Why I hate bi-curious men.

[OralAllOver]

From when I was a teenager I've known I was bi (revised to pan now). And I found that getting your hands (or mouth) on a cock is about the easiest thing on earth to do, so much easier than finding a willing woman at short notice.

On swinging sites there's a thousand and one guys with 'bi-curious' on their profiles. Bearing in mind it only takes about 5 minutes to satisfy that curiosity, why?

A lot of the time it feels like it's just a box some guys feel they have to tick, or they're looking to play with a couple and think it might be an extra enticement, but when it comes down to it a lot of guys are just like "You can suck my cock, I guess, maybe, but I'm not sucking yours".

Come on guys, overcome that curiosity and get the fuck out of that closet.

I think u underestimate your own courage
I was fearful, not even honest with self, for decades

u special!

 

[FlirtyWordy]

They're misrepresenting themselves, though. Not perceiving themselves.

What does bi-curious mean to you?

 

[Britva415]

What does bi-curious mean to you?

I would just point to the original post.

Partly because that's what we're talking about, here - we're not talking about genuinely bi-curious men.

And partly because I agree that the men it is talking about are not imaginary, not bisexual, and not even curious.

This isn't to say that there aren't genuinely bi-curious men, and it's clear that they aren't the ones who OP is mad at.

 

[Britva415]

we're not talking about genuinely bi-curious men

This came up in another thread just now. I think if these guys said "heteroflexible" instead of "bi-curious" this issue might be cleared up/go away.

Thoughts, @magic_rat ?

 

[FlirtyWordy]

I would just point to the original post.

Partly because that's what we're talking about, here - we're not talking about genuinely bi-curious men.

And partly because I agree that the men it is talking about are not imaginary, not bisexual, and not even curious.

This isn't to say that there aren't genuinely bi-curious men, and it's clear that they aren't the ones who OP is mad at.

Having been through a stage of "bi-curious," I guess I have some sympathy. They know they have some kind of interest, but don't know what it is. Perhaps posting, visiting hookup sites, etc. is a way they can vicariously have fun/become more comfortable with it without committing to anything scary

 

[TrailerHitch]

If I had never been bi-curious I never would have explored being bi. I have had experiences with men and now I just say I'm bi.

Don't like my explanation? Tough shit.

 

[Mrman69]

What does bi-curious mean to you?

It means we can fuck but no romantic relationship is possible.

 

[DoItAgain1144]

I think it means “playing with another dick is fun or a fun idea, I just don’t know what that means for me yet.”

And that’s enough of a definition.

A therapist told me in the 90s when I was 14 “bisexuality is just for people who aren’t willing to make a decision.” It’s funny how the crappy definitions others dictate can stick with us and mess up our self perception for a looooong time.

 

[FlirtyWordy]

If I had never been bi-curious I never would have explored being bi. I have had experiences with men and now I just say I'm bi.

Don't like my explanation? Tough shit.

This defines me.

But why the aggression?

 

[TrailerHitch]

This defines me.

But why the aggression?

Because I'm tired of the nonsense of someone deciding they get to define what someone else should be called.

 

[FlirtyWordy]

Because I'm tired of the nonsense of someone deciding they get to define what someone else should be called.

I agree. Was someone doing that here?

 

[DoItAgain1144]

I agree. Was someone doing that here?

Yes, OP was.

 

[FlirtyWordy]

Yes, OP was.

Ah, gotcha. That’s unfortunate

 

[Britva415]

I'm tired of the nonsense of someone deciding they get to define what someone else should be called.

Sure, dictating how someone else defines or labels theirself is obviously asinine, but asking them to make it make sense doesn't have to be.

What does bi-curious mean to you?

It means we can fuck but no romantic relationship is possible.

Like, why is that "curious?" It sounds like you have it all figured out. What are you curious about? What is it that you want the other person to think or understand about you when you call yourself bi "curious?" Asking because, speaking for myself, what you said is not what I would think. What I would think is that you don't know if you can fuck because you still need to try it. I'm not telling you how to label yourself, I'm just talking about how we can communicate effectively.

 

[ziggyjones44]

I want to defend the bi curious a little. (though they really irritate me 99% of the time) But this idea I've read here a few times of the post-nut awkwardness/guilt/hatred idea. Look we all know it is easier to get a cock, short notice without any prior relations with that organ. It just is. So I get why after the nut has blown, there is that awkwardness. Comparatively to woman I'd sleep with..... Simply I'm more likely to know her name and therefore more likely to be able to chat etc.