Why is it so difficult???

[devilishnight]

honestly, why is it so difficult to find a women who doesn't care about a relationship? I am a 28yr old male who live in NOVA, one of the most fastest growing cities in the nation right now. I have a very decent job and I don't need a suger mama. But why is it so difficult to get a woman? I mean don't you ladies like the term "friends with benefits?"

 

[tastemytits]

most of us are "wired" differently than you guys...... it's an emotional thing. Sorry.....

 

[sba]

There are women like that! They are called "whores".
They would ask you the current rates of benefits!

 

[OrgasmicleBunny]

There are women like that! They are called "whores".
They would ask you the current rates of benefits!

Are you saying women who enjoy a "friends with benefits" relationships are whores????

All I can say is, that is fucking ridiculous. I suppose you think a woman's place is in the kitchen and they should only wear dresses and other such old fashioned ideas.

Welcome to the 21st century.

 

[Lurnk]

honestly, why is it so difficult to find a women who doesn't care about a relationship? I am a 28yr old male who live in NOVA, one of the most fastest growing cities in the nation right now. I have a very decent job and I don't need a suger mama. But why is it so difficult to get a woman? I mean don't you ladies like the term "friends with benefits?"

Here's a tip: Learn how to be a friend before trying to get the benefits.

 

[LadyofMagic]

There are women like that! They are called "whores".
They would ask you the current rates of benefits!

LMAO.....very funny....

yes, women are different, most of us need that connection, damn...I havn't met any men I want to have a good lunch with...never mind anything else...

 

[LadyofMagic]

Are you saying women who enjoy a "friends with benefits" relationships are whores????

All I can say is, that is fucking ridiculous. I suppose you think a woman's place is in the kitchen and they should only wear dresses and other such old fashioned ideas.

Welcome to the 21st century.

I agree...you should not judge...we all need to decide what's right for us as individuals...a woman should NOT be judged because she is sexual and may be able to enjoy a casual sexual relationship....(God bless her I say!)

We have to watch the stereo types here..."Good girl...bad girl." UGH!!.........women are sexual creatures ..just as much as men.....does not make them GOOD OR BAD...makes them human....

As for me...I NEED the connection, special bond.....casual....is NOT my thing....but that's just me.....we are are allowed to DECIDE for oursleves...and we should not judge one another for our choices....

 

[devilishnight]

There are women like that! They are called "whores".
They would ask you the current rates of benefits!

NO THEY ARE NOT CALLED WHORES. Just because someone wants to have sex but does not want to have a relationship we cannot label them by calling them whores. That is the most ridiculous thing I've heard in a long time.

 

[devilishnight]

Here's a tip: Learn how to be a friend before trying to get the benefits.

Yup I totally agree with you. The problem is "WORK". I work too damn much and not enough time to meet anyone.

 

[sassykat]

NO THEY ARE NOT CALLED WHORES. Just because someone wants to have sex but does not want to have a relationship we cannot label them by calling them whores. That is the most ridiculous thing I've heard in a long time.

I am a woman who likes the friends with benefits type thing....I like the friendship that goes with it...I like honesty...if I am your friend with benefits...you would be the only one I am sharing those benefits with and I would expect the same...but then does that turn into a relationship of some type...

I like to come to the boards and flirt and have fun, but I hope my friend knows that, I do not ask the other person to come to where I live, I do not encourge PM's, I play, but if it goes to the PM thing I make sure they understand that I have someone that I share my sex life with and that is it. So does that make it a relationship on my part when I am only a fuck buddy on his part...where does the line get drawn between being a fuck buddy, and having a relationship? I need help with this so would like to hear from the men how they think on this.

If you have a fuck buddy...or friend with benefits...do you want that person to be the only one you are fucking and do you want her to be fucking only you? It is a fine line between relationship and fuck buddy. Help me see the guy's point of view on this.

 

[devilishnight]

I can only speak for myself. I don't know how most guys feel about it. For me, I guess it actually depends on the person. I've had friends with benefit where I actually didn't care who she slept with or what she did on her free time. I didn't see it as a relationship so there was no hide and seek. There was no reason for monogamy on her part. If she didn't sleep with anyone else that was by choice.

I am not the right person to judge anyone. I wouldn't judge her or discourage her if she slept with someone other than me. If we discussed about it and if I thought she could get herself in trouble I'd let her know. And it's not because I am sleeping with her or anything.

It has happened to me where the other person started catching feelings. And I can actually understand and see why they would have feelings. It’s not easy to have friend with benefit and eventually not catch feelings. We are not robots. But if both part agree from the very beginning that it's nothing but sex I guess it have the potential of working out. But it always causes drama. Or at least that's my experience.

I don't know if this response helps you in anyway.

I am a woman who likes the friends with benefits type thing....I like the friendship that goes with it...I like honesty...if I am your friend with benefits...you would be the only one I am sharing those benefits with and I would expect the same...but then does that turn into a relationship of some type...

I like to come to the boards and flirt and have fun, but I hope my friend knows that, I do not ask the other person to come to where I live, I do not encourge PM's, I play, but if it goes to the PM thing I make sure they understand that I have someone that I share my sex life with and that is it. So does that make it a relationship on my part when I am only a fuck buddy on his part...where does the line get drawn between being a fuck buddy, and having a relationship? I need help with this so would like to hear from the men how they think on this.

If you have a fuck buddy...or friend with benefits...do you want that person to be the only one you are fucking and do you want her to be fucking only you? It is a fine line between relationship and fuck buddy. Help me see the guy's point of view on this.

 

[freestyle_ammo]

I am a woman who likes the friends with benefits type thing....I like the friendship that goes with it...I like honesty...if I am your friend with benefits...you would be the only one I am sharing those benefits with and I would expect the same...but then does that turn into a relationship of some type...

I like to come to the boards and flirt and have fun, but I hope my friend knows that, I do not ask the other person to come to where I live, I do not encourge PM's, I play, but if it goes to the PM thing I make sure they understand that I have someone that I share my sex life with and that is it. So does that make it a relationship on my part when I am only a fuck buddy on his part...where does the line get drawn between being a fuck buddy, and having a relationship? I need help with this so would like to hear from the men how they think on this.

If you have a fuck buddy...or friend with benefits...do you want that person to be the only one you are fucking and do you want her to be fucking only you? It is a fine line between relationship and fuck buddy. Help me see the guy's point of view on this.

If the guy sees you as his fuck buddy, then thats it. you are his friend and when he wants to play thats when it happens and vice versa. I assure you that if he is a friend with benefits that he is looking for other women possibly and you are his safety net, mind you though if the trend keeps up for any length of time i assure you that things will surpass the friends part and move towards a relationship, atleast in one person's eyes.

so all in all, if you meet a guy that you want to hook up with by no means should your fuck buddy be jealous or mad, its purely sexual between you two when you hook up and when you aren't then you are purely friends. its a beautiful thing but in time that chemistry will happen and you are playing with fire one person is bound to get hurt if both don't form deeper feelings for eachother.

thats my opinion if you can understand it, its late so don't pay any attention to me if you don't get it

 

[sassykat]

I can only speak for myself. I don't know how most guys feel about it. For me, I guess it actually depends on the person. I've had friends with benefit where I actually didn't care who she slept with or what she did on her free time. I didn't see it as a relationship so there was no hide and seek. There was no reason for monogamy on her part. If she didn't sleep with anyone else that was by choice.

I am not the right person to judge anyone. I wouldn't judge her or discourage her if she slept with someone other than me. If we discussed about it and if I thought she could get herself in trouble I'd let her know. And it's not because I am sleeping with her or anything.

It has happened to me where the other person started catching feelings. And I can actually understand and see why they would have feelings. It’s not easy to have friend with benefit and eventually not catch feelings. We are not robots. But if both part agree from the very beginning that it's nothing but sex I guess it have the potential of working out. But it always causes drama. Or at least that's my experience.

I don't know if this response helps you in anyway.

Thanks for the input...I still am not sure how I feel, I don't want a relationship per sey, but I do not want to fuck around with more than one person and vice versa...so I guess maybe I should back out and that way he can do whatever and I am not going to get hurt in the process. Right now, I am not sure what my feelings are for this person, I just know that I will not fuck anyone else while I am fucking him and I would expect the same. Sounds too much like a relationship doesn't it....

 

[sassykat]

If the guy sees you as his fuck buddy, then thats it. you are his friend and when he wants to play thats when it happens and vice versa. I assure you that if he is a friend with benefits that he is looking for other women possibly and you are his safety net, mind you though if the trend keeps up for any length of time i assure you that things will surpass the friends part and move towards a relationship, atleast in one person's eyes.

so all in all, if you meet a guy that you want to hook up with by no means should your fuck buddy be jealous or mad, its purely sexual between you two when you hook up and when you aren't then you are purely friends. its a beautiful thing but in time that chemistry will happen and you are playing with fire one person is bound to get hurt if both don't form deeper feelings for eachother.

thats my opinion if you can understand it, its late so don't pay any attention to me if you don't get it

Thanks for the reply, it does make sense.

 

[tyler292]

Dude, here's the thing: it's all about biology.

Genetically speaking, men want to spread their genes, and women want a guy who will bring home the buffalo and stick around the cave while after the kids are born. We are just pre-programmed that way, and it's the same all over the world.

Girls generally don't like the term "friends with benefits", especially if you are not a friend. They like the term "long term relationship."

So if you're on the dating scene, I would try to at least pretend that I'm interested in more than just a one nighter.

But don't hold it against the ladies, that's what makes them so interesting! The thrill of the chase!

I think only gay guys have the advantage of screwing everything they want without attachment. But to enjoy the beauty of the female, you must be willing to deal with the baggage!

 

[devilishnight]

Dude you are right. I think the chase is worth it eventually even when its labeled as relationship.

Dude, here's the thing: it's all about biology.

Genetically speaking, men want to spread their genes, and women want a guy who will bring home the buffalo and stick around the cave while after the kids are born. We are just pre-programmed that way, and it's the same all over the world.

Girls generally don't like the term "friends with benefits", especially if you are not a friend. They like the term "long term relationship."

So if you're on the dating scene, I would try to at least pretend that I'm interested in more than just a one nighter.

But don't hold it against the ladies, that's what makes them so interesting! The thrill of the chase!

I think only gay guys have the advantage of screwing everything they want without attachment. But to enjoy the beauty of the female, you must be willing to deal with the baggage!

 

[Guest]

Yup I totally agree with you. The problem is "WORK". I work too damn much and not enough time to meet anyone.

you just answered your own question

 

[devilishnight]

you just answered your own question

Yeah I know and now I feel like dumb ass. But my question was about friends with benefit.