Whore, bitch, slut....

[Jaded_One]

I was talking with a friend about how there are some words that evoke an automatic negative response in me.... like whore, bitch, slut, cunt.. etc. He pointed out that society likes to use these labels on women when it doesn't agree with what she's doing. Then they're used to wound or degrade in hopes that the woman will conform to it's expectations.

He asked how I would feel if before each name, or any name, was added the word mine.

My Whore
My Bitch
My Slut
My Cunt
My Woman

Would adding that one little word change the name from being a negative and perhaps allow those sides of me to not feel wrong. I confess, I did feel differently when those words were said not to wound, but with affection.

Thoughts?

 

[vintage63]

I like the word My added because it's possessive. That's just me.

grins

 

[NomadLady]

I like the word My added because it's possessive. That's just me.

I have to agree with Vintage on this one.....

 

[redheadedtxn]

When Sir uses those pet names on me, it's in love - so it's different

 

[sweepthefloor]

I would like to conform to expectations, because he deserves it, and I deserve it, and that would induce a happy feeling. Being called "My" anything, would give me butterflies inside.

 

[chy_girl]

Typically I'm fine with those so long as it has the possessive modifier. I'm even to the point where they bring that sense of pleasure and belonging. "Whore" is another story though.

One of my initial hard limits was "whore" because it was so incredibly tied to my trauma history from childhood. They slipped one time, I totally understand why and held no animosity toward them even when it happened. As soon as they realized what had happened they fixed it, but it also caused the scene to end. Ended up with some doozey flashbacks afterwords.

I think it took 24 hours before I asked for help taking the word back. It's slow. Much slower than I would like. But it's getting there. They waited till I used the term "pain whore" in reference to myself in a piece of writing - which was safe for me because the pain is a positive. It's slowly progressed till I don't panic when one of them says "my whore" or "our whore." Depending on the day, it can even make me smile.

My favorite is still "My girl," or even just "mine." Those feel the best.

 

[YourCaptor]

Would this work?

My little failure.

 

[chy_girl]

Would this work?

My little failure.

I suppose that would depend on the scene and what kind of prize I get for "failing" in the right direction.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Him: "God, you're such a slut"

Me: "Yeah, well.... you love it!"




That's about as far as we've gone.

I tend not to have an issue with those names coming from someone I care about. And I don't have an issue with randoms trying to call me that either, cos I just laugh at them and tell them to sod off.

 

[YourCaptor]

I suppose that would depend on the scene and what kind of prize I get for "failing" in the right direction.

People get prizes for failing?

Failing is very bad.

 

[chy_girl]

People get prizes for failing?

Failing is very bad.

It depends on the failing.

If I fail to act appropriatly in public, yes that's bad. If I fail in my service to them, yes that's bad. If I fail to count backward by 7 from 100 while sceneing that is not bad... that gives them another reason to hit me with the dragon's tongue.

As I said:
I suppose that would depend on the scene and what kind of prize I get for "failing" in the right direction.

 

[VelvetSin]

I was talking with a friend about how there are some words that evoke an automatic negative response in me.... like whore, bitch, slut, cunt.. etc. He pointed out that society likes to use these labels on women when it doesn't agree with what she's doing. Then they're used to wound or degrade in hopes that the woman will conform to it's expectations.

He asked how I would feel if before each name, or any name, was added the word mine.

My Whore
My Bitch
My Slut
My Cunt
My Woman

Would adding that one little word change the name from being a negative and perhaps allow those sides of me to not feel wrong. I confess, I did feel differently when those words were said not to wound, but with affection.

Thoughts?

Like the rest, I don't have a problem with any of those things so long as they come from the right man in the right context. The way he says it does things to me, and I've been known to say them myself when the situation (and he) called for it.

If anyone on the street other than B tried to say those things, they would be corrected that I am not "your" anything. The names by themselves without the possessive modifier definitely create a negative response.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Would this work?

My little failure.

How does this sound coming from a sub?
"As you wish, O great and lordly failure."

 

[straponqueenuk]

I like to call my husband lots of names like this, sissy, bitch, slut, whore, and he really likes to hear it. It's kind of a term of affection in that sense. I like to dominate him and tease him, but he likes to be on the end of it. Certainly, I would use the possessive "my" as well. He is my sissyboy, not anybody elses, which I guess does make it more affectionate.

 

[sullivan96]

i like using a magick marker to write: "your slut" across my slave's ass. it's a turn on to go out to breakfast knowing that under her skirt is such a submissive statement.

 

[FungiUg]

Thoughts?

A lot of us get off (in a big way) on being able to use names exactly like that. I agree that the possessive element does turn it from being an insult into something loving.

Of course, if you're into objectification in a big way, you might add things like the following to the list:

My occasional side table
My bedside lamp

 

[Kathykitten]

I love those! When you put the "my" on it just gets even better. I think it's the obvious mix of wrong and right that makes it so delicious. It shows you are willing to take your sub anywhere you wanna go in your mind and just adore him or her all the way through it.

 

[Stella_Omega]

A lot of us get off (in a big way) on being able to use names exactly like that. I agree that the possessive element does turn it from being an insult into something loving.

Of course, if you're into objectification in a big way, you might add things like the following to the list:

My occasional side table
My bedside lamp

My vase of flowers. I saw a crude illustration of that, and laughed and laughed!

 

[xssve]

How does this sound coming from a sub?
"As you wish, O great and lordly failure."

Well how humiliating is it to be collared to a failure?

PM me if that make you hot.

 

[Jaded_One]

A lot of us get off (in a big way) on being able to use names exactly like that. I agree that the possessive element does turn it from being an insult into something loving.

Of course, if you're into objectification in a big way, you might add things like the following to the list:

My occasional side table
My bedside lamp

How about... My ottoman.... My TV tray?

 

[SyntheticXSins]

I think that adding "my" in front of those words changes my views on it entirely. Instead of taking the word slut as a woman who gives herself easily to other men, the "my", to me anyway, implies that as a sub I'm my dom's slut, I do dirty and raunchy things for him that I wouldn't for any other man and it's because he claims me as his own. It's a bit of a paradox with any of these I think.

 

[FungiUg]

It's a bit of a paradox with any of these I think.

Agreed. The thing I find a little... interesting, is that were I to call anyone other than my lover any of those names, it would be an insult.

 

[ownedsubgal]

I was talking with a friend about how there are some words that evoke an automatic negative response in me.... like whore, bitch, slut, cunt.. etc. He pointed out that society likes to use these labels on women when it doesn't agree with what she's doing. Then they're used to wound or degrade in hopes that the woman will conform to it's expectations.

He asked how I would feel if before each name, or any name, was added the word mine.

My Whore
My Bitch
My Slut
My Cunt
My Woman

Would adding that one little word change the name from being a negative and perhaps allow those sides of me to not feel wrong. I confess, I did feel differently when those words were said not to wound, but with affection.

Thoughts?

this sort of thinking i just don't get. my thought processes are a bit too literal...if i'm not actually a whore, then i wouldn't understand my Master calling me "my little whore." it would just sound extremely fake and cheesy, which is never a good thing.

His use of the possessive adjective also does not give me any warm fuzzies about a label which causes me shame. for example years ago i used to feel quite a bit of self-loathing over being a slut. when he called me "my slut," it still stung because slut is what i really was and always had been and being that way had caused me nothing but pain and tragedy my whole life. over a long time period of time "slut" lost its ugliness for me and gained a sort of beauty, but it had absolutely nothing to do with being his.

 

[satindesire]

How does this sound coming from a sub?
"As you wish, O great and lordly failure."

Hah.

I bet it'd go over as well with a sub as it would with a Dom. There's verbal humiliation, and then there's this.

Well how humiliating is it to be collared to a failure?

PM me if that make you hot.

Vom.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Well how humiliating is it to be collared to a failure?

What would a sub consider to be a "failure" of such proportions that they would feel humiliated by their collar?