Where art thou sanity?

[nain]

And thus, I have lied. Then again we all make little white lies and I'll tell you this much; upon entering the forum, I've lied about a few things? What I've lied about I will refrain from saying! Permission to email me and ask? You've got it.


My problem is universal in my universe (how convenient.) Funny how I type with better punctuation and grammar then those twice, three times my age, but ANYWAY. It's nice to meet you all, and for lack of a better username I chose nain.


For all of the language lingo people, it's japanese for nine which happens to be my favorite number, go figure. Anyway, here is my little issue that I would like to have answered if at all possible. If you can't answer it, please refrain from looking like a complete idiot and pretend it was RETORICAL. Do not take offense, this is for your own protection.



When do girls come up off the dry, old saps who are built with muscles but no brains? Approximately WHAT AGE, do they come to the realization that they need someone with even mild intellectual value and fair to above average appearance (moi)?



I'm one of the few and far between, one of the guys who wants to settle down in a long-term relationship, stay loyal, and respect the woman whom I'm with. Treat her right, and even put her concerns infront of mine. I read in one of the posts in this little section that guys just use girls as an object. The others do, well new guy in town over here, doesn't.



So get to know me, love me, like me, hate me (in which case you can go ask a wall if I care), because I'm going to be here until I get the answers that I need.




Nice meeting you all in advance, I should stop by sometime tomorrow and take a peek as to whether or not I have any responses. Being that my time is money, PLEASE REFRAIN FROM MAKING STUPID RESPONSES. This is a generalization, don't take it personally, but some people just type to type, I swear to god, (in the event of which one exists).


Anyway, I'd imagine that this post will somehow be editted, being that I have badluck and the administrators probably don't like me at all once they've got this far down.. lol, I'm blabbing.



So if anyone could answer my question I'd appreciate it, and I would appreciate it even MORE if you emailed me. CHS4687@aol.com. If you have America On-line, please do not hesitate to call them up, complain in an obnoxious manner, hang up, and proceed to Instant Message me! ;-D




Thank you for your time and have a wonderful day.







-nain

 

[cyndiesweet]

Well Nain,

I hope to refrain from sounding stupid in response to your question. Just a side note, you might scare some people off with that particular comment. When you ask a question you have to take the good with the bad. Even those of us with bad punctuation. Anywayyyy

Perhaps you are not looking in the right places. I don't think it has anything to do with age. I've been happily married since I was 19 years old (eleven years ago - for those of you following along). The women that you are "finding" are apparently the kinds of women who aren't looking for the same things you are. Look somewhere else. You might try looking for someone with similar interests/hobbies.

Try to ally yourself with happily married men - who have found intelligent wives. They may have intelligent friends.

Are you interested in having children someday? Most women who are looking to settle down - want someone who wants children someday too.(just a generalization)

Don't rule out the possibility that you might be just a wee bit critical. I myself happen to be a moderately intelligent woman, and if you spoke to me the way you sound in your post, I might run for the nearest muscle bound man with a kind word. (Even if it were the only word he knew.)

Perhaps your "don't waste my time" attitude has put off some of the intellectual women who may simply have wanted to pass the time with you. Solid long-lasting relationships often start with friendships, and often over nothing more than a morsel of common interest.

By the way - you too can have muscles (and brains.) It's good for your heart, and you might work off a little of that nervous energy you seem to have built up.

Hope this helps - take it or leave it. I've tried not to waste your time...

 

[XMistressMimiX]

gee I don't know...

Well, your profile indicates 'severe depression'. I'm certainly not without a sense of humor but if that's how you actually see yourself it could have a lot to do with your social life.

And yes, girls like muscles AND brains. I've loved guys who had one or the other. I've loved guys who had both. Both is preferable!

 

[AnotherSmartAss]

I have had many conversations with intelligent women, and they don't always know what to say or just how to say it - at first. Perhaps you are not listening to the smart ones long enough to know that they are, in fact, someone you would like to get to know better. You dismiss them as unworthy, to later find that they have sought the company of someone less complicated (and abbrasive) than you.

My suggestion - listen more - talk less.

Perhaps these muscle bound saps offer something you aren't. A conversation without criticism. Broad shoulders, a big heart and open EARS.

 

[XMistressMimiX]

Amen!

I have had many conversations with intelligent women, and they don't always know what to say or just how to say it - at first. Perhaps you are not listening to the smart ones long enough to know that they are, in fact, someone you would like to get to know better. You dismiss them as unworthy, to later find that they have sought the company of someone less complicated (and abbrasive) than you.

My suggestion - listen more - talk less.

Perhaps these muscle bound saps offer something you aren't. A conversation without criticism. Broad shoulders, a big heart and open EARS.

Amen to that! Intelligent people, both men and women, are much more likely to be unsure as to what to say in any number of circumstances. Having a large vocabulary and an active imagination does NOT make you socially graceful!

 

[nain]

In Response to "Where art thou Sanity?"

You've all helped immensely, but please refer to my comment in the preceeding post on AGE. I'm not neccessarily.....................



Anyway! I appreciate your help and I guess I'm going to have to go and "get pumped up."


I wonder where the key to a woman's heart is, any ideas?

 

[cyndiesweet]

"I'm not necessarily...."

Maybe my sleep deprived brain is just not functioning but what aren't you necessarily? Straight, gay, young, old ? Spell it out here.

The key to a womans heart depends on the woman. Each one is an individual. Single out one you like and likes you and find out the key to just her heart. Nothing is so heartwarming as a man who truly cares and wants to know about the inner you.You want women to notice your inner you or you wouldn't have posted your question in the first place.Sometimes you have to give before you receive.Fulfill someones elses needs and they will fulfill yours.And of course what goes around comes around.

 

[nain]

I'm, "YOUNG."

Very young, extremely young. HORRIFICALLY young. I'm an adult trapped inside a body that's less matured then it should be, I am quite sure. Yet, with the whole Internet and my punctual/grammatical perfections, I doubt anyone would notice.

 

[Hecate]

Re: I'm, "YOUNG."

Very young, extremely young. HORRIFICALLY young.

you are of legal age (18 plus) though I suppose? Sorry, but "extremely young" does make the hair rise on my neck! So in case the age on your ID card does fit more your body and not your mental age maybe you should just go and wait till boh have grown together...

To answer your question though - try your luck with women in their middle to late twenties and onward - more likely to find appreciation for intelligence and caring and less for muscle alone - but be ready to be judged with a lot higher standard that what you may be used by girls your own age.

And on a side note... don't be too impressed with punctuation related to age... many people never figure I wasn't American unless I told them - and guess what, English isn't my first language and hey, a good spell checker and thesaurus prog. does miracles. It is more important WHAT you have to say and less how "right" you say it.

Advise from an elderly Lady.

 

[nain]

Eighteen? Ha!

I'll get to that age somewhere down the road. Am I scaring you because I'm just as smart as these adults if not smarter? Smarter then the guys who edit these message boards and the people who bought www.literotica.com?


I just want some advice, here. These little girls are agitating.

 

[XMistressMimiX]

age?

Hmmm...don't you have to be 18 to be on this site in the first place?!?

 

[nain]

Refer.

Refer to my first post, "I lied again." it began, I believe. And what's so wrong with my age? WHERE ART THOU SANITY???

 

[AnotherSmartAss]

WHERE ART THOU HONESTY???

Laws are established to protect children like yourself from getting in way over your head, and quite possibly in a great deal of trouble.

Yes, these laws apply to you... and I did notice that you were not who you pretended to be. Not from your pondering of the nature of women. (That mystery has gone unsolved for as long as time has been recorded, and probably will remain so.) But rather from your immature arrogance.

I believe your exact words were, "I'm just as smart as these adults if not smarter? Smarter then the guys who edit these message boards..."

I've got news for you sonny "punctual/grammatical perfections" means absolutely dick in the grand scheme of intelligence and wisdom.

If you were truly mature beyond your years you would have the wisdom to know when to look and listen rather than shoot your mouth off. It takes a truly arrogant ass to strut in front of an entire community of people whom you know absolutely NOTHING about, and spout off about your intellect and maturity.

At this point you would have an easier time convincing us of your immense penis size than your giant intellect.

On a lighter note, my best suggestions...

1. Hope that you aren't evicted from this site for your dishonesty (and arrogance).

2. If you are evicted I'm sure a mental giant like yourself will no doubt be back.

3. When you do come back... Read, listen and learn.

There are an awful lot of truly honest people browsing this site (and posting to it). Some doctors, some lawyers, and a lot of them WOMEN, and all of them bearing their souls and their inner secrets in the sanctity and anonymity of the internet. If you are truly mature, you will take what these brilliant people have to share, and learn from it. (Yes some of it is crap, but that's what the voting is for.)

Every one of us has something to teach, and every one of us has something to learn. I suggest you sit down and learn some more.

And, if someone posts a request for information on punctuation or grammar... by all means - speak up!

 

[XMistressMimiX]

AnotherSmartAss

I love you! Will you marry me?!?

All kidding aside...you just said word for word what I wanted to but wasn't even willing to bother with at this point! Well, said my wise friend!