Wife has "lost that loving feeling"

[JohnnyBravo633]

Anybody else having issues with a wife who's horny switch is broken? The wife and I had incredible sex up until a year or so ago. Now, it happens maybe twice a month. Can't understand it. I stay in good shape (running and working out), she doesn't have to work if she doesn't want to. I remind her how sexy she still is but nothing seems to work. I think she has a pretty good deal! To make matters worse, I do get offers from other women often. Getting really hard to say no!!

 

[eroticman61]

Anybody else having issues with a wife who's horny switch is broken? The wife and I had incredible sex up until a year or so ago. Now, it happens maybe twice a month. Can't understand it. I stay in good shape (running and working out), she doesn't have to work if she doesn't want to. I remind her how sexy she still is but nothing seems to work. I think she has a pretty good deal! To make matters worse, I do get offers from other women often. Getting really hard to say no!!

dude, you have to communicate to her that you haven't even peaked yet sexually.


if you have to go elsewhere, be sentinel, you don't want to fuck up your life!

 

[JohnnyBravo633]

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Oh, I peaked years ago! Hoping she will do the same soon!

 

[Bucky89]

Yep, my wife went cold several years ago. We used to have really hot, adventurous sex. She was into all kinds of fun stuff. Then it seems like overnight she shut it off. Now, I'm lucky if we have very boring, vanilla sex once every 3 months. She actually gets mad if I send a text or email that even hints at anything sexual. I don't have any idea what happened or why she completely shut it off and she won't talk about it.

That's why I now spend a lot of time on sites like this.

I've been propositioned a number of times too, but never accepted any of them.

Good luck, my man!

 

[Bad101]

Welcome to the club. It is better to get it sometimes than none at all.

 

[beachbum1958]

Yep, my wife went cold several years ago. We used to have really hot, adventurous sex. She was into all kinds of fun stuff. Then it seems like overnight she shut it off. Now, I'm lucky if we have very boring, vanilla sex once every 3 months. She actually gets mad if I send a text or email that even hints at anything sexual. I don't have any idea what happened or why she completely shut it off and she won't talk about it.

That's why I now spend a lot of time on sites like this.

I've been propositioned a number of times too, but never accepted any of them.

Good luck, my man!

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[Domesticity]

Has she had a baby? That can be a libido killer for many women because of the hormone shift, body changes, etc.

Cheating isn't worth it. Have a frank discussion about your needs, see what she's wanting and see if you can meet in the middle. If you want to cheat I suggest leaving first.

 

[beachbum1958]

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[starrheat]

Same thing happened to me - i'd come home after 3 weeks doing meatball surgery, wife is not home, out with her friends, comes in really late and sleeps in the spare room, hardly communicates with me except on the most superficial levels, but seems to have time for her 'friends', whoever they are. I spend my time looking through these sites because my sex life at home has imploded, hasn't been existent since I was re-activated 3 years ago now, we've had sex four times since then, I'm walking, can't live in a refrigerator at home, spend 2 weeks alone then go back for another 3 weeks of pasting kids back together, my life should be about moe than that

Noted your comments, there's a lot to what you say, but communication is a two-way street; if your other half refuses to consider your viewpoint, then nothing's been resolved, and never will be. We have no kids, we've been married 5 years, and all i can think of is that she's found someone else, that's why I'm being frozen out. Do I want to know? Yes. Will I try and find out? No; nobody wants to look the gorgon in the face

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[principessa11]

Cheating isn't worth it. Have a frank discussion about your needs, see what she's wanting and see if you can meet in the middle. If you want to cheat I suggest leaving first.

This. Talk to her. Go to counseling. Tell her point blank that you're unhappy and you want her help to fix what you see as the problems in the marriage. Don't cheat. My husband cheated, and now he's my ex. It's not worth fucking up your life. Fix the marriage or get out of it.

 

[eric60red]

This happened to me, I will come back to this thread when I have a little more time. and tell you my story.

 

[StacieLewis]

Anybody else having issues with a wife who's horny switch is broken? The wife and I had incredible sex up until a year or so ago. Now, it happens maybe twice a month. Can't understand it. I stay in good shape (running and working out), she doesn't have to work if she doesn't want to. I remind her how sexy she still is but nothing seems to work. I think she has a pretty good deal! To make matters worse, I do get offers from other women often. Getting really hard to say no!!

How old is she? she could be going thru menepaus (spellcheck) early! my friend went thru it at 29 and lost her sex drive all together, also a women is only super horny and in must have sex mode when she ovulates, its programmed into our heads to have sex to make babies, find out when she ovulates (usually 7 days after the last day of her period if shes on a 28day cycle), that's if shes not going thru menapaus!

other things you could try is buy her sexy lingerie, make her feel sexy again, help to clear hr mind of any worrys she might have too, women stress over everything (trust me I know)! do you have kids? if so send them to their grandparents for a evening!

try things you used to do together when you first met, creating your first date is always a winner!

and last thing, talk to her, if your looking at other women she has to know you are feeling this way, let her know you feel like youre being pushed away etc

good luck hunnie

xxx

 

[eric60red]

This happened to me, I will come back to this thread when I have a little more time. and tell you my story.

The date was the 17th June 1995, that was the last time my wife and I made love to each other, it was fantasic, we licked and sucked each other, changed postiion so many times, we were both electrified. It was 2 days before she was due to enter hospital, for the removal of her womb. (she used to have very bad periods, heavy discharges, and migrains). To us it meant an end to the pill, and condoms, and more great sex. She lost weight for the operation, and was in tip top shape, she looked so good.

Then during the operation they found growths behind her clit, and removed them. It takes something like 12 weeks to recover from that type of operation, so I was looking forward to making love to her. But then the bomb shell, she told me that she had lost all feelings for sex and had no feeling in her clit or vagina, she said she still got wet, but felt nothing. She went back to the consultant and he said it sometimes happens when cysts are removed the nerves get damaged, they may recover in time, they may not.

She told me that she did not have an urge to give me blow jobs ot make me cum when she felt nothing. She knew how sex is important to me, so she told me, that If I wanted I had her permission to go else where for sex, as long as I didnt pay a whore for it, or tell her about it

And that was the beginiing of a 16 year love affair with my wifes best friend, who has always fancied me. She has never married, but thats a different story, to this day we meet when we can with my wifes blessing. My dear wife , who I still love, has never had any more urges for sex. She still gets ever week a bunch of flowers, her xmas and birthdays cards are always "To the One I love",

So I have 2 wifes, one for love and one for sex. I really should have sued the surgeon.

 

[beachbum1958]

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[StacieLewis]

Good advice, but what do you do when you get a picture of her with someone else, looking happy, something I've not seen in years? I know I'm too far away to do anything about it, but it's still hard to walk away from the most beautiful girl in the world. I've never cheated, never wanted to, don't even know how to, we've been together 15 years now, how do I swith off such a big chunk of my life?

that's tough!

 

[eroticman61]

The date was the 17th June 1995, that was the last time my wife and I made love to each other, it was fantasic, we licked and sucked each other, changed postiion so many times, we were both electrified. It was 2 days before she was due to enter hospital, for the removal of her womb. (she used to have very bad periods, heavy discharges, and migrains). To us it meant an end to the pill, and condoms, and more great sex. She lost weight for the operation, and was in tip top shape, she looked so good.

Then during the operation they found growths behind her clit, and removed them. It takes something like 12 weeks to recover from that type of operation, so I was looking forward to making love to her. But then the bomb shell, she told me that she had lost all feelings for sex and had no feeling in her clit or vagina, she said she still got wet, but felt nothing. She went back to the consultant and he said it sometimes happens when cysts are removed the nerves get damaged, they may recover in time, they may not.

She told me that she did not have an urge to give me blow jobs ot make me cum when she felt nothing. She knew how sex is important to me, so she told me, that If I wanted I had her permission to go else where for sex, as long as I didnt pay a whore for it, or tell her about it

And that was the beginiing of a 16 year love affair with my wifes best friend, who has always fancied me. She has never married, but thats a different story, to this day we meet when we can with my wifes blessing. My dear wife , who I still love, has never had any more urges for sex. She still gets ever week a bunch of flowers, her xmas and birthdays cards are always "To the One I love",

So I have 2 wifes, one for love and one for sex. I really should have sued the surgeon.

what a sad story for your poor wife, good for you that you came up with a work around!

Merry XMas!!!!

 

[thewantonwife]

Anybody else having issues with a wife who's horny switch is broken? The wife and I had incredible sex up until a year or so ago. Now, it happens maybe twice a month. Can't understand it. I stay in good shape (running and working out), she doesn't have to work if she doesn't want to. I remind her how sexy she still is but nothing seems to work. I think she has a pretty good deal! To make matters worse, I do get offers from other women often. Getting really hard to say no!!

There are a number of possibilities.

First question first, have you asked her about it directly?

 

[AW48]

Anybody else having issues with a wife who's horny switch is broken?

Not uncommon. You can either make the best of it until the kids are grown, or you can take a nap in the garage with the car running.

 

[eric60red]

what a sad story for your poor wife, good for you that you came up with a work around!

Merry XMas!!!!

smile yes, she is now has disabilty problems, and needs me to care for her more and more, just wish we could fuck, byut she now 66 im 74 so she is past it Im still very active lol

 

[JohnnyBravo633]

Yea we've discussed it many times. She says she is tired all of the time so I suggested we hire a maid. Not a good idea she replied. I then suggested an unattractive OLDER maid. Still not a good idea she said. Not sure what else to recommend!

 

[eric60red]

Yea we've discussed it many times. She says she is tired all of the time so I suggested we hire a maid. Not a good idea she replied. I then suggested an unattractive OLDER maid. Still not a good idea she said. Not sure what else to recommend!

Well what she doesnt know, will not harm her, be descrete. take mistrss on the side. and dont tell her.