Why are you submissive?

[hottalyssa]

i have recently ended my second marriage...first was abusive. The second was sweet but unable to be faithful. In between i met a wonderful woman who helped me through the rough end to the first marriage. We started in just a vanilla relationship but she started introducing a few more things and after many hours of talking...yes talking We decided to explore the D/s route. I knew that she had been Dominant in many relationships and in the place i was in there was no way i could be. After two years of a 24/7 D/s lifestyle...while being a single mom to two under 5 year olds. We ended it but she taught me that i could be submissive without being abused. I believe that i had been submissive my whole life always deferring decisions to others, preferring to be presented with plans rather than making them. She showed me that i can be strong minded, have opinions, be protective of my children and also be content being told what to do. The years of the second marriage were rough, he was too kind hearted to Dominate me, so i had to go against my nature and be a bit more aggressive and assertive in the daily relationship. Now that that is over I have reconnected with a friend of ours (ex-husband and I) and are working on building a D/s relationship. We are going slowly, working at it a bit at a time as i am not used to a male Dominant. Sir is kind, generous and a long distance truck driver so much of our "relationship" is LD at this time Talking about limits, wants desires, this is relatively new to Him as well but we are having fun building the relationship together. Many people wonder why if i was abused do i submit and quite simply when there is trust and honesty a person's true nature is allowed to blossom. I can be submissive to my Sir and still be a strong Mother and Grandmother.

i just read your touching post. i am so glad you have found your true self. i tried to message you but could not. if you ever care to chat please let me know.

 

[TheBastardBard]

I'm sub, because throughout my life I've always been a follower. I'm quiet, introverted, and am content with going along with others, without my opinion being heard. Though a virgin (I don't want to have sex until after I transition), I know this will carry on into my sex life. I want my future partners to be in complete control and dominance of me, and make me their slave.

 

[NOIRTRASH]

I'm dominant because every relevant king, emperor, and national hero is on my pedigree, from the pharaohs till now. I relish competition and contests. When a group needs a leader I'm picked for the job. On the other hand I invented hospitality. Many think manners and hospitality are for doormats. Not so.

 

[Runningshoes09]

Mostly I like the submissive part for three reasons. One.. Like any woman the feeling of being desired and as a result being taken.
The more "do as I'm told" comes from two parts. One knowing it's pleasing my husband and two knowing I can trust him to never use it againsttoe. I believe in a wife submitting to her husband (religiously speaking) and love that I found someone who can be trusted with such a high responsibility in and out of the bedroom.
It looks like in my relationship I will be dom as well of not more so than sub as my husband seems to be more into me being dom and ultimately my desire is to please him so being dom is exciting as well. Not to mention the power of being the one in control. .
Mostly for both though, what I enjoy the most is his excitement toward it. I serve him however he wants even of dominating to so it.
So ps... Sending me pms thinking I'm gonna do some online exchange or something is useless haha

 

[herewego196121]

It takes me to my pleasure zone

When I am submissive, it takes me to a pleasure zone where all of my stress, tensions and expectations are gone. It let's me experience pure pleasure without the baggage.

 

[CoercedAnon]

I'm dominant because every relevant king, emperor, and national hero is on my pedigree, from the pharaohs till now. I relish competition and contests. When a group needs a leader I'm picked for the job. On the other hand I invented hospitality. Many think manners and hospitality are for doormats. Not so.

you were born with a flogger for a left hand too, right? ;p
well i guess this adds a point to the "nature" category. lol.

 

[destined]

Mostly I like the submissive part for three reasons. One.. Like any woman the feeling of being desired and as a result being taken.
The more "do as I'm told" comes from two parts. One knowing it's pleasing my husband and two knowing I can trust him to never use it againsttoe. I believe in a wife submitting to her husband (religiously speaking) and love that I found someone who can be trusted with such a high responsibility in and out of the bedroom.
It looks like in my relationship I will be dom as well of not more so than sub as my husband seems to be more into me being dom and ultimately my desire is to please him so being dom is exciting as well. Not to mention the power of being the one in control. .
Mostly for both though, what I enjoy the most is his excitement toward it. I serve him however he wants even of dominating to so it.
So ps... Sending me pms thinking I'm gonna do some online exchange or something is useless haha

For me the first half of what runningshoes wrote resonates with me.

"I like the submissive part for three reasons. One.. Like any woman the feeling of being desired and as a result being taken.
The more "do as I'm told" comes from two parts. One knowing it's pleasing my husband and two knowing I can trust him. I believe in a wife submitting to her husband (religiously speaking) and love that I found someone who can be trusted with such a high responsibility in and out of the bedroom.

And having a very dominant husband, we obviously do fit well with each other.

 

[Witchybug]

I started out being a domme, not by nature but because I was kicked out of the house at 15yrs old and was running on that angry, toughened up energy one needs to get by as a young punk rock kid. Now that I have met & married my husband (so naturally dominating ((shiver)) I have relaxed in to what I truly am....and am so very happy & fulfilled

 

[CaesuraDawn]

I am submissive because it's just so goddamn amazing. It turns me on so much and knowing that I turn him/her on makes me feel good. Letting go can be difficult but reaching the point of begging is overwhelming...I sometimes can't stop shaking and dripping all over myself.

 

[Nurse_Athena]

Simple.. When I connect with a man very intensely on a sexual level, his body becomes to target of my hunger and my depraved hands to worship his sexy and
yummy body, my desire to please him becomes all I truly want, and all I ever hope to accomplish in return is my My master feeling very pleased and proud of how perfectly I please every inch.

His orders are mine to fulfill, his needs are mine to meet, his body becomes my drug leaving me craving and begging desperately for permission to worship my Master.

I am in love with, when the right man comes along, I go absolute ape shit to please him every day, on his command. I always please to my best ability, nothing less, and much more if possible.

I'm a sub who adores and loves being of service to him

I looooove being used. mmm.

 

[BlueyeGuy51]

Eloquently expressed, Nurse Athena.