are in a serious relationship.

Its just not possible for me. I'll get through it, some days it bothers me more than others.

 

[Pheonexra]

I know, was just a statement. Nothing wrong with how you are.

 

[Lorelei_11]

Ooops, messed this up.

 

[Lorelei_11]

I know, was just a statement. Nothing wrong with how you are.

Thanks.

There's just no other way for me. I'm not into casual sex. So, how are you doing? did you get enough sleep?

 

[Pheonexra]

Yeah, then found out I got screwed. I can tell you about it later if you want.

 

[Lorelei_11]

Yeah, then found out I got screwed. I can tell you about it later if you want.

It doesn't sound like you got screwed in the good way, either. O.k, yeah, tell me about it.

 

[Pheonexra]

Just give me a heads up and I will be ready. Way too much shit hitting the fan tonight.

 

[Lorelei_11]

Just give me a heads up and I will be ready. Way too much shit hitting the fan tonight.

I'm busy right now, doing things around here inbetween posting and pming. Should be able to talk within an hour. I'll let you know. Then later, at some point, I need to take a bath.

 

[Pheonexra]

Then later, at some point, I need to take a bath.

Such nice thoughts, such thoughts.

 

[Lorelei_11]

Such nice thoughts, such thoughts.

Bathing? You must have your imagination in high geer. Or, is it that thing I've heard about, men think of sex every few seconds.