wife with others

[Markanthony]

My wife and I have been coming here for awhile now and she chats alot.The chatting usually winds up making her horny as hell, from chatting with other men, which in turn has improved our sex life tremendously. This in turn has allowed us to reveal our deepest fantasy's to each other which,as it turns out, are both the same. She wants to experience other men in bed and I want to watch her or enter into a threesome with them. Or problem is finding someone to help us achieve our goal. We are not into the bar scene. We just really dont know how to go about finding someone.If anyone has any ideas they would be greatly appreciated.

 

[Tinman]

This is a tough one. First, though, I highly recommend you DO NOT approach a friend, neither to invite him/her nor to ask for suggestions. I've seen that backfire too many times in spite of the best intentions. Only rarely can friends be converted into trouble-free sexual partners.

Strangers are at least that -- unknown to you. There are dangers here, as well of course, but perhaps less than with a "friend."

I knew one couple a few years back who found third-mates (both male and female) through escort services. They always maintained that the choices were 1) attractive, 2) usually educated and intelligent, 3) strangers, and 4) always trouble-free (they always tipped them generously and being paid for the evening helped prevent difficulties, they thought).

I'm not talking about prostitution services like you see in the Business Personals column. Those ... I dunno. Rather, my friends used professional legitimate escort services to find dinner companions whom they "converted" into sexual partners with their good conversation and looks. They claimed that they were never turned down, although they said they did not invite just every companion they hired for an evening. With some, they just had dinner and said "Thank you."

I'm sure that during a leisurely dinner, the conversation probably was easily turned to the subject of sex, and that if the escort was interested it soon became evident, making an eventual invitation easy for them.

Worth a try, perhaps, especially since you don't like hanging out in bars.

[This message has been edited by Tinman (edited 05-29-2000).]

 

[Jenne64]

Take a look at the swingers sites that are everywhere.
Like Tinman says you have to use your common sense when either advertising or replying but Hubby and I have used them in the past and have had a lot of success not to mention fun.
I agree that friends are a distaster. I'd never recommend swinging with friends to many pitfalls and they can get clingy if your not careful.
If you advertise on a website be precise as to what you want. Ie hubby to watch only, etc, etc. You'll be inudated otherwise. There are a lot of timewasters out there but there are also a lot of really nice open minded people who just want some fun.

Lastly and this might seem obvious but for god sakes practise safe sex!
Hope this helps and good luck,
regards,
Jenne64

 

[HappyPunter]

Friends can be OK!

My wife and I have swopped with her closest friends with no problems.

Just make sure you know what you want to get up to.

 

[HappyPunter]

Originally posted by jenne64:
Take a look at the swingers sites that are everywhere.
Like Tinman says you have to use your common sense when either advertising or replying but Hubby and I have used them in the past and have had a lot of success not to mention fun.
I agree that friends are a distaster. I'd never recommend swinging with friends to many pitfalls and they can get clingy if your not careful.
If you advertise on a website be precise as to what you want. Ie hubby to watch only, etc, etc. You'll be inudated otherwise. There are a lot of timewasters out there but there are also a lot of really nice open minded people who just want some fun.

Lastly and this might seem obvious but for god sakes practise safe sex!
Hope this helps and good luck,
regards,
Jenne64

Hi, Jenne64,

Where are all those swingers sites for the UK? We've looked but never found any good ones.

In anticipation

HappyPunter

 

[Guest]

MarkAnthony,

A great place to look is online. I know that AOL & MSN have many chat rooms devoted to many topics such as local town (or state), swinging, bi women or men, etc. If you don't have chat rooms on your online server, try a local personal ad. (Either online ~like Yahoo Personals~ or in swinger's magazines.) If you ever change your mind about the bar scene, a good place to look is at a gay or swingers bar. Good luck in your search!

 

[Jenne64]

Happy punter,
try a general search engine under "Swingers+uk"
I've used uk contacts in the past it's free and we've had some great fun off that one ad. Don't bother with swing Uk I set them a check for £20 for membership they maintain they never recieved it but the cheque was still cashed!! I'm not the only one I know of that it's happened to either.
Advertise on one and the rest will e mail you asking you if you want to use there service. Adult friend finder is good as well but it's just such a big site people tend to get lost in it-))
Hope that helps a little. I'd give you the url to UK Contacts but I had to reformatt earlier this week and need to find it myself but right now I need to finish my next epic-))
regards,
Jenne64

 

[SimplySouthern]

Gotta go with Tinman again on this one. Friends being lovers (or occasional sex partners) probably isnt the best way to go on this. I would think there would be a large amount of jealousy involved in a "relationship" of that magnitude.

As sex is (for most people) a very emotional experience, I worry that one or more of you risks get hurt feelings by another. Not to mention how awkward social situations in the future might be.

My suggestion would be to either advertise for someone specifically to suit your "needs" and spend a little time getting to know the person who will be sharing your bed and your wife.

Let me know how it turns out!
~Southern~

 

[Guest]

Several years ago my wife and I discovered that we both similarly shared you and your wife's fantasy. We chose to try it with my best friend, and believe me, none of us has ever had any regrets.

He was and still is married with 2 children and is interested in nothing more that an emotional experience. And my wife is most happy to accomodate.

There have been no problems with jealousy and we are all good friends. Our families visit back and forth regularly, his wife has absolutely no idea and we all plan on keeping it that way.

Just a really fun loving relationship.