why do i feel like a failure at being bisexual?

[Silverluna]

I have now a real life boyfriend....



But I thought I was into girls?!


Sorry just rambling....-.-'

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

You are BI, love. That means no matter who you date whether they are male or female you will always be bi. Bisexuality has absolutely nothing to do with who you screw (or love) and everything to with how you feel deep down inside.

If you still feel bi..then you are.

 

[Pookie]

I have now a real life boyfriend....



But I thought I was into girls?!


Sorry just rambling....-.-'

I married a guy back in the summer.

 

[sdedalus]

just engaged

I just got engaged to the love of my life.. a woman....

but I want to have sex with guys...

it's all good...

 

[deliciously_naughty]

Darlin don't worry about labels...you're still you

 

[ReBeLBeLLe]

I agree with the above statements. When you commit to another, they gotta be either male, or female. That doesn't change who you are, just who you are partnered with. Your relationship isn't about a label, it's what you feel for another, and what you are willing to give to another, bi, gay, lesbian doesn't enter into that. Love is not a sexuality.

 

[Etoile]

I agree with the above statements. When you commit to another, they gotta be either male, or female. That doesn't change who you are, just who you are partnered with. Your relationship isn't about a label, it's what you feel for another, and what you are willing to give to another, bi, gay, lesbian doesn't enter into that. Love is not a sexuality.

Wow, this is really well-put, FinestSilk.

The only thing I'd change is that "they gotta be either male or female" - binary gender systems suck! How about "they're only one person" - that allows trans and intersexed people to get in on the action.

 

[Silverluna]

thanks guys (gender neutral term) ...I really do appreciate the support...I was serious in my post...I love this man....and he loves me but he's obviously not a woman and not even bisexual....so things are sometimes akward....

 

[Etoile]

Silverluna,

The way I often phrase it is that I fall in love with a person. You happened to fall in love with a guy. If he were a woman, you'd still have fallen in love with him, because of who he is. It just happens that he's male. Don't dwell on the fact that he's a guy - spend your time loving the person you love, not being afraid of the person he's not.

 

[deezire1900]

I am 100% BI, but my lesbian friends don't understand and my straight male friends think a threesome is in their future.

BI to me is falling for "that" person who walks into my life...i can't choose if it will be a he or a she....but I can leave my heart open and smile alot.

Deezire

 

[Silverluna]

Thank you again everyone...

 

[Ms_Lilith]

thanks guys (gender neutral term) ...I really do appreciate the support...I was serious in my post...I love this man....and he loves me but he's obviously not a woman and not even bisexual....so things are sometimes akward....

Honey,

I'm bi. I've known it for years. My partner has known it the entire time we've been together. He's pretty straight. As in, he doesn't mind looking at men naked, but he's completely not interested in being with one. My man knows that he can't satisfy my woman-woman urgings. He never WILL be able to satisfy those urgings. I'm lucky, because he's given me the green light to play with women, if I want to or need to, but I have yet to take him up on that offer. I just don't feel like going through all of the effort of finding a woman, making friends, and then getting this agreement that it's just a sex thing. I'd much rather spend my woman-woman moments masturbating to memories or fantasies of women, and satisfy them that way, and then go get myself royally fucked by my wonderful man.

*shrug*

Just because you're bi doesn't mean you HAVE to be involved with both men and women all the time. I've been with my sweetie for almost two and a half years now, and have not been with a woman in the interim (save for some lovely phone conversations, etc). There were times in my past when I slept with only women or only men. *shrug*

 

[Etoile]

Very well said, vixenshe!