why do I have such a hard time staying in character?

[Shellion79]

I love being submissive to my man. Nothing turns me on more than when he dominates me. I want to learn how to stay in character. I hate that I am constantly being disobedient. Any advice welcome.

 

[Kudram123]

Have you ever considered that being disobedient is your character?

There are those that like to disobey to provoke a spanking or the such.

 

[IrisAlthea]

What specifcally is it you like to submit to an what is it you disobey?

 

[seela]

Are you sure you want to submit? Check out this excellent post by Stella Omega.

 

[wicked woman]

Maybe because you consider it a 'character' versus part of who you are.

Does your PYL mind when you're bratty?

 

[KlaytonFrost]

If you want to stay in character my only advice to you would be, well, just stay in character. It seems from what you're saying though that you might not actually want to?

 

[Shellion79]

I love being spanked, yes, but I hate disappointing Daddy. I am not passing the buck here, but I forget myself when the ' firm, dominate' side of his slips and he speaks to me as an equal. I forget to be submissive, suddenly my wants are just as important as his. Once that first disobedient action comes out... it's the snowball effect. I would love to practice until perfect, but He gets frustrated and I feel so inadequate that we give up.

 

[Primalex]

I love being submissive to my man. Nothing turns me on more than when he dominates me. I want to learn how to stay in character. I hate that I am constantly being disobedient. Any advice welcome.

I guess if he can't come up with a punishment to stop you, he doesn't care.

 

[MeekMe]

I love being spanked, yes, but I hate disappointing Daddy. I am not passing the buck here, but I forget myself when the ' firm, dominate' side of his slips and he speaks to me as an equal. I forget to be submissive, suddenly my wants are just as important as his. Once that first disobedient action comes out... it's the snowball effect. I would love to practice until perfect, but He gets frustrated and I feel so inadequate that we give up.

You both give up? Are you both new to this sort of arrangement? Have you talked about needs and wants and set up boundaries? Do you naturally feel submissive or are you putting on an act for him because you happen to like him?

Your needs and wants are important. Is this a 24/7 thing? A bedroom only thing? You haven't given a whole lot of information.

There's more than just being a "sub" and if you look around on the forum you'll see many if us have very different relationships. Maybe something will click with what you actually want.

 

[StrayKat]

I forget to be submissive

Maybe you could think about what you wrote here. Says quite a bit imo.

 

[IrisAlthea]

I love being spanked, yes, but I hate disappointing Daddy. I am not passing the buck here, but I forget myself when the ' firm, dominate' side of his slips and he speaks to me as an equal. I forget to be submissive, suddenly my wants are just as important as his. Once that first disobedient action comes out... it's the snowball effect. I would love to practice until perfect, but He gets frustrated and I feel so inadequate that we give up.

Did you read the post Seela linked?