Why bondage feels good?

[xperia2995]

Tugging against bonds, stretching and pulling aspects of bondage feel good.
Apart from the mental satisfaction, Does anybody know why it feels good physically?

 

[Stella_Omega]

I've often wondered about that myself!

1) stretching and struggling feel good,
2) being the object of attention feels good,
3) pleasurable anticipation feels good...

Oh-- two of those are emotional/psychological aspects, but I don't think they can be completely untangled from the physical.

 

[MellowTone]

I was thinking about this the other day as I watched a friend of mine swaddle his baby boy. His (doctor) wife said babies like being bound up because they're squeezed so tightly in the womb during pregnancy, so it "feels like home." I remember when I was a toddler, I liked for my parents to tuck me into bed "as snug as a bug in a rug" - meaning the blankets tucked tightly in all around me. It just felt good.

Now that I have grown up feelings, the idea of being helpless, at someone else's mercy is a turn-on. But in the moments when I feel the ropes tighten, pulling me into position and holding me there, it still just feels good, like being snug as a bug in a rug!

 

[Riles]

I've never thought of why on a physical level because I actually get quite frustrated/angry when bound, and yet that's the good stuff. It amps my libido big time.

 

[Dianthus]

Weighted blankets are used to calm anxiety sufferers and work for some autistic people as well.

I love the weight of him holding me down. Maybe he's my security blanket?

 

[KoPilot]

Weighted blankets are used to calm anxiety sufferers and work for some autistic people as well.

I love the weight of him holding me down. Maybe he's my security blanket?

That about sums it up for me-- even though about buying a weighted blanket for myself for my anxiety. (Needless to say, I found out how expensive they are and quickly dropped the idea lol.)

I like it because it's like getting a hug. And it can be uncomfortable, which, admittedly, is the opposite of a hug, but I like both. And both at once is very, very nice.

 

[Ropebunny]

Thinking purely on a physical level, I think bondage works for me because I enjoy the discomfort it can induce.

But really, I think emotional reasons why we like bondage pretty much trump any physical explantion we could come up with.

I could write an essay on why I like bondage, and the physical part would take up a lone, slim paragraph.

 

[rosco rathbone]

Temple Grandin got the idea for her abbatoir machine from a "hugging machine" she built for herself as a kid.

 

[Riles]

Temple Grandin got the idea for her abbatoir machine from a "hugging machine" she built for herself as a kid.

The movie of this was excellent.

And I'm sure noone cares, but just in case, it's called a "squeeze" or chute and is not exclusive to end stage. They are used more so in the processing of cattle for things such as vacc, preg checking, tagging, etc.

Sorry for the blurt.

 

[subisisboi]

What little I've tried, the enjoyment for me comes primarily from the mental aspects. Physically I like the strain against the bonds, the feeling of being held still or at least immobile is wonderful. I do have to admit I dont really understand all of it as I am terribly claustrophobic, yet bound and blindfolded in the hands of someone I trust I can totally relax and feel at ease. I have to take a strong dose of valium to get on a plane or ride a bus, but I can be tied to the point that I cannot move, and blindfolded by my lover and be completely sober, comforted, and enjoy myself completely even if we dont have sex.. it doesn't really make sense to me, but that's how it works.

B

 

[xperia2995]

I was thinking about this the other day as I watched a friend of mine swaddle his baby boy. His (doctor) wife said babies like being bound up because they're squeezed so tightly in the womb during pregnancy, so it "feels like home." I remember when I was a toddler, I liked for my parents to tuck me into bed "as snug as a bug in a rug" - meaning the blankets tucked tightly in all around me. It just felt good.

Now that I have grown up feelings, the idea of being helpless, at someone else's mercy is a turn-on. But in the moments when I feel the ropes tighten, pulling me into position and holding me there, it still just feels good, like being snug as a bug in a rug!

Hmm Interesting thought. I love bondage too and loved my parents tuck me in real tight in my bed.
However I'm thinking of some people who love to get tightly cuddled and are so vanilla.
But again maybe the weren't directed to kink.
I imagined myself to Penalope pitstop in my bed in my childhood. Maybe that was the reason I turned to bondage.

 

[PoisonedEve]

Bondage without any sexual anticipation may not be pleasurable to me at all. If a burglar breaks in, ties me down and robs me off valuables...I do not think I am going to like that.

 

[UhlBWett]

Indeed

Bondage without any sexual anticipation may not be pleasurable to me at all. If a burglar breaks in, ties me down and robs me off valuables...I do not think I am going to like that.

How about being tightly bound, then pleasured orally from behind (doggy style)? Does that sound more inviting?

 

[troubledone]

Bondage without any sexual anticipation may not be pleasurable to me at all. If a burglar breaks in, ties me down and robs me off valuables...I do not think I am going to like that.

Agreed

 

[PoisonedEve]

How about being tightly bound, then pleasured orally from behind (doggy style)? Does that sound more inviting?

But that is once again a sexual bondage scenario.

 

[troubledone]

But that is once again a sexual bondage scenario.

Bondage is an acquired taste like one for cheese and beer, if you do not have it end of story

 

[PoisonedEve]

Bondage is an acquired taste like one for cheese and beer, if you do not have it end of story

Yes, that is true.

 

[xperia2995]

Bondage without any sexual anticipation may not be pleasurable to me at all. If a burglar breaks in, ties me down and robs me off valuables...I do not think I am going to like that.

True.
Bondage feels good only when we are sexually excited though actual sex isn't required.
But even if I am forced by a person I hate the most in the world, bondage still would be exciting.

 

[PoisonedEve]

True.
Bondage feels good only when we are sexually excited though actual sex isn't required.
But even if I am forced by a person I hate the most in the world, bondage still would be exciting.

THAT would be a different game altogether

 

[KoPilot]

True.
Bondage feels good only when we are sexually excited though actual sex isn't required.
But even if I am forced by a person I hate the most in the world, bondage still would be exciting.

Now see, I'm the opposite. Only one person as far as I know I would enjoy being tied up by, and there needs no sexual excitement (I experience this differently from non-aces anyways) for me to enjoy it. It's pretty damn fun on its own merits, tbh.

 

[Primalex]

If a burglar breaks in, ties me down and robs me off valuables...I do not think I am going to like that.

How about being tightly bound, then pleasured orally from behind (doggy style)? Does that sound more inviting?

It does sound very much like rape. Actually it sounds like:"There is no such thing as rape, just frigid women."

Oh, wait, if you are the burglar, then of course every women will immediately give in to the pleasure. All the porn movies and stories prove this after all.

 

[Ropebunny]

Now see, I'm the opposite. Only one person as far as I know I would enjoy being tied up by, and there needs no sexual excitement (I experience this differently from non-aces anyways) for me to enjoy it. It's pretty damn fun on its own merits, tbh.

I'm kinda the same, except I'd enjoy getting tied by anyone, even in a non-sexual way. Like that time we were testing weight bearing knots at a Playcentre junk play workshop. I only had a rope round my waist but.... I liked it in ways I really wasn't expecting due to the situation.

And then there's self bondage.

 

[ameliajax]

I have a child with Sensory Processing Disorder and so now I think EVERYTHING is a sensory issue. I could go on and on.

I like being tied up. I like the anticipation, the mental aspects, but also, I like the feel of it. Even if it's uncomfortable. I like getting tattoos because I like the feel on my skin.

Maybe all of us bondage lovers all just have SPD?

 

[Stella_Omega]

I have a child with Sensory Processing Disorder and so now I think EVERYTHING is a sensory issue. I could go on and on.

I like being tied up. I like the anticipation, the mental aspects, but also, I like the feel of it. Even if it's uncomfortable. I like getting tattoos because I like the feel on my skin.

Maybe all of us bondage lovers all just have SPD?

I do. It's so mild it's not even a disorder for me, but it's there.

And my Lady Friend just finished chemo, which has totally impacted her sensory system. This weekend, for the first time since I've known her, she asked for impact play. And took a LOT.

 

[KoPilot]

I have a child with Sensory Processing Disorder and so now I think EVERYTHING is a sensory issue. I could go on and on.

I like being tied up. I like the anticipation, the mental aspects, but also, I like the feel of it. Even if it's uncomfortable. I like getting tattoos because I like the feel on my skin.

Maybe all of us bondage lovers all just have SPD?

Oh I'm sure I do... I've known to like uncomfortable things because it just lets me lose myself in SOME kind of physical sensation.

And on the other hand, I'm extremely sensitive to noise and avoid loud things like the plague. Otherwise, panic.