Why do you enjoy Domming?

[AmethystMelange]

I've been wondering about this out of curiosity. I understand that the answer, for a lot of people (and indeed, for my Dom), is "I just do". Same with submission, really. But on the other hand, perhaps some of you might have tried to probe it further? What feelings exactly does Domming arouse (ha, pun not intended) in you, why do you think that happens, what do you find *most* enjoyable about it?

As a sub, I personally have an easy answer to the reverse question - subspace. To me, the euphoria and sensations of subspace are phenomenal, amazing, out of this world. I get a deep, almost primal satisfaction out of relinquishing control, out of being vulnerable and helpless. But I suspect it's a little different for Doms. It's possible that Doms have their own "space", but they can't just lose themselves in it like subs can, right? They need to be present and alert, they need to decide what to do next and be watchful for any signs of their sub coming to harm.

I get that the answer might be different for everyone, but a variety of opinions is always good.

 

[Primalex]

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[SilverBass]

I really like the control aspect of being a Dom. I like calling the shots, deciding when and where (within the constraints of when both schedules allow) and a pet who will comply without hesitation to my demands. I am different however with many here as I am definitely a Gentle Dom. She is every bit a sub to me as to a more strict or hardcore Dom, however what I often want to enjoy is pleasing her. I love her body and enjoy giving her plenty of orgasms just the way shoe loves it. However, only when and how I decide and oftentimes I just want her pleasing or serving me, and she does.

But it doesn't end there. I have told my pet that I will not try to control her personal life (I wouldn't want to as I like her having that kind of responsibility and privacy) however at times when I want her to do something away from me, spend time with something or accomplish a task in her personal life, that she is to do so and she does. I have disciplined her a couple times, once for irresponsibility and once for disrespecting herself to another, but otherwise she is such a good pet that she is more deserving of rewards than discipline.

I also like giving her little gifts, mostly inexpensive, and having her use them as directed. I love my pet and love having a pet. While there is no feeling of superiority as I feel she is my equal as a person deserving respect, she knows who is the undeniable boss and she knows what I say goes, always. It is just nice having a little play toy that is so eager to fulfill all my needs, even if my needs are to please her.

 

[AmethystMelange]

Thanks guys!

I really like the control aspect of being a Dom. I like calling the shots, deciding when and where (within the constraints of when both schedules allow) and a pet who will comply without hesitation to my demands. I am different however with many here as I am definitely a Gentle Dom. She is every bit a sub to me as to a more strict or hardcore Dom, however what I often want to enjoy is pleasing her. I love her body and enjoy giving her plenty of orgasms just the way shoe loves it. However, only when and how I decide and oftentimes I just want her pleasing or serving me, and she does.

But it doesn't end there. I have told my pet that I will not try to control her personal life (I wouldn't want to as I like her having that kind of responsibility and privacy) however at times when I want her to do something away from me, spend time with something or accomplish a task in her personal life, that she is to do so and she does. I have disciplined her a couple times, once for irresponsibility and once for disrespecting herself to another, but otherwise she is such a good pet that she is more deserving of rewards than discipline.

I also like giving her little gifts, mostly inexpensive, and having her use them as directed. I love my pet and love having a pet. While there is no feeling of superiority as I feel she is my equal as a person deserving respect, she knows who is the undeniable boss and she knows what I say goes, always. It is just nice having a little play toy that is so eager to fulfill all my needs, even if my needs are to please her.

Very insightful, thank you. I wonder how this works for the "bedroom Doms" who mainly only express dominance in-scene, or for those who tend more towards sadism though?

 

[SilverBass]

Thanks guys!



Very insightful, thank you. I wonder how this works for the "bedroom Doms" who mainly only express dominance in-scene, or for those who tend more towards sadism though?

I am a Dom who does not have or feel any sadistic tendencies, so even I don't know that. If you really want to know why your Dom loves being a Dom, in my opinion it really needs to come from him. It can be as individualistic as asking why someone likes being a man or a woman. Different for everyone. However, though every man is different, all men share some similar traits, and with that said, all Doms are different but all will share some similar traits. A need or desire to be in control for one. The pleasure of being served and just knowing that what you want, you'll get, are probably common as well. For me personally there is no "Domspace". I am always me, I don't release anything in order to let go or play a role. I just do my own thing, and my thing really is dominating through kindness and consideration. This is why I feel so lucky to have found the sub I have as there are other subs who don't want this but rather seek a Master who is more sadistic or demanding. So yeah, being a Dom or a sub or anything in between is going to be as different an experience for someone as it is being a person.

 

[NimkiiGrizz]

I could never narrow it down to a why, it just is. I have been like this for as long as i can remember. I have always looked at females differently then others. Everyone will be talking about how pretty or how inteligent a particular woman is. when i look i want to see if she has good bone structure is well fed and looks like she can give birth to off spring. I know i have a pattern of thinking thats well over a 1000 years old. For the most part it works for me. all the wanna be's run from the bear screaming. the loud protesters either end up running off or submit.
So I maybe a cave bear in the way i think and act and how i look at the world. But I'm honest and true to myself. I know who I am. IF you can't handle that fine but take your personal opinion and make over i deas the fuck home. this bear is plenty tame enough.

 

[Blackandstrong]

It is very simple, control. A kind and considerate Dom has so much power, but uses it wisely fit the benefit of both himself and the woman who wishes to relinquish control to him.