Who is more uncomfortable being naked-men or women?

[Nudeslave83]

I've always thought women were more shy about exposing their bodies where men kind of grew up with it in locker rooms and common showers (at least in my youth). Of course, each individual is different. On nude beaches, at least the ones I've been to, more women are willing to take off their tops than guys willing to drop their trunks, but you see a lot of both.

I think that this is an important factor as well seeing as women are generally raised with the expectation of privacy where men are not usually afforded privacy. Although I also think it's easier to get topless than it is to get bottomless so that could also be a difference as well were to.
But I think that there is sort of a double standard where women are both raised to be more modest but at the same time you are more likely to see women getting naked for fun and pleasure such as in girls gone wild videos. Sometimes the repression can lead to the opposite effect.

I fall back on what my doctor said once. He often has med students with him in his office and I've been examined by some of them either alone or with him present. Last year, he had a female med student that he said was going to come in to examine me. She had asked him if there was anything she shouldn't do with a naked male patient. His answer was, "Men don't care what you do. Just do what you think you need to." No problem with here touching me anywhere, especially since she was pretty cute. (OK, I'm a sleaze) My concern is what kind of a "potential doctor" has to ask if it's ok to touch/examine a naked male patient? Somebody has some maturing to do. I've had "turn your head and cough" tests and prostate exams from female doctors. Frankly I hate prostate exams equally from both genders.

I think again this goes to the fact that men are usually not afforded privacy in the same way that women are. But to me a medical exam isn't as sexualized necessarily so it doesn't seem to have an erotic charge for me. However there have been situations where I have been naked or semi dressed when I had a female doctor or nurse and I had to admit it felt a little bit embarrassing and self-conscious but also a little bit titillating such as when I was in nothing but a robe and they could easily see my ass.

I love being naked but yes that is mostly when I am alone or with someone trusted. If you put me in front of a crowd of people I didn't know it would be quite uncomfortable for me.

I think that this is true of most people. Most people have certain individuals they feel comfortable being naked with in private but being naked in public in front of a crowd I think is intimidating for most people unless they are naturally exhibitionists. Personally I find the idea of being in front of a crowd naked exciting but also embarrassing and humiliating and intimidating beyond words, but that is precisely what makes it exciting. I couldn't see myself willingly going through with it due to my own personal inhibitions but if I found myself in a situation like that against my will I couldn't deny that I would still find it exciting even if I was trying to get out of that situation.

 

[mjolnir_1]

Nakedness

Guys who either are in athletics or certain jobs with locker facilities such as law enforcement or military your going to have moments of being naked in front of others.

I had no problem with it while I was in the military, however as I am no longer in, I keep a degree of modesty as I don't feel the rest of the world wants to my big ass in the buff. I'm too tall to be wandering about the house naked lol.

 

[varv]

I think the question itself is incorrect. If it is inconvenient, it is already a fact. It doesn't matter who you are, man or woman. And the whole conversation came to a quantitative assessment. Which is not the answer to the question. The correct answer was in my opinion. Habitat and education in the young years. This of course does not apply to all emotional tendencies associated with exhibitionism.

 

[LupusDei]

Personally I find the idea of being in front of a crowd naked exciting but also embarrassing and humiliating and intimidating beyond words, but that is precisely what makes it exciting. I couldn't see myself willingly going through with it due to my own personal inhibitions but if I found myself in a situation like that against my will I couldn't deny that I would still find it exciting even if I was trying to get out of that situation.

I recently typed out one case I sort of found myself in that situation.

I think that this is an important factor as well seeing as women are generally raised with the expectation of privacy where men are not usually afforded privacy. Although I also think it's easier to get topless than it is to get bottomless so that could also be a difference as well were to.
But I think that there is sort of a double standard where women are both raised to be more modest but at the same time you are more likely to see women getting naked for fun and pleasure such as in girls gone wild videos. Sometimes the repression can lead to the opposite effect.

Yes, there's certainly a dissonance exist, with female nudity being both more taboo, yet more acceptable at the same time. Also, topless =/= nude, for a variety of reasons, and I strongly endorse the "gender equality" measures in this regard, especially when number of USA states where it is allowed for women to be topless anywhere is rising.

(Then I personally would like to end all and any gender segregation, but that's extremist, I know, and current transgender craze while might yield just that in theory, isn't helpful but rather dangerous if it results in individual isolation on the level there used to be between genders, dramatically lovering healthy exposure to social nudity in result.)

Then, I have seen youngers who refer to their bikinis as being nude, and react in almost every manner as if it were so, behaving almost just like we used to when indeed naked. I couldn't help but wonder, why then bother with those useless tiny pieces of fabric that indeed more underscore than obscure? I see no point.

Also, I think severe cases of gymnophobia are more often in women, or perhaps just more visible, for exactly the mentioned reasons, that female public nudity is more expected. Still, I knew one girl... not to mention anyone else, her husband of may years haven't seen her naked (yes, they claimed to have sex, I'm not really sure how), nor her best female friends (one of whom offered quite ridiculous experiences of sharing hotel room with her). It's kind of difficult to imagine any man to ever go to those lengths, but possibly I just haven't encountered that.

 

[Nudeslave83]

Sorry for the late reply, I don't check this site regularly I'll admit so I'm only seeing this now 3 weeks later.

I think you're asking two different questions. How men and women react to a fetishistic situation (CMNF/CFNM) is different from how they would process being naked in another situation. There's overlap, but this isn't comparable.

True, but to be fair I think that I meant in sort of a general sense that whether you mean a fetish context or just in society in general that it is much more common for women to be naked compared to men or otherwise scantily dressed. Pretty much wherever you go it's more common to see female nudity rather than male nudity except maybe and really repressive religious cultures. But even there there is more sexual objectification of female bodies than male. Worldwide pretty much female naked is the norm whereas men naked is sort of the aberration I guess you would say.

Which society? "Western" (and where in "western" society)? A particular Asian culture? A predominantly Islamic country? I assume you mean U.S. / Canada / U.K., or somewhere around there, but just saying that we can't generalize.

I suppose I did mean Western society in general but I suppose that is a generalization seeing as there are a lot of cultural variations. But once again I think that worldwide the general norm is female nudity compared to male and female sexual objectification compared to male sexual objectification.

I think that this makes total sense. How individual women react to this barrage of objectification from other people and from the images around them is another thing!

Well obviously every individual is going to react differently but when speaking about this I did mean more of a broad generalization. There are some women who are exhibitionists and yet there are some women who would feel incredibly ashamed to be naked which are individual variations, but in general I think that women on the whole are used to being judged by their bodies and having their body sexualized and objectified as the norm whereas for men it is something that most men don't really deal with or don't expect. Men don't expect to be seen as sex objects in general in society. Women may react individually in different ways to sexual objectification, but no matter which way you slice it women are more used to being judged for their sexual and physical characteristics than men are, and I think that in general women have to develop a thicker skin to deal with that even though many of course have a really hard time with that resulting in things like anorexia and bulimia and other negative outcomes.

A thought experiment is probably not going to give us the answer. It's not even an anecdote, it's a hypothetical invented by one's own brain. Maybe one user will come up with a totally different answer than you...

Well again yes obviously, that's why was asking other people's opinions. The thought experiment was just to facilitate a situation where you would think how what I feel in this situation to reach their own individual answers, that's the whole purpose of a thought experiment.

Can confirm that I have read recent studies on ancient Roman male poets who were just like this! Complaining about how meretrices (courtesans) had too much autonomy, and trying to figure out how to work their way around this and subvert their sexual freedoms!

This is especially interesting when you consider that ancient Roman and Greek societies were far more patriarchal than any society today so men of that society would probably really not used to being in the sexually submissive or objectified situation.

More social factors than just gender affect how one experiences shame. That means that this can be fluid through one person's life. Within one generic population of "women" from the same zip code, you can still have women of a variety of religions, ages, cultural upbringings, classes, education levels, etc. Just how many things can possibly affect one's propensity for shame? Why did I mention education level? People who are more educated are more likely to be into things like kinks, fetishes, BDSM. They are more likely to be able to access better healthcare because of knowing how to track down and access better resources even if they are still of a lower socioeconomic class.

It is definitely true that women are shamed for sexual behavior and basically all behavior far more than men, but that is why it's my feeling that women again in general have to develop a thicker skin in order to deal with it. But it's also true that again it does vary individually based on demographics. I know that most of the older women that I know are fairly prude when I was thinking of this particular study I was thinking mostly of women that I know who are my own age, all of whom are college-educated and very sexually liberal.

However again like you said there is a lot of individual variation. I'm also college-educated and extremely sexual liberal but that doesn't change the fact that I'm still breathtakingly shy. But I was mainly getting at is when I think of female friends from my age group who are college-educated I think that most of them are reasonably comfortable with their body and I contrast that with me who would probably be dying of embarrassment.

Again though it's something that's very individual as you have said repeatedly, and I'm just going by my experience and the people I know who are all much more experimental open-minded and liberal compared to most people in general I would say.

 

[Nudeslave83]

I guess just a random thought but I do think that perhaps women may feel more anxious when naked just because men are more likely to sexually objectify them or behave in a predatory manner. But I think that men perhaps feel more awkward and uncomfortable about being naked in some situations particularly with a dressed woman because it seems like an unnatural thing.

I also think that men might be insecure about being seen naked because in contrast to women whose breast size you can see even when they are dressed with a man you don't necessarily know what he is packing down there but if he is naked it is pretty much unambiguous!

Again going with the whole female nudity is common male nudity is sort of not the norm and perhaps for that reason more awkward feeling. Picture a woman in a group of men and all around her are pictures of naked women or women who are extremely scantily clad. What she feels sort of uncomfortable as a woman being surrounded by all of that female nudity and sexual objectification, I feel like in that situation it would feel normal to her.

Now let's say you had a man standing around a bunch of pictures of naked men or with a group of women. To me I think that would feel kind of weird. It's a strange thing to consider, but I think that we are just so used to female sexual objectification and nudity and if we saw a woman around lots of pictures of other scantily clad women it doesn't seem strange, and yet if I was the only guy with a group of women and all around us were pictures of naked men I would suddenly feel like, even if I wasn't naked, I feel like they would be somehow associating me in a similar way and thinking about that perhaps.

 

[Nudeslave83]

In my experience, women that I know, at least are not terribly uncomfortable getting naked. Many men are though. I suspect they feel they will be judged on their size. Projecting as strong, powerful men is a bit harder in a chilly room when you look far from a porn star. I think, in almost every case, when a man first reveals his penis, everyone takes a look and judges it.

I think that there is definitely truth to that. I have recently been thinking that one of the differences between male and female nudity is that male nudity tends to reveal more that you wouldn't see when a man is wearing clothing. Like a woman's breast size you can tell from looking at her even if she is dressed, but a man's penis is concealed inside of their clothing and can be pretty well hidden for the most part. So a man who is naked has their genitals more exposed being naked than a woman would in a similar situation as it's all out on display.

I am definitely not the strong powerful man type and I am actually rather shy and awkward so when I think of it I am thinking that in a situation where I was naked I would feel extremely vulnerable and intimidated and I am not used to being seen and judged by my sexual characteristics or having my body objectified. I am not used to the idea of people thinking of me in a sexual sense or seeing me in terms of my sexual characteristics.

I think that women are just sort of more naturally used to being seen as sex objects in society and develop a thicker skin about that. That is why in a situation like CFNM where a man finds himself naked around dressed women it's a much more unusual situation and much more difficult to deal with simply because it's not something that you are used to. Female exposure and nudity is the norm but a naked man stands out more.

I also think another added embarrassment for a man who is naked is that if he has an erection it's very obvious and a woman can see how she is affecting his body where as a woman can get aroused from looking at a naked man without visibly showing it. And if you are getting an erection when you are naked and a dressed woman is looking at you it also gives power to her because she knows that the awkwardness of the situation is turning you on, so more power to her.

Another interesting thing is that I think that things have changed in the last few decades. I have read on CFNM forums it used to be more common for men to be naked in general and to be naked around other men including around dressed women, and it was not seen as a big deal, but women in the past dressed much more modestly in a way that covered them from head to toe.

In the last couple of decades we have seen a reversal of the trend where it is much more common now for women not to be shy about wearing clothing that shows off a lot of skin or to strip naked or anything like that. Whereas men I think now are more covered up in general and more used to being concealed. Men usually show little skin in most of what they wear.

As a result of this I think that women are more comfortable with the fact that people are looking at their bodies and judging their bodies. Again there are plenty of women who have more body issues like that, but at the same time I think that the average woman is more used to the feeling of being exposed and having skin on display and more comfortable with it. I think that the average man today is more shy and modest, so when a man is completely on display like that it is really uncomfortable and disempowering for him whereas I think women would be more likely to blow off the situation.

 

[Lucy_Lastic]

I think the OP just likes to write shit.

Some people are uncomfortable being naked. Some aren't. Some are men, some are women.

In my experience of nudity in the pool, women will (not always) undress first. Men (not always) may get a bit paranoid about 'what if I get a boner?' but after 5 minutes of being naked everyone just gets on with stuff just like if they have clothes on.

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

I think the OP just likes to write shit.

Some people are uncomfortable being naked. Some aren't. Some are men, some are women.

In my experience of nudity in the pool, women will (not always) undress first. Men (not always) may get a bit paranoid about 'what if I get a boner?' but after 5 minutes of being naked everyone just gets on with stuff just like if they have clothes on.

I think we go to different pools

I may have to switch

 

[hanban24]

It greatly depends on the situation. I think women are probably more self conscious about being nude in front of men, then men are around women. However, I think women are far more comfortable being nude in front of the same gender then men are.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been naked around plenty of other women. Whether it is a locker room, dressing room, sleepover, I’ve been around tons of other women naked. Men seem to more sheepish being nude in front of other men.

 

[hanban24]

I think the OP just likes to write shit.

Some people are uncomfortable being naked. Some aren't. Some are men, some are women.

In my experience of nudity in the pool, women will (not always) undress first. Men (not always) may get a bit paranoid about 'what if I get a boner?' but after 5 minutes of being naked everyone just gets on with stuff just like if they have clothes on.

I agree that the OP definitely likes to see themself write. Couldn’t make it through the whole original post lol

 

[Carnevil9]

How can this even be a question? It is women who are much less comfortable (at first) being naked. Especially youngish, twenty-something women. Older ones start to think more like guys: fuck it! I say this from years of observation at nude beaches.

 

[Mtnmike]

It greatly depends on the situation. I think women are probably more self conscious about being nude in front of men, then men are around women. However, I think women are far more comfortable being nude in front of the same gender then men are.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been naked around plenty of other women. Whether it is a locker room, dressing room, sleepover, I’ve been around tons of other women naked. Men seem to more sheepish being nude in front of other men.

This was what I was thinking to.

 

[Lady2020]

All I know is it depends on the situation and what you're comfortable with. When I was around 25, I shared a 3br apartment with two friends from college. One bedroom had its own bathroom, so we drew straws to see who would get that bedroom. I won. It was a weird situation because I wasn't dating at the time, so the other two resented me winning. Like, what does she need it for? There was one other bathroom in the apartment. It didn't take long for my two friends to start wanting to use my bathroom in the mornings. I decided well they will have to put up with me being naked when they try to use my bathroom while I was trying to get ready. It didn't take long for them to get the message. I'm not the type to just walk around nude. So, this wasn't easy for me to do.

I learned over the years, there is nothing better than my man and I being nude and playing around. It's been a while since I've had a RL partner though.

 

[Nudeslave83]

Ignoring some of the ruder comments, I mean geez people yes I write a lot (and this is a short post by my standards), which shouldn't be a problem on a forum dedicated to writing. I type an average of 20,000+ words a day between everything I write.

I do think that age is a factor. I have kind of noticed that most of the older people I know in my life tend to be more uptight about nudity where I think that younger people are more used to a culture where there was a lot more skin on display.

I do agree that I think women are more comfortable being naked around other naked women than men are around other men, and I think it goes back to what I was saying about how what I had read on one of the CFNM boards, that in the past it was actually much more common for men to be naked around other men and for women to be more covered up and prudish. I think that the tides are shifting in the other direction now where you see men being more uptight I think about sexuality and nudity where as I think women are more comfortable with having more skin on display, which I think is just because female nudity is so ubiquitous in our society that it's hardly even thought about.

I do think that there is a pretty big generation gap and I think it depends on who you are around such as most of the older women that I know like in my family are really uptight sex negative, whereas most women I know around my own age are very sexually liberal and progressive and a lot of them work in jobs like nurses where there is a comfort and a familiarity with the human body, so I think people in situations like that tend not to be as uptight.

But again it can vary, I'm very sexually liberal but personally very shy. I would feel sort of awkward and uncomfortable around either sex naked but being a naked around the opposite sex I think often has more of a sexual charge to it.

 

[BigButtSlut47]

I love being naked and don't care who I'm around. My wife feels the same way. We are always naked at home as soon as we get in the door (sometimes even before that).

 

[LittleSwitchy]

I think som have put way to much thought into this.
My thinking is depends on the person. Some can careless about being naked in front of people. Other’s wouldn’t do it at all.
I don’t think it has anything to do with which gender is more or less comfortable. It’s about what the person is more or less comfortable with.

 

[jehoram]

Since the COVID restrictions lifted, I've been to a few nude-friendly places in my area. I can only state that in most of them, the men outnumber the women by a large margin... say four or five to one. There are two exceptions. The first one is venues where there are a lot of people (100 or more), where the ratio is about two or three to one. The second was a hot springs where the object is not to socialize but for personal growth. In that place, the ratio is about the same for men as for women.

I have not been to a nude beach recently, so I can't comment on that scene.

 

[Nudeslave83]

Since the COVID restrictions lifted, I've been to a few nude-friendly places in my area. I can only state that in most of them, the men outnumber the women by a large margin... say four or five to one. There are two exceptions. The first one is venues where there are a lot of people (100 or more), where the ratio is about two or three to one. The second was a hot springs where the object is not to socialize but for personal growth. In that place, the ratio is about the same for men as for women.

I think that actually makes a lot of sense. I think that in nude beach situations there are lots of guys who go hoping to see women only to find lots of other men. It reminds me of that scene from the movie Euro Trip where all of the guys went to the nude beach hoping to see lots of naked women but then there were just a bunch of naked guys and then the one woman was about to get undressed and then all of the guys went crazy. So that would probably be a very intimidating situation.

I think in a more crowded place or in a place where people are emphasizing personal growth there is probably a more equal gender balance because the people aren't going there hoping to see naked people, and are probably just more comfortable with nudity in general and probably don't see it as a sexual thing. I also think that there is safety in numbers so I think that when there are more people around there is probably more of a gender balance.

 

[curiouschattycouple]

I think the OP just likes to write shit.

Some people are uncomfortable being naked. Some aren't. Some are men, some are women.

In my experience of nudity in the pool, women will (not always) undress first. Men (not always) may get a bit paranoid about 'what if I get a boner?' but after 5 minutes of being naked everyone just gets on with stuff just like if they have clothes on.

I think women tend to more critical of their own bodies. Men generally accept the body they have. Women generally are more self conscious, and this probably explains why far more women have cosmetic surgery than men.

 

[Goldenfinger]

I think women tend to more critical of their own bodies. Men generally accept the body they have. Women generally are more self conscious, and this probably explains why far more women have cosmetic surgery than men.

It’s a multi billion dollar industry.

 

[LasTime]

I have had the good fortune to experience CFNM a few times (too few) and I loved it.

How did that come about? Was it before you were married?

 

[Erosfan]

How did that come about? Was it before you were married?

I got naked for my first wife and her best friend a few times, many years ago. They even jacked me off once. After that I was hooked. My late wife used to get me naked on our back porch fairly often. We had neighbors with two story houses. The first time it happened, I had mixed drinks for us and took them onto the back porch. I tried to hand hers to her, but she just pulled my shorts down. She told me to take off my shirt so I would be completely naked. I reminded her that neighbors might see us. She said, this is our back porch and if they don't want to see what we do, they shouldn't look. She then proceeded to give me one of her wonderful hand jobs. I came on her sun dress. After that, I reached for my shorts and shirt. She told me to just sit down so we could enjoy our drinks. This became somewhat of a routine for us. She kind of liked being dressed and me being naked. I really enjoyed it.

 

[womaneater58]

I would say the women are more uncomfortable.

 

[slavemelanie]

I think women tend to more critical of their own bodies. Men generally accept the body they have. Women generally are more self conscious, and this probably explains why far more women have cosmetic surgery than men.

It's always difficult to make a blanket statement about a group of people, but I do believe women are much more aware of their physical flaws then men tend to be. Being comfortable with your body can be extremely difficult for both men and women.
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