Why isn't one enough?

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[DenverFunguy]

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We are the most advanced of the mammals, yet we still have much of the same make up of all the other mammals. Humans are the only ones who practice monogamy of the mammals. There are other species in the animal world that do mate for life. But none that I know of in the mammals. The males of all mammals are programed even if deep in our history to reproduce with any willing partner. We are way too good at just that. Our population numbers prove this. But until men have someone in their life full time in there bed every night and all of their needs met, we are always looking to be stimulated. And even when we have all of that, if they are not dead below the waist we look with desire. Most of us don't act on our desires but we have them. Any honest man will admit that a reseptive woman who returns his flirts for long enough will turn him on in some way.
Just my thoughts on it.
Mike

 

[DenverFunguy]

Long enough may be as long as it takes to make eye contact. Micro second? Smiles

 

[DenverFunguy]

And not being a woman I cannot speak from personal expereance, but the popularity of books like 50 shades, woman, are opening up to their sexual needs much more so than they did even a generation ago. We all need to feel fofilled and taken care of in what ever way our mood is in that moment.

 

[BlueEyedGent]

I found a great online friend and we've been talking for some time now but he is always looking for more. I’m talking quantity not quality here. I don’t want to say I’m jealous because I’m not but I’d be lying if I said it doesn't bother me. It does bother me. We could have a hot steamy sexy conversation one day and the very next day, he’s posting and asking for PM’s. I’d don’t want any more from him than online fun. I just want to be the only one. Has that become too weird? Maybe it’s just me. Maybe I’m just a hopeless romantic. Maybe I’m not as much as of a free spirit as I thought I was. Feeling a little sad, and tossed to the side right now.

I have read your post over a dozen times because a lot of it was confusing to me...

You said you found a great online friend...
Now, what exactly makes him a great friend? Does he respect you when you are spending time with him? Do you share intimate details of your life with him when you aren't "playing" and if you do, does he offer you support, encouragement if and when you need it? Does he feel sad if you are hurting, and vise versa? If you answered yes to these questions, then yes, you do have a great friend, and if you answered no, you might want to rethink....

You said that he is always looking for " more"...quantity VS quality...
When you met him online was he the same way? Was he posting and asking for PM's? If he was the same , were you thinking that you could change him?

You said that you aren't jealous, but it does bother you....
No matter how you slice it, you're jealous
Are you afraid that someone will come along who will replace you entirely, and he will say goodbye to you? Are you anxious that perhaps he will compare you to others? Are you thinking the worst during the times he isn't available to spend time with you?...

You said that you have hot and steamy conversations one day and the next he is on the prowl again...but that you don't want anything more than online fun...
That in itself is ultra confusing...
When your " friendship " began, did you say you didn't want anything more than online fun? and if so, what was his response?...

Have you told him that you just want to be the only one?
If you have told him this and if he does not want what you want then you need to decide if spending time with him is leaving you feel good with yourself after a " chat" . If you cannot accept it then perhaps the best action to take is to cut the cord...

You mentioned that you felt sad and that you feel tossed to the side ...
Sadness is a horrible emotion to feel and I am not saying you shouldn't feel that way...no one should question or mock what someone else is feeling...however...the feeling tossed to the side statement, I am having a difficult time sympathizing with you, only because there are so many unknown variables that have not been addressed.

My suggestion to you is to have a heart to heart chat with this man...
No playing, just real thoughts...feelings...emotions...

 

[Sulk]

Some people are just assholes; some people have a hole to fill. The latter assume the problem is needing more and more input when their problem is within themselves. It likely won't assuage your legitimate feelings of abandonment, but it isn't you, it is him. Just because you have no intention of expanding your role in his life from on-line does not make your role any less "real."

Suggest a butt-plug to him. At least one hole will be filled.

Amen.

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

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[elusive_buttrfly]

Adding my two cents here. You do really have to think where you met this guy. It wasn't on a dating website or a chat site. Most here are looking for a quick fix and a means to get off. I'm not sure romance plays a huge part at all here. Hope things start looking up for you. *butterfly kisses*

 

[Sulk]

We are the most advanced of the mammals, yet we still have much of the same make up of all the other mammals. Humans are the only ones who practice monogamy of the mammals. There are other species in the animal world that do mate for life. But none that I know of in the mammals. The males of all mammals are programed even if deep in our history to reproduce with any willing partner. We are way too good at just that. Our population numbers prove this. But until men have someone in their life full time in there bed every night and all of their needs met, we are always looking to be stimulated. And even when we have all of that, if they are not dead below the waist we look with desire. Most of us don't act on our desires but we have them. Any honest man will admit that a reseptive woman who returns his flirts for long enough will turn him on in some way.
Just my thoughts on it.
Mike

Sorry Mike, just noticed your reply. Did your evening involve mushrooms or roll-ups that night?

 

[Sulk]

Adding my two cents here. You do really have to think where you met this guy. It wasn't on a dating website or a chat site. Most here are looking for a quick fix and a means to get off. I'm not sure romance plays a huge part at all here. Hope things start looking up for you. *butterfly kisses*

I think you have to look back at a lot of Literoticans. Many have met here for more than 'a quick fix and a means to get off.'

The Playground is, after all, filled under The Personals.

We all think about, and find, this forum in different terms!