Wifes Cheating?

[BIGsizzle]

Ok, maybe Im just a "weird" person here but why in the hell would anyone want another person to fuck there wifes. The reason you married was for you to be together. Not with someone else fucking him or her. I think thats pretty NOT normal. Not to condone the act but Im just stating my opinion. I think its pretty weird.

Siz

 

[burrish]

i agree with you, even thou my hubby knows that i would never invite someone else into the bedroom with us he gets excited thinking of me doing another man, so sometimes i say things like look at him kissing my neck and things like that. to me i would be afraid that she did something better and he would want to keep going back to her for that or just up and leave me for the other person. so anyway that is how i feel.

 

[Gods_Favorite]

That is one of my biggest fantasies to share my wife with another man for a night. It would have to be a total stranger and he would have to have a bigger cock than me. I can't really explain it but its a huge turn on fantasizing about my wife sucking another guys cock and even her getting gangbanged by 3 guys while I watch, I guess because its so taboo. Im hard right now just typing about it.

 

[Bobmi357]

You're not all that weird. Just because there are others here that have done such things, that doesn't make you wierd to feel its wrong.

Personally I'd slug any guy that touched my wife. I'm selfish, I don't want to "share" her with others. But thats a personal preference, not a wierdness. Those that can do such things and still maintain a healthy relationship should consider themselves fortunate. I'd be willing to bet for every successful 3some you hear about, there are more unsucessful ones you don't hear about.

Your not wierd, you're just you. Plain and simple.

 

[ExtacyCouple]

Ok...Speaking from expeirence here, I will do my best to explain it. I am a male and love to share my wife and have been lucky enough to experience it. We have a great relationship and as odd as it may sound this has only enhanced it. Clearly though, this is not something that is for everybody and just because we like it doesn't mean everybody else should.

First off, I think it is the ultumate form of trust. To be able to let your partner be as free as they want to be and injoy themselves to the fullest is a great thing. I have always noticed that after one of these experiences it really seems to bring us much closer or at least more in touch with each other.

That is the emotional side (or at least the short version of it), after that you have the physical side of things. To be involved in that type of situation is very erotic. My wife is a very sexy women and knows how to please a man (or two) and to see her in action is very hot. you see alot of things you don't see when just the two of you are having sex. Watching her facial expressions, hearing the noises she makes, feeling their motion as I kiss her or as she is touching me. All very hot!!

Lastly, I think my ego plays part in it as well. When you see someone lusting after your wife and you give them a taste of what you get everyday in some way is a little satisfying. I love it when she shows off out in public......I think that is strictly for my ego.

The bottom line is, it is simply something that is not for everybody. And it is something that I never thought I would enjoy until it happened. We both trust each other very much and are very secure in our relationship to do this, but we also still understand that it is always still a little bit of a gamble bringing another person into your bedroom.

 

[BIGsizzle]

So if you know having another man have sex with your wife is a risk then why? Why do it in the first place and jeopardise(sp) your great relationship in the first place. And also not to get all biblical here but isnt that bad to be married and have another man have sex with your wife. I really dont understand. You get married to be together for the rest of your lives. Not to get married and have your wife cheat on you, knowingly or not.

-SiZ

 

[Chuckwrox]

Is it cheating on you if you approve? It doesn't seem like it to me. Cheating is something very different from sharing, don't you think?

I expect that what they get out of such risky behavior is a stronger faith in their marriage. If she can fuck someone else who is a great lay and still prefer me, I must be quite the shit, eh? She must really love me to have an actual choice and then to choose me.

I'm not into it, myself, but I imagine it would go something like that.

I don't really get what you mean when you suggest that it is biblically bad to let someone else fuck your wife. I've never read the bible much, so I'm not familiar with the passage that you're thinking of.

Myself? If it floats their boat, then that's terrific. My boat would sink, though.

 

[wishbone96]

I've "been there and done that" My ex used to typically run off and shack up with some guy -I forgave her mainly because she was younger than I and felt that she needed room to make mistakes because she got married to me straight out of the house. But the last time she ran off and and shacked up with some gigolo she came back "destroyed" She was like a cat in heat.
It kind of made an impression on me that I have not gotten over to this day-I was never able to forgive her completely and we finally got a divource after four years of "trying to get back together". All I can say is that you better have a good healthy ego and have a lot of confidence-I didn't and whatever ego I had was taken away.

 

[ExtacyCouple]

So if you know having another man have sex with your wife is a risk then why? Why do it in the first place and jeopardise(sp) your great relationship in the first place. And also not to get all biblical here but isnt that bad to be married and have another man have sex with your wife. I really dont understand. You get married to be together for the rest of your lives. Not to get married and have your wife cheat on you, knowingly or not.

-SiZ

First off lets get this clear...it's not cheating if I know about it and I am there. It's just sex! Secondly, life is about risks and we all take plenty of them everyday. Why do we risk things?.......for the reward. In this case it is a stronger relationship, great sex and a happier us.

The biggest mistake people make is looking at their mate as there possession. My wife and I have taken a vow to be together for the rest of our lives, but we are still individules with our own thoughts and feelings. To surpress those in my opinion is not a healthy thing. It just leaves you with a long list of things you wish you would have done at the end of your life. And although we make all of our decisions together they are based on what we want as individules. Not sure if that all makes sense but hopefully you get the picture.

 

[ExtacyCouple]

BIGsizzle........you are questioning weather or not sharing your wife with another man is right and you have said that you get married to be with that women for the rest of your life and so on and you have brought the bible into it. In a post on another thread you have started you ask about Bukakke wich is a form of porn that you have seen on the internet. Now I don't mean to get all biblical but is porn something a married guy should be looking at. especially something so degrading as that. Does your wife know....or do you keep it secret from her? If you keep it secret, is that healthy for your relationship?

I am not trying to be a jerk I am just trying to illustrate my point. you question something that you think is "weird" or not right but we all of those little quirks about us. You may like to look at bukakke and I like to share my wife. To each his own.

Hope this isn't taken the wrong way

 

[James G 5]

Is it cheating on you if you approve? It doesn't seem like it to me. Cheating is something very different from sharing, don't you think?

I expect that what they get out of such risky behavior is a stronger faith in their marriage. If she can fuck someone else who is a great lay and still prefer me, I must be quite the shit, eh? She must really love me to have an actual choice and then to choose me.

I'm not into it, myself, but I imagine it would go something like that.

I don't really get what you mean when you suggest that it is biblically bad to let someone else fuck your wife. I've never read the bible much, so I'm not familiar with the passage that you're thinking of.

Myself? If it floats their boat, then that's terrific. My boat would sink, though.

Valid points about why, and no it's not cheating if he's in on it & agreeing

Another reason why there's appeal in this for some guys is the hope ope "opening the woman up" sexually, broadening her horizons
A major complaint guys have is that the women they're with aren't adventerous or open enough
By encouraging them to engage in more broadly sexual (some might say sluttish) behavior, they hope to make the women more open and maybe bring some of the increased sexuality (and maybe a few new tricks) home

 

[Bobmi357]

This isn't cheating. Cheating involves lies, sneaking around behind your spouse's back, clandestine meetings etc...

Some people feel that it strengthens their relationship. More power to them I say. But its not for everyone.

I think its a poor way to broaden a spouse's sexual horizons as well. In my mind, and mind, I don't share my wife with anyone, sharing has to be something that is done mutually or one partner will start to feel left out after a while. Trying to "broaden" a spouses horizons is a fine idea, but shouldn't that start at home first with some serious conversations?

Finally there is considerable difference between risk taking and having some fun. If you think that sharing your spouse is a potential risk, then you're not as secure about your relationship as you might think you are.

Oh and lets leave the bible out of this conversation. That old book has resulted in more problems than it has helped people.

 

[77Cobra]

My wife and I done the threesomes with another guy and both of us loved it.I was amazed at the wife ,how she reacted to us and how HOT she got and the things she wanted to do.It was very exciting for us and I too got turned on by the other mans reaction to my wifes beauty and her talents and thought to myself how lucky I am to have such a woman plus the way I see it as long as I am present and get to participate also it is not cheating it is sharing and making our sex life very exciting.Plus letting her get some variety may keep her from going out and having an affair behind my back.Which by the way would bother me very much,but sharing her with another man while I am there to help screw her brains out does not bother me in the least.Plus when we were having threesomes our sex life when we were alone just the two of us was better also.

 

[SnoManX]

I just don't understand the whole logic behind sharing one's partner. I'm not possessive but I think that once you commit to someone is because you have no intention of being with anyone else...they are all you need emotionally and physically! When you need a third party to join in than there is something not completely fullfilled in the relationship. Although to each their own and congratulations to those that can handle it.

 

[James G 5]

I just don't understand the whole logic behind sharing one's partner. I'm not possessive but I think that once you commit to someone is because you have no intention of being with anyone else...they are all you need emotionally and physically! When you need a third party to join in than there is something not completely fullfilled in the relationship. Although to each their own and congratulations to those that can handle it.

That's a rosy portrayl but for most people it's nto realistic
First off, you should be fulfilled in & of yourself as an iundividual, seeking fulfilment in another is a recipe for disaster
Second, the chances of 2 people realistically being able to meet all (or even most) of another person's needs, especially as 2 people grow and change over time, are pretty slim
Its's entirely possible to commit yourself to another without closing yourself off emotionally or physically from everyone else

 

[ExtacyCouple]

Look at the number of people that cheat on their spouses. Look at the number of married people that are on this board looking for something else. trying to live out some secret sexual adventure that they are afraid to tell their wife or husband about.

For us it's not so much about the actual act of sharing as it is about being honest about what we want. All these guys saying they would never share their wife might be singing a different tune if the conversation was about bringing another woman into the bedroom. Alll of the sudden it's a great idea.....

 

[BIGsizzle]

I just don't understand the whole logic behind sharing one's partner. I'm not possessive but I think that once you commit to someone is because you have no intention of being with anyone else...they are all you need emotionally and physically! When you need a third party to join in than there is something not completely fullfilled in the relationship. Although to each their own and congratulations to those that can handle it.

Thank-You at least someone agrees with me. I just dont think its right. No Im not into doing bukkake myself and neither am I ever going to try. My wife does know and I would never let her do it. I mean come on, letting your wife run around on you. Hmmmm sounds like a great idea........TO YOU. Thats my opinion.

siz

 

[BIGsizzle]

Oh and no I wouldnt allow another woman in bed with us. Thats pretty much dumb to. What if something happens, not sexually but like attachment. What if the "other woman" gets emotionally attachted to you and your wife doesnt like it. Still doesnt make sense to me.

siz

 

[sxluvncpl]

Don't knock it til you try it!!!

If you are truly secure with your relationship, why not double the pleasure.... fmf, mfm why not???

 

[ExtacyCouple]

Ahh BIGsiz....you are totally missing my point. I am not saying you and your wife ar into bukakke. The point I am making is that you are on here sorta casting your judgment on other people for what they do when in reality there are probably some things that you do that we could all cast judment on....like looking at porn. Now to me there is nothing wrong with it but it's not something that a traditionally married couple should be looking at. I mean arn't you tatally satisfied with your wife and have no need to look else where to fulfill your sexual desires.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Thank-You at least someone agrees with me. I just dont think its right. No Im not into doing bukkake myself and neither am I ever going to try. My wife does know and I would never let her do it. I mean come on, letting your wife run around on you. Hmmmm sounds like a great idea........TO YOU. Thats my opinion.

siz

And it sounds like a bad idea...TO YOU. Why start a thread? You don't want to do it, you know that, so why knock other people for it?

 

[BIGsizzle]

Im not trieng to 'knock people' for it Im just showing an opinion from the other side of the spectrum. Sorry for my shallow interpretation of your ways. I just dont think its right at all for a couple to do; hence the name couple (two). Im sorry I for one just dont think it's right, mfm or fmf, whatever it is. Im done replying on this subject. Thanks for all the input but I still havnt changed my ways.

Siz

 

[ExtacyCouple]

Im not trieng to 'knock people' for it Im just showing an opinion from the other side of the spectrum. Sorry for my shallow interpretation of your ways. I just dont think its right at all for a couple to do; hence the name couple (two). Im sorry I for one just dont think it's right, mfm or fmf, whatever it is. Im done replying on this subject. Thanks for all the input but I still havnt changed my ways.

Siz

Nobody is trying to get you to change you ways and I would respect your opinion if you said it wasn't right for "YOU", but you didn't. You did not just state your opinion you made a judment of everybody that does not share your opinion.

 

[peachykeen]

Ah, the righteousness of youth.

 

[ldlarry52]

Speaking from personal experience as the invited male into some couples marriage bed, the reading of stories here on LIterotica and my own fantasies I believe at the bottom of the thrill of watching your wife fuck some other guy is the desire to see your wife and have your wife acting hot and sexy like so many of the "sluts" you see everday and those protraited on TV and porno movies.
I would love to see my wife fucking some guy. Her sensuality and sexiness would go from ordinary wife to "Porn star slut". I am mostly likely never going to fuck a porn star or a real cock hunger slut, but if I were to see my wife fuck some guy she would become that for me.
The men in the threesomes I have had seem to share I sense a pride in his wife's body and another man confirming her beauty and sexiness. They also watched intently as we did it jacking his cock in eager anticipation of his turn with his wife "slut".
Just some thoughts.
LDLarry52