PoliteSuccubus
Spinster Aunt of Lit
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I wrote this, oh, last week on the GB, but I see a lot of names here I don't ever see there, so in the spirit of 'Setti's plea to liven things up a bit, my essay:
I have friends of all different types on the board and off and some of them are treated badly because of their choice of who to be with.
Inter-racial couples
Same sex couples
Socio-ecomonic division couples
Handicapped with un-handicapped couples
Couples that are actually more than two people
And I wonder why people think of love as finite?
I understand, of course, that there are differences in attraction etc. There are some types of people I'm attracted to more than others...But that's not what I'm talking about.
I was sitting around with some of my youth group a few weeks ago talking about how one of them who was gay had a relationship with a particular girl. He was still gay, but this one girl was someone who had crept into his heart and he loved her. He was under a lot of pressure from people saying "Well, maybe your not gay, you were with this girl."
They didn't understand that it was the girl as a person who he loved, and that made her gender irrelivant. And he was still gay.
If I have more than one child, do I love any of them less or more than the others? No. I may like one of them more than another, and have a favoriate, but my heart doesn't 'run out of love' because I have two, four, ten children.
Love is infinite and the human heart can produce enough to embrace an infinite amount of people.
When I worked at the daycare and the children would tell each other "Your not my friend anymore, I want to play with Pete." I would tell them "Say instead that your still friends, but you want to play with Pete right now; coz friends are like Christmas presents, you can never have enough."
Lastly, when you find the person you want to be with, love them like they were your child.
They way a person loves their child is through all their phases and changes, forgivingly, and without reservation.
I see so many people say: Oh he/she changed so much, we had nothing in common any more.
Children do the same thing, but we still love them. And we make the effort to find common intrests.
If you love your mate the way you love your child you would make allowances for growth and grow too instead of drifting off you'd presivere and create oppurtunies.
If you do break up, keep the friendship and the good things that happened. I mean, for gosh sakes, this was a person you found to be so wonderful you wanted to be closer to them. And now that has faded, you should be able to still see those things in them that attracted you and treat them as a friend. And be treated by them as a friend back.
When my ex and I broke up I was more hurt that he betrayed our friendship than I was that our romantic relationship was over.
Ok, I'm getting off my ruby colored soapbox.
Have a wonderful day.
I have friends of all different types on the board and off and some of them are treated badly because of their choice of who to be with.
Inter-racial couples
Same sex couples
Socio-ecomonic division couples
Handicapped with un-handicapped couples
Couples that are actually more than two people
And I wonder why people think of love as finite?
I understand, of course, that there are differences in attraction etc. There are some types of people I'm attracted to more than others...But that's not what I'm talking about.
I was sitting around with some of my youth group a few weeks ago talking about how one of them who was gay had a relationship with a particular girl. He was still gay, but this one girl was someone who had crept into his heart and he loved her. He was under a lot of pressure from people saying "Well, maybe your not gay, you were with this girl."
They didn't understand that it was the girl as a person who he loved, and that made her gender irrelivant. And he was still gay.
If I have more than one child, do I love any of them less or more than the others? No. I may like one of them more than another, and have a favoriate, but my heart doesn't 'run out of love' because I have two, four, ten children.
Love is infinite and the human heart can produce enough to embrace an infinite amount of people.
When I worked at the daycare and the children would tell each other "Your not my friend anymore, I want to play with Pete." I would tell them "Say instead that your still friends, but you want to play with Pete right now; coz friends are like Christmas presents, you can never have enough."
Lastly, when you find the person you want to be with, love them like they were your child.
They way a person loves their child is through all their phases and changes, forgivingly, and without reservation.
I see so many people say: Oh he/she changed so much, we had nothing in common any more.
Children do the same thing, but we still love them. And we make the effort to find common intrests.
If you love your mate the way you love your child you would make allowances for growth and grow too instead of drifting off you'd presivere and create oppurtunies.
If you do break up, keep the friendship and the good things that happened. I mean, for gosh sakes, this was a person you found to be so wonderful you wanted to be closer to them. And now that has faded, you should be able to still see those things in them that attracted you and treat them as a friend. And be treated by them as a friend back.
When my ex and I broke up I was more hurt that he betrayed our friendship than I was that our romantic relationship was over.
Ok, I'm getting off my ruby colored soapbox.
Have a wonderful day.
Thats just soap box speach of the month. thanks for listening. What is this thread about. I like it. my thoughts just came gushing out.__K
