Where's the catch?

[SummerMorning]

Can you help me spot the catch?

Let's assume ... (pretend this is hypothetical if it makes you feel better) ...

I know a girl ...

... and the sex is good and frequent;

... and we enjoy similar sports and cycle and hike and run and ski and climb and so forth together;

... and we both enjoy travelling and get along quite well, even in cabin fever situations;

... and we both enjoy a good book here and there and a good movie and she even tolerates me enjoying a cartoon or two or ten;

... and she has no qualms about anal or deep throating or toys or a bit of light bondage every now and again;

... and she even plays board games every now and again;

... and she looks good and athletic and wears thongs and has a well shaved pussy;

... and she has a sense of humour;

... and we can have reasonably sensible discussions reasonably often, especially when it's not about politics;

... and we get along fine in the kitchen;

... and she prefers to let me drive;

... and she generally has no dreadful psychological issues or hangups;

... and her friends are o.k.;

... and her parents are o.k., if a bit fond of the vinyard and barbecue;

... and she sculpts and paints a bit;

... and she's smart and good company in general.

So, where's the catch?!?

 

[Guest]

 

[EJFan]

i dunno if there's a catch or not... but don't go looking for one. i've seen too many people EXPECT something to be wrong and then some tiny, insignificant thing becomes a major issue.

btw... does she have a sister?

 

[bobsgirl]

Snap her up, sweet pea! What're you waiting for?

 

[Guest]

 

[DCSharksPC]

she's everything you want, but you're not ready for commitment?

same feeling i had reading it

dude, if she's too good, she'll take ur money in the divorce, or when she kills ya

jokes aside

sit back and enjoy it while it lasts, something'll come up, just don't look for it

 

[SummerMorning]

she makes more money than you and you don't like that?

Nope ... that's not it.

 

[SummerMorning]

i dunno if there's a catch or not... but don't go looking for one. i've seen too many people EXPECT something to be wrong and then some tiny, insignificant thing becomes a major issue.

btw... does she have a sister?

Uh ... no. Just a brother. He's bigger than me. That could be a catch ...

 

[garbage can]

Can you help me spot the catch?

where's the catch?!?

She's your Aunt Lizzie

 

[LadyJeanne]

You're not actually in love with her?

 

[SummerMorning]

You're not actually in love with her?

How could I tell?

 

[SummerMorning]

she's everything you want, but you're not ready for commitment?

What ... a person turns ready like a toaster? Just goes *ping* and they're ready?

 

[LadyJeanne]

How could I tell?

You wouldn't be asking about catches. You'd be feverishly making lists to convince her there aren't any catches. Or how to overcome them. Or that you're a catch.

 

[LadyJeanne]

What ... a person turns ready like a toaster? Just goes *ping* and they're ready?

Yes, around the time you turn 40, if not before then. When you realize you ain't gonna live forever (or you ain't gonna keep attracting the ladies like you do now).



Joking aside, yes. People do, over time, become ready or more open to a significant relationship where it's not all about ME ME ME, but about US. You know you're there when you want to give of yourself, rather than focusing on what you're getting.

 

[Guest]

 

[SummerMorning]

Once again Lady Jeanne, an answer that is right on target

Yes, but it'd still be nice if things went *ping*. Maybe with a little green light that starts to flash after the *ping*. Wouldn't it be nice? Like a relationship geiger counter?

 

[Ezzy]

The catch is: -


















You feel there must still be a catch!

 

[M's girl]

Is she is all that like you stated in your first post....? Then you are a dumb ass if you don't recognize you've got a good thing going there.

You also may recognize that you are never going to be able to measure up with her. If that's why you think there's a catch then you better start working on that or she'll be gone before you know it (and you know it!!)

Make sure you tell her this is how you feel about her and this is what you like so much about her.... and you're halfway there..... if that's where you want to be....

 

[SummerMorning]

Is she is all that like you stated in your first post....? Then you are a dumb ass if you don't recognize you've got a good thing going there.

You also may recognize that you are never going to be able to measure up with her. If that's why you think there's a catch then you better start working on that or she'll be gone before you know it (and you know it!!)

Make sure you tell her this is how you feel about her and this is what you like so much about her.... and you're halfway there..... if that's where you want to be....

:lol no such troubles.

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

Ask yourself why you are asking "What's the catch?" I am guessing that their is a trust issue here. I am by no means a professional I just know what I am like and if it were me asking it would be because I didn't trust enough for there not to be a catch.

Good luck, sounds like you have found a wonderful person to be with. Too bad you can't enjoy it fully.

Holden