Why am I so lousy at relationships?

[goddess_euphoria]

I always seem to attract the crummy guys. You know, the type that won't get you a birthday card, much less remember when your birthday is... Granted, this one hasn't yet (cause my birthday isn't until March). I suppose if all I wanted was meaningless sex, it would be fine. But I'm one of those people that has a very strog association between love and sex, and I think it's pretty messed up when you can't tell the person you're having sex with that you love them. But I can't seem to break it off with him, because every time he's around, my little nymphomanic breaks out of her cage. And then all I care about is the way he's kissing me, but after, I start feeling kinda crummy, like why did I just do that, AGAIN?

~sigh~ Sorry, just had to whine...

 

[stogie]

I don't know if this helps but "Happy early Birthday"

 

[Vlad]

Don't know Goddess E, sounds like you need stop screwing this guy and find someone that will make you happy...but easier said than done, huh?

Vlad

 

[CreamyLady]

Is it the little, fun sex-loving nymphomaniac, or the one who is desperately looking for approval in sex?

I think the fun-loving nymphomaniac would not feel crummy after good sex with someone. The other, however, not finding the approval or love or even simple respect would not feel good at all; crummy is, perhaps, the right word.

I don't want to tell you what to do or think, but you might try a moratorium on relationships until you figure out what, exactly, you want from a relationship. You won't feel so crummy.

 

[jcgirl]

Maybe thier the ones that are lousy at relationships, not you

 

[goddess_euphoria]

stogie - thank you

Vlad - excellent point

CreamyLady - I'm totally going to sound like I have a split personality or something here, but oh well... It's not the nymphomaniac that has a problem with it. For her, everything is all good, she has the approval she needs. It's the rest of me that's really looking for the love and respect. And I suppose what makes it all even worse is that I do know what I want from a relationship, and so I also feel like I'm just settling for what ever I can get, and I hate that.

jcgirl - I think you're right, I'm not really bad at relationships, just bad at picking people to be in one with.

Thank you all, I am planning an talking to him, so if ya care, I'll keep you posted.