Who Knows About You?

[dr_mabeuse]

Who knows that you write porn/erotica?

I mean, who knows that you, as your real life persona, write and publish stuff here? Anyone? Everyone?

How do you feel about what you publish here in regard to people knowing? Does it embarrass you? Are you proud of it? And if it embarrasses you, does it embarrass you because of the subject matter, or because of the quality of the writing?


---dr.M.

 

[FlyontheWall99]

I'm not embarassed but because of my unique personality, nobody can get a good read on me. My g/f thought I was joking the first time I told her that I wrote erotica. Then she took four weeks of coaxing till she finally began to believe me and then have a look. Then she didn't believe it was me who was writing it, just taking credit for someone with a similar username that I normally use.

So to end this problem I made her send feedback to one of my stories and then I wrote back to her giving her some much personal detail about her that she had to believe it was me ....

Now of course whe wants me to write less, and yes she has said she will NOT allow me to write about her or anything we get up too .....

Back to writing ....

Fly ...

 

[deliciously_naughty]

Most everyone I know is aware or has a link to my author's page.

 

[Why]

The most important person in my life knows, my SO.

They find it highly amusing.


I suppose you have to know me in person for it to be so. Me of all people poking my finger into the erotic pie...

 

[Vincent E]

I've said it before, and I'll say it again: if I wanted anyone to know I write this stuff I'd use my real name, Alan Smithee.

Hey, that was my 100th post. Now I get an AV. Yippee.

 

[msacras]

Everyone knows that I write and write alot. But very few people from my non-online life know that I write erotica.

But at a point I did have a live-in boyfriend. I had never shared any of my stories of any genre. He was student teacher, about to teach elementary English. He found my erotic stories one day when I was at work. He told me the stories were bad. Which they were but he successfully stoped me from writing any ficition until we broke up.

 

[Guest]

I confess: 1 brother (the writer), 1 sis-in-law (writer), 1 girlfriend (financial analyst and former great slut), 3 prof. friends (2 English, 1 chemistry). One prof. (18th c. & Sh're) is in her 70s and a great mentor; she even gives me plot bunnies.

No embarrassment; but I only tell those who read well and would appreciate the writing first. No pride really, just like sharing what I do best.

Perdita

Htichcock

 

[Just-Legal]

No-one, save my SO

 

[Chicklet]

my mother, my father, my boyfriend, a lot of his friends, and a lot of my friends. I'm happy that I write and I want to share with everyone who cares to read! A good deal of people at work (the one's I trust) have shared my stories as well = ) They've also pitched in ideas I never would have thought of!

-Chicklet

 

[Guest]

are you kidding?

Nobody.

 

[Sabledrake]

Pretty much everybody ... husband, friends, relatives, co-workers ... they at least know that I do this, if not the specifics about my handle and this site in particular.

Sabledrake

 

[Chicklet]

Re: are you kidding?

Nobody.

really?

does that get lonely?

 

[Guest]

Re: Re: are you kidding?

really?

does that get lonely?

With the comaradarie that I have with folks here at the AH and other authors with whom I correspond, no.

So a to all of you who encourage my hidden self.

b

 

[MathGirl]

Only my man. He's a very private person, but I finally got up the nerve to show him something I had written about us. I think he tried his best to be outraged, but his body betrayed him.

He ended up dictating his version of the stories (taken from real life). I wrote it up and reposted some of my stuff with both our perspectives. That was fun, and the readers seemed to enjoy it.
MG
Ps. My stuff isn't porn/erotica. I prefer to think of it as "smut."

 

[oggbashan]

Some people know that I write for Literotica but only a couple of close friends know my Lit identity.

Could be embarrasing in RL because it could jeopardise my other activities. However a local Councillor admitted to participating in porn videos when a student. Despite that and copies circulating around the town, he was reelected.

Og

 

[Quasimodem]

I'm with Bridget!

NO ONE!

I'm certain my boss would object - a very uptight, self-involved dude. He knows about some of my non erotic stories being published, and only insists that I do not do it for money.

(He's afraid if I get paid, I won't concentrate on his work. He has no idea how writers’ work. It is BECAUSE of my other writing, that I haven't burned out working on his drek.)

Anybody in the family would have 'moralistic' objections.

My ex, and several possible future quasi- ex's, have too great a tendency to put their mouth in gear, before their brain is engaged.

As far as getting lonely, the personalities on Lit are strong enough to overcome any possible difficulty there.

In fact, sometimes it is a relief that they are at a distance.

 

[Svenskaflicka]

Who knows that you write porn/erotica?

I mean, who knows that you, as your real life persona, write and publish stuff here? Anyone? Everyone?

How do you feel about what you publish here in regard to people knowing? Does it embarrass you? Are you proud of it? And if it embarrasses you, does it embarrass you because of the subject matter, or because of the quality of the writing?


---dr.M.

My mum, my best friend, my Hubby. Mmmmm... that's it.

Mum doesn't like me writing erotica. She thinks I'm a pervert for doing it.
Hubby loves it. He thinks I'm a very good writer, and he encourages me to write more. He likes to read what I've written, or have me read it out loud to him, and he often tells me that he's proud of me for being so skilled at writing.
My best friend reads my stories if she has any time left, which unfortunately isn't all that often. She also helps me come up with ideas, either by telling them straight to me, or by gossipping about our mutual friends - that is usually enough for a whole Novel...

I'm proud of being good at writing, but I'm not telling everyone about my erotic stories. People around here already think I'm a slut, I don't want to give them any more to gossip about. Considering how open-minded and forward Swedes are about sex and sexuality, we're also surprisingly close-minded and judgemental.

 

[Svenskaflicka]

I use my real photo for an AV sometimes, but I figure that's OK. If anyone would see me and recognize me, they can't really spread out that I write porn stories, without also admitting that they visit porn sites.

 

[MathGirl]

Originally posted by Svenskaflicka I they can't really spread out that I write porn stories, without also admitting that they visit porn sites.

Excellent point, Swede. It sounds like our mothers are much alike. My Mom already thinks I'm some sort of pervert, and she doesn't even know I write smut.
MG

 

[Rainbow Skin]

A few friends have been sent some of my stories, which is a bit of a risk, but we had got round to discussing that and I felt safe letting them see one or two pieces. They've all enjoyed what they've seen.

Fewer of them -- two I can think of -- are aware of the existence of this website and associate it with me.

A few other friends could follow a trail and work out that I must have stories here. It would be an unlikely fluke if they could actually find one of mine without knowing what they were looking for.

In one case... Tentatively discussing the stories abstractly after sending one or two did get me into closer talk with an old lover, which tumbled into having a very wonderful time again for a while after years of parting.

Lots of others (but never family) know in a highly non-specific way; and would have no way of identifying me here.

That's roughly the way I want to keep it all.

 

[sailorm72003]

No one at all.

 

[Uther_Pendragon]

Absolutely nobody knows. Almost nobody I know as Uther
knows my other name.

 

[MathGirl]

Absolutely nobody knows. Almost nobody I know as Uther
knows my other name.

Dear UP,
Oh, yes we do, Lester. We won't tell, though.
MG and Everyone Else

 

[Guest]

I'm with Bridget!

Be still my beating heart!

dr_m, in my brevity i failed to answer your follow up questions.

because the sex is explicit and includes variations on the M/F theme, i would not be comfortable with people who see me every day reading my stories.

i have written before that posting stories here is my form of exhibitionism. it is safe and it is satisfying. there is an intimacy of revealing my fantasies and preferences that would be scary, not to mention inappropriate, for me in my everyday life.

in order to be emotionally safe, i would have to distance myself from my writing and that would defeat the whole purpose of writing for me.

b

 

[English Lady]

Well my husband knows i write,as he encouraged me to do so. He is as perverted as me and writes some damn good erotica. He admited a story here but it got sent to the extreme section....see i told you he was perverted


My sister now knows, she saw me posting on lit and hubby informed her of my writing skills! She hasn't really expressed much of an opinion on it..though i am sure it was a shock to the system...I don't think she'll want to read my stuff though!


I haven't told anyone else because i really don't think they'd understand,my two best friends are deeply religious and I am not sure how they'd react...though being as laid back as me, they'd probably not flutter an eyelash!

Mum doesn't know because well we're not so close at the moment. Maybe in the future when she's less stressed and more open i might tell her.

My dad would probably shrug it off too...but the idea of telling my dad jsut makes me cringe..i mean really i don't think he want's to know his little girl is in anyway sexual let alone find out she writes erotica!

Maybe if something miraculous happens and i actually start to do this thing professionally, maybe then everyone would be told. I doubt that'll ever happen though!