Why do some subs crave correction?

[Dhabidommetrix]

Okay this question is from a member here in the community. Inputs are welcomed also. Well when subs crave correction and disciplines It simply reinforces structure, attention, and validation.

 

[Xenaqueen]

For myself, I agree. It also takes a bit of my brattiness.

 

[PaxNurgle]

There's different ways to look at "Correction." There are pain sluts who crave being spanked/paddled, and submissives who crave discipline, and see paddles/spanking/etc. as discipline rather than "play." For myself, it is a mixture of both. I am not a pain slut, but like being "put in my place," as it's hot when my domme asserts her dominance. However I am also not the type who would deliberatley act the "Brat" just to intentionally earn a spanking.

 

[Kat_Galore]

Because it's sexy

 

[SirSparky]

My sub is both a pain slut who craves more and more pain and also enjoys the correction and punishment to be put in her place when she has displeased me in some way

 

[PaxNurgle]

I just don't want to deliberatly displease anyone. Because if you deliberately displease someone just to earn a punishment, then the fact is, you still displeased them- and why should they give you what you want. Just my take- and this is coming from a guy who doesn't mind a little physical discipline once in a while.

 

[Dhabidommetrix]

There's different ways to look at "Correction." There are pain sluts who crave being spanked/paddled, and submissives who crave discipline, and see paddles/spanking/etc. as discipline rather than "play." For myself, it is a mixture of both. I am not a pain slut, but like being "put in my place," as it's hot when my domme asserts her dominance. However I am also not the type who would deliberatley act the "Brat" just to intentionally earn a spanking.

lol. interesting

 

[davion2308]

The first entry by OP in this thread is .... curious.

My sub craves correction because she likes to know the boundaries, the expectations, and that I will follow up with providing correction for her behaviors. She gets off on the consistency more than anything. She feels comfortable and confident when she crosses a line and I respond immediately because she knows and lives within those boundaries.

Plus, as said before, it's really fucking sexy.

 

[OldGoodPup]

I want to be absolutely perfect for my Miss. Correction is inevitable. It's a gift that shows that she really does love me and wants me to be my best. Does it hurt? A little. Does it remind me of my place? Absolutely. Sometimes I actually yearn for the attention of her crop to my little balls. And then I make her even more proud of me as I don't wince or cry out in front of her friends and lover.

 

[PaxNurgle]

^That's my take exactly. Could not have expressed it better!

 

[Quint12]

Okay this question is from a member here in the community. Inputs are welcomed also. Well when subs crave correction and disciplines It simply reinforces structure, attention, and validation.

I love being told what to do and what im not allowed to do. Something about my wife punishing me that makes me hot......she can say one word and my cock twitches. I crave her control

 

[Samantha47]

Because it's sexy

So true

 

[Samantha47]

^That's my take exactly. Could not have expressed it better!

I agree

 

[oneguy4fun]

I guess it’s the way I’m wired. I love feeling her control and dominance over me. When I am punished or disciplined it is like she is molding me to behave the way she wants and I am yielding to her power. It makes me feel so subby and aroused!

 

[saintcero]

….It makes me feel so subby and aroused!

So true. Let the submission wash over you and put you in your place.

 

[ShanahS]

You can get the corrective action but still misbehave/be a brat, necessitating in a spanking or other punishment which fulfills another craving...

 

[Samantha47]

So true. Let the submission wash over you and put you in your place.

I'd love that

 

[apom]

I guess I'm a little different. I hate correction because it means I've failed the people I'm supposed to be serving, but I appreciate being corrected because it allows me to be a better slave. There are few feelings in the world worse than disappointing those I'm meant to please.

 

[ZacharyFagg]

I love punishment and I need pain.

 

[average_red]

I think that the problem is faulty definitions:

"Correction" might mean correction, or it might be the attention, validation, and sensations they are here for.

I think that the answers are basically if they actually want actual corrections, they just want to feel the walls of the house they live in, and it comforts them to know that they are inside rather than outside.

My question for the subs: obviously there are punishments which you enjoy. Are there punishments your Dom gives you that you actually genuinely hate and that genuinely make you avoid repeating the behavior because you don't want to be punished like that again? I guess that the most similar example was that as an adolescent I was indifferent to pain, but hated my dad saying that he was disappointed in me. I would choose to accept the beatings as the price of my actions, but avoided causing disappointment at nearly any cost.

 

[MasterDarcy]

There's a myriad of reason:

Some subs are pain sluts who crave and live for pain and discipline.

Some are brats who get off on pushing the limits and boundaries of their Dom and seeing how far they can get before they face discipline.

Then there are the subs who genuinely and earnestly want to be moulded and augmentated into the Dom's perfect image of a submissive.

All are nuanced and intriguing.

Personally, I love all three, however, the third one is particularly intriguing. You have to respect a submissive who is practically a blank canvas who is willing and has a desire to be sculpted and moulded and conditioned. Not just their actions and ttheir boundaries, etc, but also their personality and character.

it has a lot of "My Fair Lady" to it.

"My Fair Lady" is without a doubt the best BDSM movie. It's so good that it doesn't need sex, doesn't need nudity and it doesn't even need one single kiss. The dynamic and chemistry are incredibly subtle.

Much in the vein of "Pride and Prejudice."

 

[Cruelsmile5]

Some subs have a very difficult time verbalizing a craving for punishment, especially In the form of heavy pain or intense humiliation. It’s easy to step over the boundaries and suffer the consequences than to simply ask for those consequences.

This is why I’m a fan of regular mild-moderate pain play for maintenance purposes. It’s a heathy way to address cravings, for both dom and sub.

 

[Samantha47]

Some subs have a very difficult time verbalizing a craving for punishment, especially In the form of heavy pain or intense humiliation. It’s easy to step over the boundaries and suffer the consequences than to simply ask for those consequences.

This is why I’m a fan of regular mild-moderate pain play for maintenance purposes. It’s a heathy way to address cravings, for both dom and sub.

Sounds like what I want

 

[wwot40]

Some submissives crave correction not for the punishment itself, but because it makes them feel guided, valued, cared for, and secure in their submission.

 

[Samantha47]

Some submissives crave correction not for the punishment itself, but because it makes them feel guided, valued, cared for, and secure in their submission.

Oh yes you are right