Why Do We Settle for Less?

[juicylips]

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I think for many (myself included) it's a comfort zone that we are afraid to leave. Several years ago I started taking small steps outside of that zone and it's damn scary but if it works you develop a good feeling. Unfortunately some of my steps have slapped me in the face so I am a little more cautious about stepping out of my "comfort zone" too much.

I hope that some of those steps worked out in your favor. The sting of rejection or failure often overshadows the good we accomplish. Why is it we feel that kind of pain and not the thrill of reaching a goal?

JL

 

[Guest]

Because settling is easier than trying to attain something which takes work.

 

[freeluv765]

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Good Morning, f

So it's fear of failure that keeps us tethered? Too often true.

JL

JL
Accomplishments are few and far between failures dog our heels. We do remember our goals and the joy but rejections are so many that we are overwhelmed by them. If pain could be well remembered than no woman would ever give birth to a second child. and as far as the shallow cervix goes I would like to reach it with my tongue.................

 

[juicylips]

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Even with relationships...it's a matter of our preceived value.

I value you.

JL

 

[Rambrat]

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I value you.

JL

It's about freakin' time you saw my post....

 

[PepperminTrish]

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It's about freakin' time you saw my post....

Now, now ............ you have to SHARE JL with the rest of us too , ya know!!


Good morning JL.

 

[Rambrat]

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Now, now ............ you have to SHARE JL with the rest of us too , ya know!!


Good morning JL.

I posted before some of them...I'm entitled...
Good morning hon.

 

[juicylips]

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Now, now ............ you have to SHARE JL with the rest of us too , ya know!!


Good morning JL.

LMAO....Ram is quite spoiled. Sigh.

Morning, PT

JL

 

[PepperminTrish]

I posted before some of them...I'm entitled...
Good morning hon.

Well, when you wag that tongue at me like that, I just can't help but agree that you're entitled to whatever you want.


And good morning to you Darlin'.

 

[juicylips]

Because settling is easier than trying to attain something which takes work.

I didn't see this post earlier or else I would have said....


BINGO!!!

JL

 

[Xander]

I mean less of everything. Our jobs, our relationships, our sex lives. Our own personal growth.

Are you just settling for what's out there or are you trying to reach for something just beyond what you're currently doing?

JL

I tried to settle once upon a time. Didn't work. So now I am reaching. Always

 

[Purrde Flower]

I mean less of everything. Our jobs, our relationships, our sex lives. Our own personal growth.

Are you just settling for what's out there or are you trying to reach for something just beyond what you're currently doing?

JL

I think it is because most of us would be scared that this isn't settleing and it's the best it's going to get. nothing worse than being alone because you let all the good oppertunities pass you by while waiting for the BIG ONE that has already come and gone

 

[cutie pie]

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I tried to settle once upon a time. Didn't work. So now I am reaching. Always

Could not have said it better myself.

However, this is not a black and white issue either. . .too many shades of gray. Sometimes there's a valid reason to settle for what you have at a particular moment in time. . .

 

[bored1]

I mean less of everything. Our jobs, our relationships, our sex lives. Our own personal growth.

Are you just settling for what's out there or are you trying to reach for something just beyond what you're currently doing?

JL

I dont think we settle for less, we just lower our expectations to the level of reality.

 

[juicylips]

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I dont think we settle for less, we just lower our expectations to the level of reality.

That's one way of looking at it.

Wouldn't be nice, though, if we could raise reality to meet our expectations? But then that would be fantasy, wouldn't it?

JL