mistletoe1963
Really Experienced
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- May 27, 2011
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I was sexually abused as a child...cant tell you what exact age, probably started about gr 5 Im thinking...I was an early bloomer, I guess which was a great disadvantage to me...It also happened to my sister, she is 5 yrs older...it all came out when I was 20, she ended up charging him, they thought he would get time, he got probabation, and it finally ruined his family...but I think it ruined my life, and now I am thinking forever...I have been to therapy and did very well...enough where my therapist told me I was done and sent me on my way...now I know I am not done...and probably never will be...throughout my life I would gain and lose weight, gain to make myself unattractive, so my father didnt think I was hot, and then have the confidence and lose the weight and look great, and feel great, and then maybe see my dad, he would drop by for a cup of coffee, or to see the grandchildren, comment on my weight, if I had lost, and it would send me for a spin and I would gain it right back...then I had the ultimate answer, gastric bypass surgery, that would make me forever skinny, what I have always dreamed of being...I went thru the process for almost a year, and when it came close to surgery time, I hit rock bottom, or perhaps reality...again, he would have control of my life, after the surgery, my eating habits would be forever altered, my health at risk for the rest of my life and unnecessary complications...plus a major fear of waking up from surgery and someone telling me that he had passed away that very day, and then what...ugh...I had 2 drs in my psychiatry session there, head of the hospital psychiatry and another dr, why I had both I will never know, and I expressed all concerns and was very open about my life...then I was dismissed from the program by them, I was not big enough for the surgery, and since I had no health complications, that was another strike against me, then they told me, when it got time and I did lose the weight, that I would be in the category for suicidal, with skin hanging and self esteem issues...ohip doesnt cover the cost for me on skin surgery and it would cost $18,000 to make me look great...they diagnosed me as depressed and sent me on my way. My dr got the report and called me in right away, I went on wellbutrin again, I hit a slump last year for a couple months, and went on it...now my eating habits really suck, it makes me not hungry at all many times. I was told I had to force eat. Do you know how horrible that is, many times I cannot do it. But I do know that the not eating part is not good for me. So again, my father has a hold on my life...it is like he is the spider and I am in his web..no wonder I have such a fear of spiders...I would so like to get this weight off, for good...I just cant seem to get it together to get on the right track...everyday I put myself down or think people dont like me or find me attractive...Im just wondering, will it ever end..........