Why are you an HT regular?

[bisexplicit]

Do you feel like you're especially good at giving advice?
Like the other people on this board?
Basically, why do you keep coming here?

 

[Eilan]

I think that sometimes I'm good at giving advice, particularly when I've experienced a situation that's similar to what someone else is going through. If I don't know what I'm talking about or for some other reason feel it's a good idea for me to stay away from a thread, then I usually won't post there. (All of you know, however, that I have this inability to stay out of a dick size thread. Hey, I can admit it!)

Mostly, though, I post here because I'm a condescending, know-it-all bitch who has poor reading comprehension skills and a tenuous grasp of "elementery" statistics.

I lurk on most of the other boards, but I do the majority of my posting here. I enjoy hanging around on the GB, and I do post there (and sometimes insult people) on occasion, but I could see myself getting way too caught up in what goes on over there. In fact, a fellow HT regular and I were discussing this very subject just last night.

I come here because I like most of the people who post here regularly, even if they don't like me. I try to reserve judgment until someone's posted several (hundred) times.

Creepy as it might sound, I lurked around here for a LONG time before I took the plunge, so I had a bit of a feel for how each board operated. I figured that no matter where I decided to try to fit in, if I wanted to be taken seriously I should at least try to act like I knew what I was talking about.

 

[rcuhljr]

One, it's a good place to learn.
Two, it's generally friendly and intelligent *cough GB cough*
Three, I can rarely provide some useful piece of advice.

 

[EJFan]

i just sorta feel like i fit in here... but the rest of you shouldn't take that personally.

i THINK i give good advice. there are a lot of times when i take liberties and don't respond very seriously, but only when the topic allows. i'd never disrespect a deep, serious, important question.

for the most part, i think the HT people are very giving, caring people. like anything else, there are exceptions but the trolls and asses are in the minority.

 

[Quoll]

I don`t know if I`m especially good at giving advice, but I will try to help where I can, either because I have had some sort of experience or knowledge on the subject, or because I could find something out about it whilst learning something new at the same time.

I really enjoy hanging out with condescending, know-it-all bitches who have poor reading comprehension skills and a tenuous grasp of "elementery" statistics.
I am tempted to say there are a nicer class of people here than other areas of lit, *whistling*, but perhaps it might be more prudent to say that people here are somewhat better at biting their tongues for longer periods of time.
Also the HT and Cafe seem to tolerate some of us more long winded posters better.

Why do I keep coming back?
Because I find twenty or thirty lines on how to help some one with their problem far more satisfying than "You`re a fucktard"
"Show us ya tits"
Which is not meant to demean the word "fucktard" in any way I love it.
If I do feel like feeding the trolls, I much prefer to go to where they live.

 

[JustSkye]

I don`t know if I`m especially good at giving advice, but I will try to help where I can, either because I have had some sort of experience or knowledge on the subject, or because I could find something out about it whilst learning something new at the same time.

You have always given excellent and loving advice. You're also very witty and truly fun to be around and post with. Many here think you're the cats' meow.

I really enjoy hanging out with condescending, know-it-all bitches who have poor reading comprehension skills and a tenuous grasp of "elementery" statistics.
I am tempted to say there are a nicer class of people here than other areas of lit, *whistling*, but perhaps it might be more prudent to say that people here are somewhat better at biting their tongues for longer periods of time.
Also the HT and Cafe seem to tolerate some of us more long winded posters better.

Why do I keep coming back?
Because I find twenty or thirty lines on how to help some one with their problem far more satisfying than "You`re a fucktard"
"Show us ya tits"
Which is not meant to demean the word "fucktard" in any way I love it.
If I do feel like feeding the trolls, I much prefer to go to where they live.

*ahem ... I resemble this remark, dear sir.

 

[Quoll]

*ahem ... I resemble this remark, dear sir.

Why you sneaky little.........
I beg to differ maam, not once, ever, have you asked me to show you my tits.
Besides, while you may produce some exemplary examples of oncersations on the unmentioned area, your verbosity is unparalleled on the occasions when such loquaciousness is required.

 

[Seduce]

I dont really like giving advice to people...... some get it wrong, some dont get it at all, some dont even want it really........ but when I find subject on which I have life experience or knowledge of any kind, I try to share it and hope someone may find it useful.
But I am not very regular here.

 

[JustSkye]

Why you sneaky little.........
I beg to differ maam, not once, ever, have you asked me to show you my tits.
Besides, while you may produce some exemplary examples of conversations on the unmentioned area, your verbosity is unparalleled on the occasions when such loquaciousness is required.

I love you AND your verbosity.

 

[SweetErika]

When I discovered the forums last year I was really impressed with the amount of information, variety of topics, and quality of most of the posts in How To. I stuck around to learn, and registered when I had a question and found several threads I felt I could contribute to. I felt very comfortable and more welcome than I did in some of the other forums. I also loved the topics and started using them to spark conversations with my husband, and our relationship and sex life started improving dramatically. I figured continuing to participate in How To could only help us more.

I stick around for many of the same reasons, but mainly because I am constantly learning, thinking, and I feel there are a lot of quality people who frequent this forum. I like the mix of topics and generally respectful on-track conversation. I lurk and post sometimes in other forums, but this one just seems to fit my style best.

 

[Râleclins]

I like the HT because of the (apparent) maturity of the answers I see here. There are few "Ewww that's sick" or "Yeah that's hot" answers. And it's a nice play to peek at other people's life too. It looks like everybody has an interesting story to say.

I was particularly impressed by answers to questions about threesomes or swinging. I didn't expected so many answers to be "Have you thought about it, are you ready to challenge your relationship with that ?" instead of just "Yeah go with it, you only live once" or "Ewww how could anyone want to do that ?"

 

[Ricwilly]

I don't know how good my advice is or even if anyone should take it.
I come here because you seem like a friendly bunch over all.

 

[Quoll]

I love you AND your verbosity.

Originally Posted by quoll
Why you sneaky little.........
I beg to differ maam, not once, ever, have you asked me to show you my tits.
Besides, while you may produce some exemplary examples of conversations on the unmentioned area, your verbosity is unparalleled on the occasions when such loquaciousness is required.

Darlin` while I appreciate your sweetness in correcting a perceived error on my part, the term was indeed oncersations, a term you yourself once used to describe my inability to say in twenty words, that which could have been said in three.

 

[mrtnmoon]

I generally don't give advice... sometimes I'll give my opinion on something (I was just in the "facials" thread) and I've related some of my experiences in mr. ggg's thread to help encourage people that his technique can work, but I don't give advice. I don't listen to me, so why should anyone else?

I come here mainly to read about different things that people are doing sexually.... might find something I wanna try, or I might read something and think, "good lord, people actually do that?!?!?" I'm always looking for ideas and ways that I can pleasure my little FB better. mr. ggg's thread was a blessing for us..... I know she'll never forget me because of it..lol.

 

[Lynxie]

The HT forums are where I'm comfortable.

I like it here because of the wealth of information that can be learned every day. I like the pace of the board, and how it's virtually spam-free (well, compared with the GB and PG, anyway). It's a place where I can share my thoughts, gather advice, or vent when I'm upset or frustrated. Most of all, I enjoy the people here... for their honesty, supportiveness, and opinions.

 

[silverwhisper]

i like the fact that HT and HT cafe are somewhat freewheeling WRT conversational thread-drift but not the full-blown bat-shit crazy of the GB, which quite frankly annoys me. besides, it find it a good place to learn things while at the same time letting me indulge my need to be an opinionated asshole at times.

ed

 

[bisexplicit]

To answer my own question...

While I dabble in the GB, have a thread in Am Pics, and lurk in GLBT and BDSM, I really like HT the best. People here take problems seriously and try to give the best advice they can - but also know how to lighten up the mood when necessary. Mostly *cue mushy moment* I like the people here. Its a smaller "community" where we get to know eachother a bit better. And no one is vindictive or cruel (*cough, GB, cough*). *group hug* hehehe. (Okay, not that mushy, right?)

Oh, and, while not a fountain of endless wisdom, I feel like I'm not bad at giving common-sense advice.

 

[silverwhisper]

[trout-smacks bi]



[scampers off, stage left]

ed

 

[bisexplicit]

[trout-smacks bi]



[scampers off, stage left]

ed

*follows you, whining "I wanna go tooooooooo! Mooooooom, hes not letting me play with him!!"*

 

[silverwhisper]

[pokes bi in the tummy and scampers off faster]

 

[DelicateFlower]

Do you feel like you're especially good at giving advice?
Like the other people on this board?
Basically, why do you keep coming here?

People here just seem friendlier to me. If I like something I stick with it until it gives out or dies

 

[dcraz]

Mostly, though, I post here because I'm a condescending, know-it-all bitch who has poor reading comprehension skills and a tenuous grasp of "elementery" statistics.

You just want people to think that about you.

Some of us have different notions...

 

[dcraz]

Ok so to answer the question...

I enjoy coming here for a variety of reasons. Primarily the fact that it takes a lot to ask for advice and open yourself up to criticism for being ignorant. I find many of the topics interesting and the responses by so many to not only be informative, but almost always constructive. There are a few regulars that I have grown to respect immensely for their advice and help they offer.

I have been fortunate to have a varied and exciting life. I am no prude and have had the pleasure to experience many things in life. Not just sexual things mind you, but certainly my share of exploration there too. Like many have said, I rarely give advice so much as open up my own experiences to share with others so they may learn from what I have experienced.

I appreciate the fairly sincere and supportive responses (as opposed to the ugly personal attacks and general degeneration of a topic as so often happens on the GB). Intermixed with light, good natured humor as the flow allows and is appropriate. In short, I have seen very little bad behavior here and it's fun to watch those that ask for advice or help, grow and share their experiences along the way.

I believe I learn something new every day and often look here to see if there is something that interests me. I will often follow threads and not post because I may not have anything to contribute, but enjoy reading the responses.

Finally, when I do offer advice or share my experiences, I always try to remain supportive, helpful and compassionate. And always throw in a disclaimer that these are my own experiences or thoughts and it is up to everyone to draw their own conclusions. I am never far from remembering a comment my wife shared with friends recently when she said.... 'He is so full of shit, I can't believe people actually listen to him!'. I know this was offered with the utmost love, but it is something I try to keep in mind so as not to take myself too seriously. I would strongly suggest others do the same (i.e. not take me too seriously).

DC

 

[Ravin the Poet]

I enjoy the conversation better here. We actually talk and help rather then spam, or flame.

I think I give good advice. I give the view of the younger male, which is sometimes need, when you get the highschool people here. And no age dis to anyone, but I am the younger generation, and give good insights into what is coming up.

Plus I can't tell you how much I have learned from here. I am unexperienced, but probably know more theory on sex, then the common person which is nice. Good to know that when I do have sex, it's not going to be exteremly horrible.

All in all, it's so much better here.


Ravin
-And with that 500 posts!! I am now a Guru!!

 

[Eilan]

You just want people to think that about you.

But that's the gist of what somebody said to me, so it must be true. Right?

I really enjoy hanging out with condescending, know-it-all bitches who have poor reading comprehension skills and a tenuous grasp of "elementery" statistics.
I am tempted to say there are a nicer class of people here than other areas of lit, *whistling*, but perhaps it might be more prudent to say that people here are somewhat better at biting their tongues for longer periods of time.
Also the HT and Cafe seem to tolerate some of us more long winded posters better.

Show us ya tits!