Why do you choose to write erotica?

[Mnkinkcpl]

Why do you choose to write erotica?

A reply I made in another thread brought this question to mind.

For me it started out as journaling. After we got or first "modern" computer ie.. windows based not dos. Picked up a journaling program (That's like a app, for the younger people.) And I started to document our swinging adventures. After a few years the simple notes I made, who, what, where turned into more descriptive accounts.

I really think my overly high sex drive is the root. Writing erotica is a outlet for some of my more twisted kinks.

 

[SimonDoom]

I like to write. That's number 1.

I enjoy erotica. I read erotica for years and years before I wrote anything. Eventually, I thought, I can do that!

There's another element. I grew up in a somewhat inhibited environment. Sex wasn't talked about. It was always somewhat taboo. I recall the pleasure of stealing glimpses at Playboy magazines when I could, but it always felt furtive and forbidden. I also spent a big chunk of my adult life in a relationship weighed down by sexual inhibition. Eventually, that relationship ended, and it was like being let out of a cage.

So I turned to erotica as a form of release, and it remains that way for me today. A persistent and enjoyable (for me) theme of writing erotica is the feeling of release and self-affirmation through (sometimes outrageous) sexual activity. It's why I like to write stories about exhibitionism and transgressing taboos and normal boundaries.

The final thing, which came after I started writing, is the pleasure of knowing I am giving others pleasure. It's weird but incredibly satisfying to know that I've helped make another person that I don't even know achieve orgasm through my words. I love getting comments from readers who tell me that.

 

[holliday1960]

I like to write. That's number 1.

I enjoy erotica. I read erotica for years and years before I wrote anything. Eventually, I thought, I can do that!

There's another element. I grew up in a somewhat inhibited environment. Sex wasn't talked about. It was always somewhat taboo. I recall the pleasure of stealing glimpses at Playboy magazines when I could, but it always felt furtive and forbidden. I also spent a big chunk of my adult life in a relationship weighed down by sexual inhibition. Eventually, that relationship ended, and it was like being let out of a cage.

So I turned to erotica as a form of release, and it remains that way for me today. A persistent and enjoyable (for me) theme of writing erotica is the feeling of release and self-affirmation through (sometimes outrageous) sexual activity. It's why I like to write stories about exhibitionism and transgressing taboos and normal boundaries.

The final thing, which came after I started writing, is the pleasure of knowing I am giving others pleasure. It's weird but incredibly satisfying to know that I've helped make another person that I don't even know achieve orgasm through my words. I love getting comments from readers who tell me that.

'Transgressing normal boundaries'??? That's putting it mildly! LOL I've said it before... Simon-the-warped! Gotta love him.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

For me it was a form of exhibitionism, at first. I wanted to tell about my exploits. But most of the best ones occurred before I was 18, so they never made it on here. After I posted a few stories based on true events, I wanted to see if I could write pure fiction. It took a while, but i finally got the hang of it, more or less. Now, I am just trying to get better at storytelling. Someday I may go back to the novel I started 30 years ago. Until then, this is practice.

 

[SimonDoom]

'Transgressing normal boundaries'??? That's putting it mildly! LOL I've said it before... Simon-the-warped! Gotta love him.

I have no idea what you're talking about.

 

[KeithD]

It turns me on and transports me.

 

[Omenainen]

Writing is my art form, and for erotica I have an audience.

 

[bestkeptsecret678]

I like to write. That's number 1.

I enjoy erotica. I read erotica for years and years before I wrote anything. Eventually, I thought, I can do that!

There's another element. I grew up in a somewhat inhibited environment. Sex wasn't talked about. It was always somewhat taboo. I recall the pleasure of stealing glimpses at Playboy magazines when I could, but it always felt furtive and forbidden. I also spent a big chunk of my adult life in a relationship weighed down by sexual inhibition. Eventually, that relationship ended, and it was like being let out of a cage.

So I turned to erotica as a form of release, and it remains that way for me today. A persistent and enjoyable (for me) theme of writing erotica is the feeling of release and self-affirmation through (sometimes outrageous) sexual activity. It's why I like to write stories about exhibitionism and transgressing taboos and normal boundaries.

The final thing, which came after I started writing, is the pleasure of knowing I am giving others pleasure. It's weird but incredibly satisfying to know that I've helped make another person that I don't even know achieve orgasm through my words. I love getting comments from readers who tell me that.

Excellent post, and mirrors many aspects of my newly found journey into erotica. Sort of a new trick for this old dog.

 

[Imstillfun]

I’m bipolar type II. Along with that comes bouts of hypersexuality. One day I woke up with a ton of stories in my head and couldn’t rest until I recorded them all.

 

[DarkRaven13]

I have been telling people because I want to become a better writer, and its a way of me to push me into writing in a genre and style that pushes me beyond my comfort zone.

However ... in a recent conversation I've been having with someone who has encouraged me ... the question was brought up .... is that all it is? Or is there something about erotica that I am drawn to that I have not fully admitted to.

And it got me thinking ... perhaps this person is correct ...

 

[SamScribble]

I am not sure that I do choose to write erotica. I write slices of life. And life has some erotic moments.

Some people seem to enjoy the stories I write. The erotic moments possibly play a part in their enjoyment. Other people say that there aren't nearly enough erotic moments in my Lit stories. (They also grumble that I don't provide enough physical details of the characters in my stories. No bra sizes. No cock sizes.)

Apart from writing for my own amusement, I write for the first group of people.

 

[AWhoopsieDaisy]

I blame Homestuck. It was the first Fandom I had a ship compelling enough for me to latch onto.

 

[JadeSteed]

My writing is all about my kink, and "not my kink." I have some very specific kinks myself, but a lot of instant turnoffs, so I decided to write my own erotica that pleases ME. I got tired of reading something I liked, only to have the otherwise masculine bisexual (or straight!) male character feminized and thoroughly emasculated, or suddenly there's another woman involved, or there's squirting. Ugh. And I can't find much where the male partner is as sexually satisfied by the male lover as the female partner is. And even more difficult to find, MM couples seeking a female partner!

That, and my spouse is a newly emerged trans woman, and I am most definitely not into women (though for a while I thought I was curious and thought I might be able to enjoy sex with a woman, but quickly figured out it's not for me). The more my spouse transitions, the more I need to find a sexual outlet elsewhere but I'm not willing to step outside of my marriage, for however long it lasts. So, I write about MM, MF, and MMF relationships. It fills a huge hole in my personal life.

 

[MillieDynamite]

Someone has to do it. Why not me? Actually, I enjoy all kinds of writing. Erotic writing has always been fun. Making something scary and sexy is my favorite type to produce. I'll not venture an opinion on how successful I've been.

 

[ElectricBlue]

Writing erotica is a way of living vicariously, both now and with those people in the past who you thought about but never went further with. Now you can. Also, it's always fun to stretch your writer legs and go to other places, times, worlds, to see what you find there.

They say truth is stranger than fiction, but fiction allows you to stretch the truth, tIll your readers don't know what's real, what's not. It's when readers thank you for sharing, that you know you carried them along, for a while.

 

[Bramblethorn]

A bunch of things.

I'm fascinated by how people interact, and sex is part of that interaction. I enjoy the weirdness of being able to reach into the mind of somebody I've never met, and make them feel a certain way. I enjoy reading erotica but I rarely see people like me in it, so I started writing the stories I wanted to read and was pleasantly surprised to find that there's an audience for that.

 

[yukonnights]

I started in 2007 as simply something to do during a cold Alaskan winter. That first story was by the definition; a Loving Wives story. Saddly, I didn't know what LW meant to some readers. That story languished for years in that category until I pulled it and made it the first part of a three part series of stories. Over the years I have written a number of LGBTQ themed stories — both male/male (gay/bi) and female/female (lesbian/bi). I've also written some that are not focused on sexual orientation such as old-western themed stories.

As to why I write; Most of my LGBTQ stories tend toward the theme of all sexualities being normal. I think we're all born with a lot of pre-wired content that is shaped and molded by societal influences. The non-LGBTQ stories are simply done for my own entertainment on a likely cold winter night.

 

[Bisexguy70]

I grew up reading penthouse forum. My brother got them and i found his hidden stash. Oh i loved the few pictures also of course!!
I can relate to all these posts. Although i admit, i’m not very good with grammar and spelling. I wish in school they asked me to write journals about my lust for my teacher. I think i would have appreciated and payed closer attention.
For me, its also about having an outlet. As i write, or relive my experience, its as if I am doing the same act again. Having someone get pleasure and know they might orgasm after reading it sends me chills. To think i can have that effect on someone just from my words. To stimulate the biggest sex organ of them all, the brain. I will note, most of my erotica has been just correspondence with others. I tried to enter a story here but it was rejected. They never gave details as to why it was not accepted. I was so discouraged, i gave up and thought, whats the point. Its a shame because it involved me being forced gay by two men. I thought it was a very hot story.

 

[HeyAll]

I started reading erotica after high school, around 18 or 19 or so. Loved how it pushed buttons in a way that porn can't. Had a few ideas of my own and the rest is history.

 

[Amy_66]

I enjoy telling stories, and sex is a wonderful part of my existence. So, some of my stories are just sex stories.

But in all of life pretty much everywhere, human sexuality is significant. It is a motivator for action. Something that is more strictly censored elsewhere. So, while I don't necessarily think of some of my stories as being sex stories, they aren't "sanitized" BS sex-less stories either.

 

[PennameWombat]

I was good in English in high school (decades ago), that and some chain of causation lost in the fuzz of memory caused a couple of classmates to ask me to pen 'erotic' letters to present to their girlfriends... Wrote lots of reports for assignments across my liberal arts (mainly history) classes that was my balance to a computer science major that led to millions of lines of computer code. But no more real creative writing.

I'd always had a few specific stories I wanted to write, but any efforts crapped because I couldn't structure anything. So a few years back, I took a short creative writing workshop, which finally gave me enough focus. So, wanting at least a minimal audience but knowing I wasn't ready to slam a book through KDP, a chance internet search led me here. It was certainly a step up from other erotica sites, so I decided to revisit the stories I'd long had in my head. As to why via erotica? The stories always had that element, among others. So, use it.

I don't presume to claim any of my stories reflect real experiences or my actual sexual adventures. I do mine locations and professions I'm familiar with and can write about, but that's it (why you see computer science, architecture, accounting, math and soccer rather prominent amongst my characters). I've never had any interest in telling about my life, regardless of whether the events might be notable or not.

 

[SimpleEnigma]

I have to say, with all the responses from these great writers regarding their motivations, we feel ours is quite corrupt. But I'll put forth this anyway.


Lauren and I are longtime players, but we'd never written a thing. During the height of the pandemic, we were having weekly video chats with other couples in our special group, taking turns talking about details in our lives. Now, because we're all deviants in one way or the other, the tales naturally turned to sexual experiences. Bored to tears and looking for something to do, I later wrote down a few of these, projecting those real life events - heavily embellished, of course - onto a fictional couple. Lauren got so hot that it greatly enhanced our COVID isolation months. Once she began sharing those drafts with our friends, they began to ask that we weave their other experiences into that couple's highly compressed, highly improbable timeline.


Each chapter now revolves around our collective inventory of erotic adventures. Our fee? Party favors from the couple whose tale is told in a particular chapter. It's quite fun, actually. A couple only finds out if they are featured when the rest of the world does. Soon after, the phone rings to make arrangements with us to get together so we can collect our rewards. Everyone wins. What if that chapter is ripped from our marriage? Everyone still wins.


And that is why we write. Not for literary greatness (which we'll never attain, nor want to), not for the comments (which we have turned off)...or the ratings...or the 'H's. It's all for entertainment, and ultimately, the sweet party favors.


Stay tolerant, friends.

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I may not have the best stories, or long stories, but I love writing erotica nonetheless..

I started writing poetry when I was young.... It was an outlet for me while life was fucking me in the head...
How I went to write erotica, I don't remember...
But at 20 years old, I was in a semi-gender segregated rehab, and in my spare time, I wrote some pretty hot stuff, and passed it out along to the men's side... The reaction I received was outstanding!!
I get aroused as I write, and it's more intense if I have a muse.

 

[SimonDoom]

In the last 24 hours I received this comment from a reader: "Damn, now my shorts are sticky."

I find that motivating.

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

Because writing them is fun. Simple as that. I enjoy creating the story for my own purposes. Once it's done I share it with others in case it might bring someone else happiness.