Why is it that some guys...

[StrawberryPez]

Will ramble on and on about how pathetic they are when they find out the girl they like, doesn't like them?

Especially if the girl didn't even show any more than a "I just want to be your friend" type of attitude....

Guys..please tell me why, because I give up trying to figure it out on my own.

 

[superlittlegirl]

Will ramble on and on about how pathetic they are when they find out the girl they like, doesn't like them?

Especially if the girl didn't even show any more than a "I just want to be your friend" type of attitude....

Guys..please tell me why, because I give up trying to figure it out on my own.

Three words:

Attempted Guilt Trip.

Edited to say: Oops, sorry I answered before I processed that it was a question for the guys. Though, being hermaphroditic, I'd imagine I at least half qualify.

 

[Vinny]

ATTENTION thats the word, they want attention

 

[Bindii]

Re: Re: Why is it that some guys...

Three words:

Attempted Guilt Trip.

You took the words right out of my mouth!

 

[Velius]

Either that or they are insecure.

 

[takingchances42]

I don't know any guys like that. But, I don't hang around with pathetic guys.



It's not a guy thing. It's not a woman thing. It's a pathetic person thing.

 

[StrawberryPez]

this isn't really just a guy question, I just figured maybe some men would know why.

So should I just tell this guy that it's because he IS pathetic, that's why the girl doesn't like him?

 

[takingchances42]

Depends on whether you believe honesty is the best policy... or you believe in little white lies?

 

[Velius]

Yeah most likely it is just the Guilt Trip thing.

 

[StrawberryPez]

I believe in honesty being the best policy. He asked me today why girls won't date him, the whole "What's wrong with me?" question. I told him "I can't answer that, I'm not EVERY girl" he said "Okay..then why will YOU not date me?" I said "Because you are annoying, needy, and want everything to revolve around you." Yes, a bit harsh, but he wanted honesty.

 

[superlittlegirl]

I think that if you can figure out a way to do this tactfully, you'll be doing him a great service. I have seen so many guys crash and burn because of self-deprecating behavior. It just isn't attractive in any way. You may run the risk of hurting his feelings by telling him the truth, but if he can wrap his mind around what you've got to say and modify his self-presentation style, then he might have a better chance at scoring. He'll thank you eventually.

this isn't really just a guy question, I just figured maybe some men would know why.

So should I just tell this guy that it's because he IS pathetic, that's why the girl doesn't like him?

 

[beefyboy]

and if tact doesn't work ...

tell him he's a gutless weenie and a disgrace to men everywhere and will be until he gets his shit together and decides to go after want he wants with some vigor instead of sheepishly hoping.

 

[StrawberryPez]

beefyboy...how about I give you his number and you can tell him yourself

It would sound so much better coming from a guy.

 

[Vinny]

SP you are so adorable. Stay that way and just be tactful

 

[StrawberryPez]

I plan on staying that way Vinny. I finally decided I like who I am, and I don't want to change.

 

[Vinny]

Hugs. I like who you are to. Very sweet

 

[StrawberryPez]

Well thank you Vinny

 

[Cibo]

I'd say that Freya hit the nose right on the head.

 

[Harbinger]

Or you could point out to him that whiney behavior may have gotten him what he wanted from mommy when he was seven, it doesn't go very far when trying to attract the admiration of a woman. Since attracting women seems to be a goal of his, he should find that useful. If that's not too harsh.

 

[Lancecastor]

An alternate view

Supposing a Boy likes a Grrl, but she doesn't dig him.

She doesn't tell him "no" flat out.

He keeps asking her out.

She says she wants to be "friends", etc, instead of saying "No, I don't dig you."

She then asks her friends why all Boys are such losers...the Friends say "He's needy, etc"....though they've never met him.

She's looking for a reason to be mean to him at this point.

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So who's the manipulating insecure lying sack of shit here....the Boy?

Or SPez?

?????????

 

[StrawberryPez]

Ooh. I like that Harbinger. I'll have to use that.

 

[Vinny]

SP

Will you go out with me?

 

[LordMagicMan]

Because guys suck

 

[PhxPlay4n6]

It's called a pity party. Some guys are whiney like that just so girls think they're vulnerable and will give him a mercy fuck...it's sad really LOL....

 

[StrawberryPez]

Sure Vinny Where we goin?


Aww. LMM not all guys suck.