Why me?

[myth1exists]

Why is it that the ONLY men who seem to "respond" to me are married men? I don't understand what is going on. I got asked out by three different married guys the week of Christmas. Is it when a woman gets to be a certian age that men think that we are that desperate? Any advice on how to get rid of the married men vibe?

 

[PervyRomantic]

Hi Myth

Why is it that the ONLY men who seem to "respond" to me are married men? I don't understand what is going on. I got asked out by three different married guys the week of Christmas. Is it when a woman gets to be a certian age that men think that we are that desperate? Any advice on how to get rid of the married men vibe?[/QUOTE)

Were any of this men from Lit? I was just curious because I know that there
are a lot of married people here in general. Most of the women I encounter
are(more online than in real life ecounters. I can relate somewhat to what
you are experieceing.)

Sorry, I have no advice off the top of my head to give you.

 

[myth1exists]

The thee from christmas where all IRL. But i've just noticed a big trend with it lately. And to tell the truth it makes me a bit uncomfortable. I don't mind speaking with married men hell you can't get around that. But it makes me wonder if they know what they are asking me to compromise on?

 

[PervyRomantic]

The thee from christmas where all IRL. But i've just noticed a big trend with it lately. And to tell the truth it makes me a bit uncomfortable. I don't mind speaking with married men hell you can't get around that. But it makes me wonder if they know what they are asking me to compromise on?

Take it from someone whos been there (once loved a married lady)... they are you asking you to sacrifice
anything and everything for their selfish needs. (whether they even know/admit it to themselves.)

 

[myth1exists]

Take it from someone whos been there (once loved a married lady)... they are you asking you to sacrifice
anything and everything for their selfish needs. (whether they even know/admit it to themselves.)

And they do it with such abandon. I mean even putting the physical aside for a moment think of the emotional. How could I cause that kind of pain to some other woman? Where has everyone's morals gone?

 

[PervyRomantic]

And they do it with such abandon. I mean even putting the physical aside for a moment think of the emotional. How could I cause that kind of pain to some other woman? Where has everyone's morals gone?

I agree but even morerso...how could he* so casually cause his own partner that kind of pain?

 

[myth1exists]

I guess i'm just looking for some kind of advice on how to deal with the situations. I mean you don't want... no I take that back... you do want to be rude and tell them off but I wasn't raised that way. You polietly refuse and most let it go at that. But I mean am I sending out some kind of vibe or something that says I wanna screw around with someone I can never openly be with? I don't know maybe I'm reading to much into it. But it really hurts my heart and my soul and my beliefs when it happens.

 

[PervyRomantic]

I guess i'm just looking for some kind of advice on how to deal with the situations. I mean you don't want... no I take that back... you do want to be rude and tell them off but I wasn't raised that way. You polietly refuse and most let it go at that. But I mean am I sending out some kind of vibe or something that says I wanna screw around with someone I can never openly be with? I don't know maybe I'm reading to much into it. But it really hurts my heart and my soul and my beliefs when it happens.

It sounds as if you are doing everything you can(short of telling them off.)
I doubt that it is a vibe you are giveing off. You sound like a very nice, thoughtfull,sincere woman to me.

Maybe will some of the ladies wake up around here, they'll have some advice or tips.

 

[myth1exists]

It sounds as if you are doing everything you can(short of telling them off.)
I doubt that it is a vibe you are giveing off. You sound like a very nice, thoughtfull,sincere woman to me.

Maybe will some of the ladies wake up around here, they'll have some advice or tips.

Maybe. I'm sure some people won't like the idea of this thread. But hey I just couldn't stand it anymore. I hate the thought of someone expecting me to enter into a relationship that has no chance of going anywhere.

 

[PervyRomantic]

Maybe. I'm sure some people won't like the idea of this thread. But hey I just couldn't stand it anymore. I hate the thought of someone expecting me to enter into a relationship that has no chance of going anywhere.

Well, those people dont have to respond since you have been clear in what your are seeking from this thread.

 

[myth1exists]

Well, those people dont have to respond since you have been clear in what your are seeking from this thread.

I hope you are right....

 

[PervyRomantic]

I hope you are right....

Im a Leo... we are usually right! (muhaha)

 

[MollyDolly]

I always find it interesting when a man or woman cheats on their partner: if s/he will cheat on his/her partner with me, what would stop him/her from cheating on me with someone else? They've already shown they're capable of it.

*shrugs*

Of course, we aren't talking about open relationships here, where both parties have agreed upon certain marital rules.

I can't say I've ever had this problem, online or offline. I think that by being honest about your needs and wants, and letting them know that you're not willing to share him with his wife, you're doing all that you can

 

[southerntierguy]

I guess i'm just looking for some kind of advice on how to deal with the situations. I mean you don't want... no I take that back... you do want to be rude and tell them off but I wasn't raised that way. You polietly refuse and most let it go at that. But I mean am I sending out some kind of vibe or something that says I wanna screw around with someone I can never openly be with? I don't know maybe I'm reading to much into it. But it really hurts my heart and my soul and my beliefs when it happens.

I hate to say this, but maybe your beliefs need some adjustment. And it shouldn't hurt your heart and soul to see the truth.

There are a number of people who are rather scummy. It doesn't mean everyone is, and it doesn't mean that you are some sort og magnet for them. They just are there in the general populace, and if you think people are different than that, you are wrong.

Frankly, maybe on just a couple of occasions you should refuse impolitely, and in public, just so the word will get around.

 

[koalabear]

I guess i'm just looking for some kind of advice on how to deal with the situations. I mean you don't want... no I take that back... you do want to be rude and tell them off but I wasn't raised that way. You polietly refuse and most let it go at that. But I mean am I sending out some kind of vibe or something that says I wanna screw around with someone I can never openly be with? I don't know maybe I'm reading to much into it. But it really hurts my heart and my soul and my beliefs when it happens.

well, if you haven't noticed you are on a porn board. A porn board full of guys that as it appears rarely get sex, they will fuck a snake if someone holds it's head. Many love conning gals feeding them bullshit to get a piece of ass, happens all to often here. start by putting in your sig "NO MARRIED MEN" if they still PM, iggy them....simple things to do. Of course then they will just not tell you they are married. this isn't disneyland. keep being nice to the married men, they will keep bugging you. you will be conned lied to any and other devious maneuver created by man to use you. Welcome to Lit, enjoy your stay. and the same applies to real life......

 

[mrtnmoon]

well, if you haven't noticed you are on a porn board. A porn board full of guys that as it appears rarely get sex, they will fuck a snake if someone holds it's head. Many love conning gals feeding them bullshit to get a piece of ass, happens all to often here. start by putting in your sig "NO MARRIED MEN" if they still PM, iggy them....simple things to do. Of course then they will just not tell you they are married. this isn't disneyland. keep being nice to the married men, they will keep bugging you. you will be conned lied to any and other devious maneuver created by man to use you. Welcome to Lit, enjoy your stay.

if you would read the thread instead of just trying to be a wise-ass, she's talking about in real life, not Lit.

 

[koalabear]

if you would read the thread instead of just trying to be a wise-ass, she's talking about in real life, not Lit.

go back to posting your suicide threats and sadness.....at least they had a purpose....

 

[MSH2]

if you would read the thread instead of just trying to be a wise-ass, she's talking about in real life, not Lit.

I dont think his bottom's very wise. If it starts reciting Aristotle and quoting from Dickens, then I'll count myself proven wrong

 

[koalabear]

I dont think his bottom's very wise. If it starts reciting Aristotle and quoting from Dickens, then I'll count myself proven wrong

you guys lost the colonies....nananana

 

[MSH2]

you guys lost the colonies....nananana

Speaking as a Colonial...............

 

[mwmnpa]

Maybe. I'm sure some people won't like the idea of this thread. But hey I just couldn't stand it anymore. I hate the thought of someone expecting me to enter into a relationship that has no chance of going anywhere.

I love all the cut and dried generalizations about married men.

However, to try and answer your questions:

- Just say "Thanks, but I don't go out with married men."

- In reply to your last sentence, there are a lot of people who are looking precisely for that, men and women.

I'm sorry you're feeling put upon about this. Now I have a question for you. What kind of relationship do you have with these three guys? Are they friends, and if so, how close?

 

[mrtnmoon]

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[geronimo_appleby]

mebbe just tell 'em, 'no thanks'. if they're players they'll move the hunt on perhaps?

as for the 'vibe' thing? possible, but that doesn't come across via lit very efficiently. is there a r/l female friend you can ask about this?

 

[koalabear]

I suppose you're welcome to drag up ancient history if you want to... doesn't change the fact that you're an asshole here and now, every day. you'd fit in well on the GB... if you were smarter.

and my apologizes to myth1... sorry for taking your thread off track.

don't really give a fuck what you think....you stuck your nose in......you got my three cents...tough shit if you don't like it....they have an iggy button. So who is the dumb ass....you are still talking to me.....and yes I am an asshole......

 

[Noor]

I very rarely get hit on by unavailable guys in real life, although I do all the time here.

Its hard to answer you without knowing more. Could you tell us a bit more about how you how you interacted with these guys before they asked you out?