Why are men such babies?

[TBKahuna123]

So I'm secure enough in my own flaws to admit it, I'm a big baby when I'm sick. I'm sick again and I'm absolutely miserable, whiney and just a pain in the ass. I'm always like this, every guy I know is. My wife was really sick last week, and she was a little bitchy, but she basically just sucked it up and dealt with it. Tonight I realized I was being whiney and just a brat. I felt really ashamed of myself and apologized profusely. She just grinned.

An hour later I caught myself doing it again. I apologized, she laughed. I mean I love it that she's so understanding, but why is it? Why are we such babies when we are sick? I mean I'm a fucking hockey player! I get frozen rubber pucks shot at my head for fun! Yet I whine whenever I have a sniffle?

Ahhhh I've always said we need to be able to laugh at ourselves. Well, I'm not laughing, but I am rolling my eyes.

 

[EJFan]

women are hard as nails... they give birth, deal with PMS, get puked on and covered in body fluids by babies (or SO's)... no reason to think some sniffles are any reason to get bent outta shape.

 

[satchel6978]

yeah, us men are weenies. as for being a weenie when i am sick, it's been about 7 years since i have been sick so i can't really speak cause i can't remember what i was like when sick.

 

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[bobsgirl]

My husband's the same way. Only he whines without even saying a word. I don't know how he does it, and God knows when I try it, it doesn't work. He'll just recline on the nearest horizontal surface and sigh. Every 30 seconds or so, another pitiful sigh.

But colds suck, so you have my sympathies, TBK. (And so does your wife. ) Hope you feel better soon.

 

[eudaemonia]

I've always wondered about this phenomenon. Nice to know at least some of you guyses fess up to it.

I've learned to take gender differences in stride. There are lots of things men are strong about, and it's nice to have a steady shoulder to lean/cry on when I've gotten to my breaking point (which isn't often and takes a lot to get there!).

Not that I actually have said shoulder in my life, at the moment ...

 

[onlyerics]

I've always wondered about this phenomenon. Nice to know at least some of you guyses fess up to it.

Totally agree with this, Ms. E! Once my BF was sick and I happen to be on my PMS days...(oh , my...what a disastrous combination.)...there was no food in his fridge...he was whining because of a cold...so guess who had to go to the grocery store.

Hope you feel better, Mr Kahuna.

 

[eudaemonia]

Totally agree with this, Ms. E! Once my BF was sick and I happen to be on my PMS days...(oh , my...what a disastrous combination.)...there was no food in his fridge...he was whining because of a cold...so guess who had to go to the grocery store.

Ha! That just jogged a (now-)funny memory. Knowing my then-boyfriend was home sick with a bad cold, I called on my lunch break to see how he was doing. He asked if I could extend my break, go to the store and get him some nyquil and tissues. And I DID IT!! I guess I really loved the boy ...

Hope you feel better, Mr Kahuna.

What onlyerics said.

 

[Salendire]

Good thing males seem to be sick less often than what females are, otherwise i think we would have killed them all off by now. You know that there is a type of lizzard that reproduces without males? It killed off all teh males in its species and has mock sex with females to trigger the egg laying process. To top it off they think in 125k years humans will be the same because of the forever shrinking "y" chromozone...

Well i thought it was interesing

 

[eudaemonia]

... there is a type of lizzard that reproduces without males? It killed off all teh males in its species and has mock sex with females to trigger the egg laying process. To top it off they think in 125k years humans will be the same because of the forever shrinking "y" chromozone...

Dear god, NO!

You know, I'm really quite fond of men. I don't want to kill them ... just ravish them once in a while.

 

[onlyerics]

I might wimp out when it comes to things like blood tests, shots and going to the dentist. shit, I once passed out in a hospital emergency room when they put a morphine drip in my wife's hand.

I work in a hospital lab so I deal with body fluids and blood every single day. My BF doesn't know how I put up with it, but I guess I'm just use to it.
But I do have a phobia going to the dentist. When I was 16, I had to get a tooth in the back taken out. Anesthesia wasn't working for me and I was in tears! They had to give me laughing gas. Hate that drilling sound...[shudders]

 

[Salendire]

Dear god, NO!

You know, I'm really quite fond of men. I don't want to kill them ... just ravish them once in a while.

Well i supose u are lucky that this wont take place for 125k years, if in fact it happens at all.

 

[midwestyankee]

GTo top it off they think in 125k years humans will be the same because of the forever shrinking "y" chromozone...

Well i thought it was interesing

Does every thread have to devolve into being about size?

I am a mixed bag when it comes to whining about illness. I hate having a cold or a sinus infection, and get truly whiney about intestinal illness. However, I've broken bones and gone through recovery from surgery with nary a whimper.

The shot thing, though, is another story. I have fainted at the mere description of an injection, though I stood by withoug flinching during three natural birthings.

 

[silverwhisper]

i'm secure enough to admit that i enjoy being pampered by the mrs when i'm not feeling well. my back started bothering me tuesday morning. if i'd really thought it through, i probably ought to have stayed at home that day, but well, i didn't. so i was pretty miserable.

it's nice to have dinner in bed. :>

of course, i'm still dumb enough to not want to use any meds. go figure...

bobsgirl: he might not even know he's sighing. it's been brought to my attention that i do that myself. :>

ed

 

[phoenix1224]

Why are we such babies when we are sick?

Speak for yourself.

Unless I'm so sick that it requires a trip to the emergency room, I just suck it up and go about my daily routine.

 

[bobsgirl]

i'm secure enough to admit that i enjoy being pampered by the mrs when i'm not feeling well. my back started bothering me tuesday morning. if i'd really thought it through, i probably ought to have stayed at home that day, but well, i didn't. so i was pretty miserable.

it's nice to have dinner in bed. :>

of course, i'm still dumb enough to not want to use any meds. go figure...

bobsgirl: he might not even know he's sighing. it's been brought to my attention that i do that myself. :>

ed

I know, and having a cold is one thing we can all agree is miserable. But that sighing... It's like a signal for me to ask, "Can I get you anything, honey?" I'm well-trained.

Is your back better?

 

[silverwhisper]

better today than yesterday, and yesterday was better than the day before, so i guess it's improving, thanks. :>

heh...i think my wife is also well-trained.

ed

 

[bobsgirl]

I might wimp out when it comes to things like blood tests, shots and going to the dentist. shit, I once passed out in a hospital emergency room when they put a morphine drip in my wife's hand.

I had pretty major surgery about 25 years ago, and while I was still in the hospital, the nurse showed my husband how to care for the surgical incision at home. The poor guy nearly passed out. Stuff like that really freaks him out.

So I'm sure he sympathizes with you.

 

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[TBKahuna123]

My husband's the same way. Only he whines without even saying a word. I don't know how he does it, and God knows when I try it, it doesn't work. He'll just recline on the nearest horizontal surface and sigh. Every 30 seconds or so, another pitiful sigh.

OMG! My wife is going to wet herself she's gonna laugh so hard at this. I neever realized that I do this, but as I think back, I do it too! Tooooo funny!

Thanks all, yes I'm feeling better today and yes I'm still a big wuse. Oh well, that's what part of a marriage is I guess, taking care of each other. It does go both ways.

 

[Batman4ever71]

Not to belittle the posts of the fine gentleman that have posted concerning their illnesses and their belief that men are wusses, but I was married twice and whenever either woman was ill or out of sorts, I was their slaves. I bent to their every whim, even if it meant going out at some un-Godly hour to get them some ice cream. However whenever I was sick they seemed to adopt a "fuck you, fend for yourself" attitude. I learned very early on that I was on my own.

Thank the Lord that I am with my fiancee now. I've had three major surgeries, during which time I was in no condition to tend to myself. She bent over backwards to make sure I had what I needed, no matter how inane my request. Please keep in mind that this woman is 8 months pregnant as well. Needless to say, I am truly blessed to be with a woman who truly loves me enough to go through hell on my behalf. Kahuna, I hope that your back continues on that tenuous road to recovery.

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Batman

 

[Eilan]

I think, though, that most of us--male or female--like to have our whims catered to when we're sick.

My hubby's not whiny when he's sick. When he decides to go to the doctor, then I know he's really sick, but he doesn't complain that much. That's not to say that I don't do things to try to make him more comfortable; he does the same for me when I'm not feeling well.

My dad, on the other hand, is a complete wuss. Once, when he had a cold, he said, "No one has ever been as sick as I am."

One of my husband's former coworkers used to miss work when her husband was sick because he needed someone to take care of him.

 

[TBKahuna123]

I think, though, that most of us--male or female--like to have our whims catered to when we're sick.

My hubby's not whiny when he's sick. When he decides to go to the doctor, then I know he's really sick, but he doesn't complain that much. That's not to say that I don't do things to try to make him more comfortable; he does the same for me when I'm not feeling well.

My dad, on the other hand, is a complete wuss. Once, when he had a cold, he said, "No one has ever been as sick as I am."

One of my husband's former coworkers used to miss work when her husband was sick because he needed someone to take care of him.

OK, I'm not THAT bad!

Batman you made a good point. When my wife is sick I do my best to take care of her and cater to her needs, and she does the same for me. That's what I meant when I said marriage is a two way street.

Personaly, I love being able to take care of her, it makes me feel good to make her feel better, I guess.

 

[SweetErika]

i'm secure enough to admit that i enjoy being pampered by the mrs when i'm not feeling well. my back started bothering me tuesday morning. if i'd really thought it through, i probably ought to have stayed at home that day, but well, i didn't. so i was pretty miserable.

it's nice to have dinner in bed. :>

I think this is a really great point, Ed. My hubby has a high pain tolerance and never really complains about things. Yet he's a big weenie when he gets sick, and even admits he likes the attention and to be babied! Frankly, I think being sick just gives men an excuse to let down their macho, strong-n-silent facade and is the only acceptable time for them to whine, ask and like to be taken care of in certain ways. My husband will go to work when sick, keeping up that facade, but as soon as he gets home, he becomes absolutely pitiful, sighing, taking naps, refusing to take medicine on his own (so of course I get it with the beverage of his choice and stay while he takes it), etc. He loves being cared for (and I love mothering him when he's sick or hurt), and most of the time a little TLC is all he needs to get better.

Of course, like TBK said, it's a two-way street, and my hubby is absolutely wonderful about taking care of me (and he's had to a lot more than I have him).