Whipping and being whipped

[latendresse]

Recently my girlfriend offered to whip me and despite much hesitancy and a little fear on my part I allowed her to do so. It was very powerful; basically it made me extremely hard and I came like a fountain with a flooded river trapped underneath.

In more recent episodes I have tried it with her, whipping her, and she enjoyed it, though she tried to hide how much she enjoyed it (much to my relief! because I enjoyed it too!), for example, she took my cock in her mouth on all fours while I spanked/whipped her gorgeous, lovely, delicious bum, and each spank drove her forwards onto my cock, and we did this til I came. The whole episode was so intoxicating.

I am finding myself strangely addicted against all my expectations to the whole idea of whipping / being whipped. I am craving any films or stories which explore this ...

Has anyone else delved into this? Can they relate? Would love to hear your experiences. I can be more descriptive, but probably prefer to do so via PM rather than an anonymous online post which some readers might find so odd as to have to post their disparaging comments. And I only want to correspond with people who are on my wavelength already, rather than have to convert others to my viewpoint.

 

[twister947]

Relax...this is BDSM. Whipping is what we do, here. One of the milder things, actually.

 

[CorruptedInnocence]

-nod nod- I would suggest before you develop a attachment to it and increase in the amount / power involved, that you actually find someone to teach you or find a book or something to give you the basics, really depends on what you use but, There are some things that can seriously injure or cause permanent damage if used improperly. So really just be careful until you know what your doing, Im sure you can find some stories and some people experienced in it, check around the BDSM area of the forums and peek into threads and read them, maybe send a member that seems knowledgable a PM,

 

[seela]

Relax...this is BDSM. Whipping is what we do, here. One of the milder things, actually.

I wouldn't really call whipping mild. It's quite a different animal from flogging and spanking, and whipping IMO isn't all that common. Flogging, spanking, caning, paddling, sure, but whipping, not really, because it takes a lot of skill and precision to be able to deliver it safely.

 

[twister947]

I wouldn't really call whipping mild. It's quite a different animal from flogging and spanking, and whipping IMO isn't all that common. Flogging, spanking, caning, paddling, sure, but whipping, not really, because it takes a lot of skill and precision to be able to deliver it safely.

You're right, of course. I assumed the op was using the term broadly, and followed suit. Mea culpa.

 

[CorruptedInnocence]

lol, makes me wonder exactly what kinda whip he was using. I cant imagine any sane person would experiment with a bull whip right off the bat, i kinda think twister had the right idea, but yea real whipping like caning and certain kinds of paddles and floggers you need training to use safely, otherwise your putting your partner and or yourself at risk.

 

[PhilGarlic]

lol, makes me wonder exactly what kinda whip he was using. I cant imagine any sane person would experiment with a bull whip right off the bat, i kinda think twister had the right idea, but yea real whipping like caning and certain kinds of paddles and floggers you need training to use safely, otherwise your putting your partner and or yourself at risk.

Don't think he was using a whip, as the post above pointed out he was probably using the term very broadly.

As for training, fuck me how much training do you need, start gentle and build up, if a moron is starting off with a bull whip then the pair need help.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Stay away from the kidneys when you're using the bullhide flogger, that's my advice. Keep it away from your eyes.

Sounds to me like OP is doing it very, very right.

 

[CorruptedInnocence]

Don't think he was using a whip, as the post above pointed out he was probably using the term very broadly.

As for training, fuck me how much training do you need, start gentle and build up, if a moron is starting off with a bull whip then the pair need help.

People that think like that are why you can find subs with permanent scarring accross their backs, or worse. Starting out yea your going to be pretty safe, But as that addiction to the pleasure from the pain grows your control will slowly start to slip as well as the intensity will increase, mental conditioning and control as well as knowledge of how to treat any damage you may cause as well as how to properly use whatever instrument you decide on is very important, As a Dom or Domme in such games when doing stuff like this, safety is very high up on the list of prioritys. the ones that discard the safety of their subs are no better then disgusting animals.
Dont get me wrong i love being flogged or spanked or caned or whipped at my girlfriends hands, and the places she can take me blow my mind quite often lmao, But safety is one of her top prioritys, And i have friends who have had rather unpleasent experiences with untrained dom / domme's at clubs.
Maybe some are different? But my main point is, There are enough examples of stupidity in this field causing harm to subs, Take the freaking time to learn it right. /end rant

 

[latendresse]

safety precautions

Those with more experience are warning me about safety. It is very good of you. But at this stage no real danger of that, I am still taking small steps of discovery. I am still in the realm of fantasy and imagination rather than hard punishments.

For those who like to conjecture, there are two whips. One is very small and feminine with leather strands perhaps 10cms. The other is huge and probably too big for me. It could inflict damage. But of course I know and trust my partner and she would back off before causing any real damage ...

But I'd like to hear more about others' experiences ... If you don't mind ... Thanks again all of your contributions.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Those with more experience are warning me about safety. It is very good of you. But at this stage no real danger of that, I am still taking small steps of discovery. I am still in the realm of fantasy and imagination rather than hard punishments.

For those who like to conjecture, there are two whips. One is very small and feminine with leather strands perhaps 10cms. The other is huge and probably too big for me. It could inflict damage. But of course I know and trust my partner and she would back off before causing any real damage ...

But I'd like to hear more about others' experiences ... If you don't mind ... Thanks again all of your contributions.

How big is too big?

We have a 4ft bullwhip, and I'm still not entirely sure why I bought it cos it hurts like all fuck.

But, it's a good size for inside, provided there's some caution.

 

[CorruptedInnocence]

Those with more experience are warning me about safety. It is very good of you. But at this stage no real danger of that, I am still taking small steps of discovery. I am still in the realm of fantasy and imagination rather than hard punishments.

For those who like to conjecture, there are two whips. One is very small and feminine with leather strands perhaps 10cms. The other is huge and probably too big for me. It could inflict damage. But of course I know and trust my partner and she would back off before causing any real damage ...

But I'd like to hear more about others' experiences ... If you don't mind ... Thanks again all of your contributions.

First one your describing sounds like a cat o nine tails, And providing you do look into them, Their pretty safe, There are some that can be dangerous. Really though its probably the best way to get into it, Keep it away from the face and anywhere that might mark where clothing cant cover it for the next few days.
My first experience with a whip style experience was with the domme who turned me bi, And i've been in love with it since then personally, As i recall she had me on my hands and knees facing away from her with a ball gag in my mouth as she used a soft leather cat on my ass up to my shoulders while fingering me, and always backing off before i orgasmed, After like 2 hours of denial and pain and lust building up she finally let me cum, First taste of a bdsm orgasm lmao, just mind blowing stuff.

 

[catalina_francisco]

I would suggest some reading as in safe and unsafe places to whip on the human body. As Stella said, stay clear of the kidney area...face can also be a risk with some whips. We have a kangaroo leather stockwhip and bullwhip. They certainly are not mild, and unfortunately, due to the length mean planning well when and where to use. That being said, I love the bullwhip and hunger for the fire it brings.

Catalina

 

[latendresse]

thanks for replies!

Lizzie: I measured the big un. Her handle is 30cms. Her crop is 60cms. That makes a net length of almost 1 metre! I think it is big. Basically, if you swung that thing with any kind of force it would splay over your entire back and backside and top of your legs and carry with it a terrible inertia.

It has to be swung gently ...

What do you mean inside? You mean you insert that thing?

Corrupted: Thanks for this narrative. I love it. This is why I posted, to read about stories like this, which are a complete turn on and allow me to imagine the possibilities through others' experiences. You are right it is mind blowing. I am still surprised by it. I love the cat. So cute and small and you can wield it with full force ...

Catalina: I would never let anyone whip anything except my back/arse. 'Never' is a strong word but I think it certainly applies re facial area. I suspect I will love the bull whip when wielded by a professional.

One speculator question I'll throw in here: For those who are in Australia, do you recommend any spectator clubs? Hellfire? Or are these a bit showy and lacking in real substance?

Thanks again for your thought provoking comments and your erotic experiences. All welcome.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Lizzie: I measured the big un. Her handle is 30cms. Her crop is 60cms. That makes a net length of almost 1 metre! I think it is big. Basically, if you swung that thing with any kind of force it would splay over your entire back and backside and top of your legs and carry with it a terrible inertia.

It has to be swung gently ...

What do you mean inside? You mean you insert that thing?

lol, no as in, using it indoors. Like, in the lounge room. My house isn't huge, so he does have to be careful. He's a tall guy, with a decent reach, add 4ft to that and yowser.

 

[urh0227]

One speculator question I'll throw in here: For those who are in Australia, do you recommend any spectator clubs? Hellfire? Or are these a bit showy and lacking in real substance?

What part of Aus are you in? I went to the Brisbane hellfire for the first time last night and I loved it....everyone made me feel really welcome and I got to get flogged for the first time.

 

[xperia2995]

I spanked/whipped her gorgeous, lovely, delicious bum, and each spank drove her forwards onto my cock, and we did this til I came. The whole episode was so intoxicating.

Canes are pretty painful and totally controlable too. I also reccomend using short whips which aren't too thin, because that is what you should always begin with. Keep away from the lower back and sides, directly on the genital region. The bottom of the feet is a cool place

Have fun and carefully watch her reactions.

 

[masha223]

I've never been whipped before but I know it's coming. How does the pain differ from spanking?

 

[latendresse]

urh0277: In Sydney. There is a hellfire here which I have not been to yet.

masha223: I used the term whipping but the cat which I did use is actually leather so I suppose the correct term that I should have used is flogging. But to me flogging is akin to whipping. Spanking in my opinion is softer and more gentle because it is just a palm. Flogging / whipping is more forensic, precise and specific. But as you see from my posts I am am the novice here. The others have more expertise.

 

[CorruptedInnocence]

I've never been whipped before but I know it's coming. How does the pain differ from spanking?

Mmm, Spanking is a softer kinda pain, I guess im slightly masochistic, But each implement has its own feel to it, different kinds of pain, Enough of a difference a experienced sub that pays attention can probably tell whats being used from the sound and feel of it, Whips are usually a thinner sharper pain, Spanking brings on a wider more dull aching pain that gradually increases, Whips are like little lines of fire sorta c: Idk if that makes sense to you or not but yea,

 

[GrimsPet]

Flogging is something I would love to try again with Master. The last time we tried it the situation was different and even he really wasn't able to get into it and felt a bit uncomfortable. Master is not a sadist and I'm no masochist, but it would be fun I think to attempt something new now and then. I know Master would love to try spanking and paddling so I can hope at some point we will be able to do that.

 

[Lilac_Sky]

The thought of being whipped (to be clear, whipped with a whip ) scares the crap out of me. I love impact play and want to experiment more .... but whips are way down on the bottom of my "ooh, can we please try this next" list.

 

[Mz_Cunningham]

The thought of being whipped (to be clear, whipped with a whip ) scares the crap out of me. I love impact play and want to experiment more .... but whips are way down on the bottom of my "ooh, can we please try this next" list.

I think we're going to get through the list pretty quickly