Why are you submissive?

[nymph817]

http://40.media.tumblr.com/59260df02b5c68c1b0ef287c5b5ac790/tumblr_nr6wgrR0sn1tj69i5o1_1280.jpg

This. Exactly.

It's a lovely image, she seems to be enjoying herself. I would just be concerned about rope burns.

When Rose and me did this sort of thing years ago, she used torn and cut shirts to tie my wrists and feet. If that was rope I think it would really hurt.

 

[anticipation08]

While I have minimal experience, the idea of giving up control really turns me on. Just giving up to pleasure and letting someone else take control and make the decisions. Knowing that someone is using me for pleasure....

 

[apom]

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[Madmar]

While I have minimal experience, the idea of giving up control really turns me on. Just giving up to pleasure and letting someone else take control and make the decisions. Knowing that someone is using me for pleasure....

This for me, too. I hate making decisions.

 

[debycha1968]

same here

While I have minimal experience, the idea of giving up control really turns me on. Just giving up to pleasure and letting someone else take control and make the decisions. Knowing that someone is using me for pleasure....

I also have little experience but for me it is more about pleasing the other person. It is not about pain or punishment. It is about pleasure. I am very assertive in my real life and giving up control is an escape and release for me. I am a person that likes to please in my "real " life as well. I guess that's the main reason. The loss of control is a secondary attraction.

 

[SubmissiveCD90]

Why am I a sub? I've never really sat down and thought about it. I guess the main reason is that, because I have to be in control of almost every other thing in my life, it's a very welcome relief to hand the reigns over to someone else. I also just like to please the person I'm with.

 

[SadAbstractMind]

. . . I also just like to please the person I'm with.

i think that is very true for me. The more He is pleased the greater my pleasure. When He tells me i am a "good girl" it makes my world brighter!

 

[MissShelly]

I've always been turned on in the bedroom by a take-charge kind of guy. It wasn't until much later though that I realized I was a sub.

Daddy and I got into the LS in June, and since then, what was a good marriage has become awesome. Sex went from enjoyable to amazing. We have less stress in the home because I have willingly given up control to him.

Don't get me wrong, I still have choices, and I still make most of the decisions regarding our children... But we don't have power struggles like we used to.

As far as the sex, after parenting 4 children all day, it's nice to be able to turn my brain off. The rough sex, floggings, biting, wax play, paddling... for me.. I can't HELP but pay attention to what I"m feeling. It keeps me out of my head.. and because I'm so focused on what he's doing to me... it's just better.

I am a sub because I have a hunger for obedience. I need to be lower than my Sir, and for him to assert his superiority over me. I need to be able to submit to him, and for him to use and abuse my body for his pleasure. I really enjoy a man who can push me past my limits, and free my mind from the thresholds I think I can't get past. I need my Sir to take me to other worlds.. to bring my mind to a place I can't even imagine. I love it when my Sir denies my freedom, and ignores my begging. I need to give myself completely to my Sir, body mind and soul. I NEED to feel useful and loved

 

[BreakingBlades1]

I'm not 100% sure why I am, but I've always tended to be more of the rule follower/ submissive (for lack of better terms) in RL. I don't want to disappoint or do something wrong. I guess that carries over into my fantasists.

 

[Thegirl1987]

I never really thought of myself as submissive, until I met 'R' and then my life changed. I work in a world full of men, I am literally the only woman on my crew. I am so use to having to be dominant and proving myself at work that I find it can be exhausting sometimes. Honestly, I am a very strong-willed woman, but I like to please people in my personal life. I go out of my way to make others happy. Then you add in my absolutely terrible anxiety, depression and control issues.

And then there is 'R' this man who walked into my life and opened my world to another planet. Thankfully, he is a very patient man with me and my naughty tendencies when I don't want to listen and just do whatever. Now mind you for the most part the bdsm part of our relationship stays in our living spaces. But there is just something so right, when he teaches me how he wants me to act. Or when we are in the middle of a scene, and my mind is clear. I am thinking nothing but of him and how I can't wait to hear the words "You are such a beautiful good girl." It's still a new feeling, I am exploring. I enjoy all that we do, the tease, the pain, and pleasure.

I wonder sometimes, would I be submissive if this was another man....

 

[Ahlam]

I am submissive because I am. I can no more control this personality trait than I could the color of my skin. It's simply part of what makes me myself.

 

[lilvixen2016]

Why am I submissive...

that is like asking:

Why I do I breathe...
Why does my heart beat...
Why am I me....

It is who I am...
What I was born to be...
Me to my core...


lil vixen

 

[Cherrybomb400]

Why am I submissive?

I love being told what to do and then getting praised for being a good girl. I don't like upsetting my master/dom and will try to avoid this as much as possible. My function is to make my master happy as best as I possibly can and if that means submitting to his most dirtiest desires (provided that it doesn't push my hard limits) than so be it.

Sadly, I'm still waiting for the right Dom for me

 

[julia2442]

honestly, until i found my this man who's become such a part of my life, i had no idea i had this kind of submissive streak in me. like most of you, i exercise lots of control in my regular life. when i consider that objectively, it's exhausting and pretty unnecessary in lots of ways, yet that's just how my life is. what i am i going to do? just wait for someone else to pay the bills? hope someone else folds the laundry? obviously not. i've made this world that i run, so i've got to run it. yet all along, there was this parallel contrary need under the surface that was just waiting to explored: i feel like i have all this lava in me. he recognized that exactly for what it was, and knows exactly what to do with it. the truth is, i love letting him call the shots. i love knowing i can trust him. i love that grit in his voice when he tells me to cum. nobody else has that power over me. nobody ever has. it frees me from myself. in being his so completely, it's like i'm reborn. every single time.

what fascinates me is that there is a whole BDSM culture, there are terms, there are practices--i knew nothing about any of that until i met him. for me, it's simply a *need* that he recognized and took control over, like a fucking stallion.

 

[lustyem]

Why are you submissive

I have been asked this and never really thought about it.

But thinking about it, I think it may be because I'm a bit well kinky and being a good girl I don't want to sub consciously be seen as a slut. So by being sort of controlled or submissive in my mind it's not me being slutty.
And I guess I have always preferred when a guy took control in bed and sexually that as I got older it increased my arousal.....
That might not make sense to some but , I think it's me......

 

[Madmar]

Because it is not in my nature to be anything but. However, survival has required me to be otherwise and left me wondering why that constricts me rather than frees me. And the more I realize this, the more it makes sense.

 

[happycocksucker]

Why am I a sub? I've never really sat down and thought about it. I guess the main reason is that, because I have to be in control of almost every other thing in my life, it's a very welcome relief to hand the reigns over to someone else. I also just like to please the person I'm with.

This.

 

[Somnolence]

I don't know why I'm submissive. I'm not even sure that's the right word. I question because I am willing and eager to be dominated--in every possible way--but what I read tells me that being "submissive" means serving and pleasing makes me happy, and that's not accurate. I think "masochist" may come closer to defining what I am, but that's not exactly right either. I don't crave pain, but if you want to hurt me, so be it.

Simply, I was put here to be possessed, to be exploited, to be abused, to be consumed like the piece of meat that I am--a collection of flesh and blood with four limbs, two breasts and three warm holes. I exist to be used, and that is all. Each breath I take I draw at the pleasure of those who own me, and if and when it pleases them, I will breathe no more.

I know the Universal Declaration of Human Rights says every human is born equal, with the rights to live, be free and secure, rights which can neither be given nor taken away. But if this is true, I was born something other than human because I was born nothing with nothing, including rights—to anything—including myself. I am incapable of deserving. What I want doesn’t matter. I will do anything for you short of hurting another living thing, but you may do anything to me that you wish. Please ignore me if I scream and beg you to stop.

I think this all probably qualifies me at least as -being- submissive. I don't know why I'm like this. I don't choose it. It just is. And that's the bottom line.

Amazing. I honestly do hope that post was genuine and not roleplay.

It definitely brings up an interesting(for me) point on the nature of submissiveness, I wouldn't say a need or even necessarily a want to serve or please is a requirement to being submissive.

If you can stand before another human being and allow them to elevate through your down-going then that is submission and it is beautiful, to lay yourself bare before another person and to allow yourself to succumb to their will, to detach from your own humanity and become nothing more than the possession of another is submission at its truest in my eyes.

It's rather impressive too on personal side note, one sub to another.

 

[misskitty2k15]

I am submissive because it turns me on to no end to let my partner have complete control over me. To let them have the power and I am there to fulfill their needs and desires ignites me in ways nothing else does. I do not want to be a lifestyle submissive because I get bored easily. In my current relationship I just do it whenever I'm in the mood and my fiancee is a lot like me and has no interest in being a full time dominant. I like being told what to do and being punished for certain things (that I do on purpose a lot just to get punished and my fiancee knows it lol) I think it's liberating and I experience a type of euphoria afterward that I haven't experienced in anything else I've ever tried.

 

[sterculius]

I agree!! It feels extremely liberating to surrender complete control to another person, knowing that you will unquestioningly do whatever you're told to do no matter how embarrassing or humiliating! To step outside yourself and become an independent observer watching yourself being controlled and manipulated is so extremely thrilling and exciting!!!!

 

[lahainalove2]

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[apom]

Amazing. I honestly do hope that post was genuine and not roleplay.

It definitely brings up an interesting(for me) point on the nature of submissiveness, I wouldn't say a need or even necessarily a want to serve or please is a requirement to being submissive.

If you can stand before another human being and allow them to elevate through your down-going then that is submission and it is beautiful, to lay yourself bare before another person and to allow yourself to succumb to their will, to detach from your own humanity and become nothing more than the possession of another is submission at its truest in my eyes.

It's rather impressive too on personal side note, one sub to another.

I can't speak for anyone else, but the drive I feel to be "dominated" isn't something I choose. I was born with it, like sexual proclivity or the will to survive. It's hard to explain because what I feel goes beyond desire to be treated a certain way. I don't claim to be without "limits," promising to do whatever I'm commanded and to obediently endure what's done to me on pain of punishment. I say, this body I inhabit and this life I live are yours. Do with them as you please. Ignore me when I protest.

I think it's hard for most people to understand/believe someone who knows/claims she exists to be used and eagerly embraces everything that means. But that is who I am.

 

[cascadiabound]

http://41.media.tumblr.com/6862f28cc0b2e5bbf5c3b3efd7025dbd/tumblr_nr7o9xr4Z71reowsio1_1280.jpg

This quote and image spoke to me today... to my submissive self.
The woman in me is captured, body, mind and heart by my Dom.
These bonds hold me and yet I do not feel restrained.
They contain me, yet I feel free.
The safety of this bondage (capture) is inexplicable.
It is only when I fully understand and accept my submission
that everything else makes sense.

 

[apom]

http://41.media.tumblr.com/6862f28cc0b2e5bbf5c3b3efd7025dbd/tumblr_nr7o9xr4Z71reowsio1_1280.jpg

This quote and image spoke to me today... to my submissive self.
The woman in me is captured, body, mind and heart by my Dom.
These bonds hold me and yet I do not feel restrained.
They contain me, yet I feel free.
The safety of this bondage (capture) is inexplicable.
It is only when I fully understand and accept my submission
that everything else makes sense.

Beauttiful.

 

[BBbumboy]

I don't really know at all to be honest. I could probably sit here for weeks trying to figure out a logical reason I'm a sub but why bother? Maybe some things are too special and beautiful and strange to not just enjoy. It's completely illogical that pain can cause pleasure or denial of a want might be better than getting it. If you're happy, you're happy right?