Why did you cheat?

[Justfantasies]

Why did you have sex with someone other than your significant other? Did it work for you?

For girls and boys.

 

[Gator66]

There are pretty large parts of the answer to this question that are not shared here, but I found myself in a very unhealthy situation with a partner that was also very unhealthy, and I desired an escape.

 

[gtnlynn]

My wife and I were "engaged to be engaged" when we were in college. We went to different universities, and she was free to date, but definitely not to have sex with others. We only saw each other once or twice a month, and both of us were extremely horny. I just suffered. She had sex on a regular basis with guys at her university. She told them it was just for fun, and if they got serious, she dumped them. She cheated to satisfy a need. After we married, I gave her permission to have sex with others, and she did a few times, mainly as the older woman for younger men. We don't see this as cheating since I approved and she told me all about her adventures.

 

[Bbl87]

I have not cheated IRL. Not sure I could bring myself to, but I'm less sure of that than I have been in the past.

If you consider chatting and sharing pictures online cheating, then it has been largely out of frustration from 10 years of marriage that has bordered on sexless (by the common counseling definitely) and her seeming lack of care to address our lack of intimacy after years of trying on my end. Along with that, a feeling to be desired or wanted again.

I personally think things like that on places like Lit are a grey area. In a sense, it's almost more like catered erotica. For instance, if I followed someone on Onlyfans and paid for a custom video, would that be cheating? I'd submit no, but others may disagree. I'm not saying either is good, just saying it's kind of an odd area.

 

[falkor207]

Very simply put my needs weren't getting met at home. That said I don't think of any of my Lit activity as cheating. Let the arguments be civil over this one

 

[rainsol]

When my wife and I first started dating, she was dating another guy. One night about 11 pm I was in bed and the door bell rang and it was her. She came in and made it plain she wanted to go to the bedroom. After a few kisses she was naked and ready. I got on top of her and she grabbed my cock and slid it in...she was wet and loose and I was getting sloppy seconds...What a rush.

 

[Islander55]

When my wife and I first started dating, she was dating another guy. One night about 11 pm I was in bed and the door bell rang and it was her. She came in and made it plain she wanted to go to the bedroom. After a few kisses she was naked and ready. I got on top of her and she grabbed my cock and slid it in...she was wet and loose and I was getting sloppy seconds...What a rush.

I have never done that though I think I can imagine what might have pushed her to do that. I can imagine that if you are dating two guys and like them both and have sex with one, you might want to do it with the other just to be fair. Possibly the first guy did not get her off so she still was horny and wanted to cum. The concept is hot either way. Not sure I would have had the courage to do that but it might have been fun.

 

[MaxwellSmart86]

It's been about 20 years since I cheated, though I never had intercourse with the person that I cheated with.

To make a long story short, at the time (around 2002/2003), I was dating my future wife when my ex-girlfriend came back into my life. At the time, I was ignorant and thought that I was still in love with my ex-girlfriend and she told me just the right things to make me feel that she loved me. I ended my relationship with my future wife and dated my ex. We never had intercourse but had some very heavy petting and oral sessions. Thankfully, that relationship didn't last and I was able to get back together with the woman that I eventually married (after much apologizing, guilt and shame). My wife tells me that she forgives me, but after all these decades, I still haven't forgiven myself.

 

[twister947]

My first wife was openly promiscuous, making
no effort to be discreet. I was young and naive, and went along with it. It set the tone for our marriage. I honestly cannot say if I would have been a cheater had she not gone first.

 

[Excitabletom]

Why? Because my wife has no penis!

 

[vanquished005]

Before I retired, I slept with 4 women in our firm – although not at the same time.

all were married catholic wives (my fetish) who were being ignored and disregarded by their loser husbands.

i slept with them becaue married catholic women is my fetish.